If you want your child to learn self-control then don't use time out. Time outs are a way for you to control your child, does not teach self-control, and causes resentment, is shaming, and causes anger. Time outs are a form of punishment, not discipline.
Logical and natural consequence are the best forms of discipline. for example, if a child spills his milk, he cleans it. If a child hurts someone, the person does not want to play with them. If a child is throwing a tantrum, they get put into an area until they are ready to calm down. Taking away a toy if the child draws on the wall is not a logical consequences. Taking away a toy if the child throws it or is destructive with it is logical. Let the type of discipline fit the crime.
If a child is misbehaving and a logical or natural consequence cannot work, get to his level and say "I don't' like when you (explain what and why in very few words)" take them gently to and area away from you and say "When you are ready to (listen, behave...) then you can come back. This is not a time out because you are not setting a time limit (you controlling your son). Your son returns when he is ready to control his behavior. It may take several tries. You may have to return him to the selected area a few time or sit with him until he feels ready. Be patient and consistent. Good luck!
2006-06-08 08:51:14
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answered by marnonyahoo 6
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I have a three and four year old child. What I had to do at first was place them back in time-out and then take away their favorite toy as added punishment. I also spanked their hand to show them that they are going to sit down whether they like it or not. No snacks for a naughty child. You must establish authority.
2006-06-08 08:33:34
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answered by mooreleslie2004 1
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I've watched Nanny 911 quite a bit, and she just shows you to come down to there level, tell them why they are sitting in timeout, how long they have to sit there (which she does one minute for however old they are), then she sits them down and walks away. If they get up she just keeps putting them back, and the time starts all over again!
You just have to teach them! Practice makes perfect!
2006-06-08 08:33:04
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answered by maward4881 2
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wow i had a real battle with my son. he is so defiant he is 3 years old and oh my god he can really make you lose your patience. i would tell him to go for a time out then i would take him there. but he kept running away so i would keep on putting him back there. it was a battle but i have learned the hard way that you have to be consistent. one more piece of advice do not reward bad behaviour that is the worst thing to do.
2006-06-08 08:40:57
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answered by Anonymous
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This is probably gonna sound dumb/old fasion, but the 123 Method, Google it, It works! I have a 4 year old and a 9 year old..,both rotten and love to say NO! But the 123 Method..If used consistently should work, It did fast for them.
2006-06-08 08:40:46
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answered by dusti2526 1
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each and every little thing you do on a favourite foundation can coach him his fundamentals. you'll discover it extra effortless to coach him this way because at his age his interest span isn't lengthy and he received't favor to take a seat to take heed to extra then 2-3 minutes. Examples: Letters: Label products round your domicile like door, table, clock, etc. Then even as using this stuff like a door for instance say we are putting out the door. D-O-O-R even as pointing at each and each and every letter. Numbers: count number each and every little thing! even as strolling up the steps, foodstuff, balls, autos, etc. structure/ colorings: communicate about obvious shaped/ colored products (foodstuff consistently is reliable) like a ball or clock for a circle, bread slice for sq., apple for pink, banana for yellow. really use issues that he's accustomed to seeing on a favourite foundation or more effective than two times- 3 situations a week.
2016-11-14 08:59:48
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answered by ? 4
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I have found that time out in their room a lone seems to work better then being in a room with other people or kids in it.
2006-06-08 08:55:09
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answered by Miss. Kitty 3
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Put a chocolate or a candy then he will sit down!
2006-06-08 08:32:09
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answered by Anonymous
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tell him to sit the hell down
2006-06-09 11:21:49
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answered by Green Day 1
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