I recently met this really great guy and we hit it off. He is a little older than me and just moved back to the area. He is staying with his family until he finds a place near his job. I have met his family and they are really nice and always inviting me to stay since I live over an hour away. I have stay over - but in the mornings I feel a little weird about walking out of his room and his family being there. I do not want to appear to be a slut to his family, because I really like this guy and I never know if he is my "Mr. Prince Charming Happily Ever After". If he is, I don't want his family to know and remember me as an immoral tramp. He says that his family is very open minded and does not have those thoughts at all and they have never said anything to me or him as far as I know about it being weird to them too. Do I have reason to be worried or am I just being paranoid?
2006-06-08 08:23:41 · 36 answers · asked by Topaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I realized that I did not specify my age and that makes answering more difficult.... I am 23 and the guy is 26...... hope that helps....
2006-06-08 09:09:30 · update #1
I dunno but do they know you like to be spanked ?
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2006-06-08 08:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the ages and that has a lot to do with it. First, it appears that he has a very open relationship with his family. That makes me think he is a little too connected and maybe he needs to start thinking about getting his own place. Secondly and most importantly, it appears that while his family does not think you are a tramp, YOU DO on some level. So your guilt is a reflective device indicating you feel badly about it and you see it as immoral. Maybe you should deal with that. In other words, if you are fine with sleeping with him but not fine with his family knowing, are you really just saying you are comfortable with bahavior you yourself consider immoral? I think you should take the hit and travel home if YOU are having trouble being comfortable with your sleeping over.
2006-06-08 08:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by jimanywhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being paranoid. You also have a reason to worry. Just b/c he says that about his parents do not mean that they feel that way. I'm not sayin he is lying...I'm sayin it is best to hear it from the parents mouth instead of his. His parents may not mind you sleepin over but in the back of their mind do you think they have respect for you knowing that you are leaving their son's room early in the morning? I'm not saying that to make you feel bad but I'm just opening up some doors to the issue. Keep this in mind, parents perfer a person for their children who are respectful and intelligent. They do not perfer wild unruly people around their children. Seriously!!!!! How would you feel if you saw a teenage girl coming out of your son's room early in the morning? Would you handle it as if it was innocent or would you hit the roof???? Think about it. Don't label yourself as a tramp either and I understand you don't want them to see you as that but I'm sure they are thinking you are moving quite fast to just know someone. It is okay to show effection towards someone but I feel sleepin over is very extreme. I'm not accusing you of having sex with him or anything but I'm just sayin it is extreme to be sleepin over especially if he still lives with mom/dad. It would be different if he has a place of his own. Hang in there and don't beat up on yourself so hard!!!!!
2006-06-08 08:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your being paraniod but thats a good thing cause it shows your not a tramp and you want to make a good impression. if its weird for you then dont stay there. but if its just weird because u make it that way then get over it and spend the night with ure man. i guess it really depends on your age. do you have your own place that he can come stay over at or do u live at ure parents as well. Dont let yourself convince ureself that they feel weird cause im sure u would know they would never invite u to stay in the 1st place... so i guess just tell ureself that its ok with u if its ok with them and just dont take advantage of it!
2006-06-08 08:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by toolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes fine with it and your fine with it and the family's OK with it then don't worry about it as far as being considered immoral well your both 2 consenting adults and what you do together is your own business. if you really are concerned why don't you just ask his family how they feel about the situation. or stay on the couch or in a guest room.
2006-06-08 19:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're lucky! My boyfriend of 6 months lives over 2 hours away and his parents never let me spend the night! I hate driving that far at night time!
If you're that worried just don't sleep in the same bed as him. Or make him sleep out on the couch.
2006-06-08 08:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by so_hot_i_steam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is recent, I say take it a little slower. I made the mistake of spending the night. And it was almost the same situation. I became comfrotable and eventually got SO used to spending the night, it got harder and harder to actually stay home. Don't let yourself get too comfortable. In the long run your only hurting yourself.
2006-06-08 08:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they invited you to stay, then i wouldn't worry about it.
i had a similar experience and i used to feel weird too, but honestly, if YOU feel uncomfortable, then go home at night.
it's that simple.
you guys should be sharing the driving duty if you live an hour apart. sometimes he should hang at your place and vice versa. if you are always going over there, then it sounds like he may not be thinking enough about you.
just a thought since i was there myself....and he turned out to be a major jerk!
take care.
2006-06-08 08:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's ok. Just reading your question, I can tell you're not a slut. If you're half as sweet in person, and his parents are so cool, then I'm sure they completely understand.
If I were that parent, and I probably will be when my kids are older, then I'd find your concern, in a way, charming.
2006-06-08 08:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has this guy been staying with his family? If he has been living their for more than 6 months, there is something wrong with that picture. However, it is sometimes better to go with your feeling might be telling you something that's not right....
2006-06-08 08:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by ryou_4me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just being paranoid because i mean its not like he took you home on a drunken night out you met his parents and it seems like you hit it off. and his parents dont mind i mean come on they're asking you so its not like they can call you a slut or whatever because they asked. if you really like the guy just dont do anything stupid in front of his family and it should all be fine.
2006-06-08 08:30:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋