Do you think he lied to me....?

Question

this guy i'm dating with made me think he is a poor guy and has an unfavourable social condition. but this wasn't an issue for me and i continued dating him...
now he proposed me and also told me that he was very rich. i'm very confused about my feelings right now cuz i feel that i was lied....
should i get over that and accept his explanations that he wanted to make me fall in love with what he is not with what he gots?

Answer 1

If you start your life with him with a big lie, you will spend your life in serial lies. he must know your real feeling about his attitude and must make everything vary clear. he lied my dear.

Answer 2

Well lieing is not good and you have to figure out if there was other things he lied about, but the truth also is he was protecting himself as well. So you should consider that some girls would use him and want him for his money. Maybe this has happened to him before. If I were you I would sit down with him and tell him that you love him but it makes you feel bad that he lied to you. Ask him exactly why he did this. A lot of girls would marry any guy just for there money. You don't want to be lied to, but also try to remember his reasons and talk with him about it. Maybe even tell him that you don't want to get married right away you want time to get to know him some more, that way you can be sure he won't lie again! Good luck!

Answer 3

Well the fact that you carried on dating him when you knew he was poor and had this odd issue, shows that you did care about him. If hes told you hes rich, then maybe he was testing you to see your true motives, which you have obviously passed for him to ask you. Only marry the guy if you feel hes the one, not because of a money issue.

Answer 4

How did he make you think he was poor? By the way he dressed? The fact that he didn't have money on him? Did you assume he was poor. Maybe you were the one who wasn't honest by questioning him earlier. Poor guy tells you who he really is after he gets to know you and you are all assumptuious and think he's lying. Maybe you better think this through and let some time pass before you go see him again. Then, when you do see him, it will be that much sweeter.

Answer 5

He did lie to you. I can understand why, because he wanted to know your motives, but he should have been honest, or not commented on how much money he had and spent time getting to know you and find out what your ethics and views were. If it is the only lie he has told you, and you love each other, sit down together and discuss it, move on and agree no more lies, but have a longer engagement. If he lies a lot, he probably always will.

Answer 6

He wants you to love him for him, not his money. Its not that he wanted to lie to you and hurt you. He didn't want you stay with him for his money. Thats understandable. Being perfectly honest with yourself...wouldyou have thought any different of him if you knew he was rich? Maybe not much different, but I'm sure you would have mentioned it to your friends or expected something more of him. Thats the way most people are. I dated a guy who had alot of money and to be honest, I didn't like him that much, but I stuck around because I could get whateve I wanted from him and he always got me little gifts and stuff. Now, I'm married to a guy who has no money. He was worse off then I was and I'm pretty strapped for cash, so I' like you don't really care about money, but when its there, its a different story. Be happy. He wants to spend his life with you and you will be well off and able to give your future children all the things you want to, but most importantly, you love him too and your going to spend the rest of your lives together. Go ahead, you've got a wedding to plan!

Answer 7

Yes he did lie but with good reason ,he wanted tobe sure that it was him and not his money you fell in love with and you've proved that is true,hes probably been hurt before as in all honesty if the roles were reversed would you not be doubtful if it was you or your money,i think telling you a porky at the start and it not making a scrape of difference to you if hes rich or poor has proved your love for him ,GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

I understand you are pretty pissed. It is up to you to decide if you should remain in the relationship or not. He probably lied to you because he wasn't sure if you were a gold digger or not. I would probably pretend I'm average, but not poor. I can understand his reasoning for testing you, but it was also unfair to you.

Just talk to him about it and then you can determine if the lie is so great..it is reason to end the relationship. If you really like him and he promises not to lie again...and you trust him..the relationship may be worth keeping.

Answer 9

lying over something that big is wrong, but he did it for his own reasons. Make sure you get to know him all over again, there may be other things he hasn't told you. Trust in a relationship is of total importance. Perhaps he had been used in the past and needed to know you weren't a gold digger, he is obviously insecure. I'd take a step back if I were you.

Answer 10

Maybe your boyfriend had bad experience with other girls who wanted to date with him only because of his money (status..etc). He lied to you or better words, he put you on a test whether you will like who he is and not what he has. It wasn't ok from him to lie to you but he will never be sure that some girl will really love him. Try to see his persepctive. If you still like or love him, I see no reason not to be together.

Answer 11

I would normally not approve of lying, especially in the beginning of a relationship, but in this case I can completely understand. He wanted to be wanted for himself, not for his bank account. He did not lie to hurt or deceive you, but to keep himself from being used. Do you love him? If yes, then forgive him the lie (after all, you weren't really hurt by it) and concentrate on the wonderful life ahead of you with the man you love.