Am I wrong for getting angry with her? Why is she always suspicious when I have never given her a real reason to be angry. She even tells me Im a great guy, but "something" has to be wrong! WTF???
2006-06-08 07:27:24 · 27 answers · asked by big d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am excited about all the responses. I can HONESTLY say that I am one of the good guys. I am not into the strip club scenes, its against my beliefs. She ahs a hard time understanding that I am a man of my word. Thanks for the helps...guys and gals.
2006-06-08 07:49:38 · update #1
Well, first off, if you never gave her a reason to not trust you than you are in the clear with that matter which is a great thing. The only thing I can think of right now is that maybe and its a really good possibility that she has had bad experiences with relationships.
If by chance I am right than it will take some time. Depending on if you want to be that patient and understanding. Talk to her about what or why she is so untrusting towards you. Get her to open up to you but in a good way.
Try not to get upset with her just in case she has had messed up relationships. I know it's not fair for her to take her issues out on you for what happened in the past but if you care for her or even love her than you'll help her. Not saying you don't or haven't.
If it's meant to be it will be and you are not in the wrong for being bothered, frustrated or even mad.
Good luck to you!!!
2006-06-08 07:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you are suffering the consequences of those that came before you and weren't such great guys. i would try to fully understand the situation and why she feels the way she does, then i would calmly explain to her that you aren't that person and would never do that to her (she may roll her eyes but say it anyway) then you explain that it hurts you that she feels that you aren't trustworthy, that you were hoping she really believed that you are a good guy and that you would consider her trust a gift and take very good care of it....then make sure you do if she does find her way towards that. also start out small, don't say hey baby i'm going to vegas for 2 weeks with the boys to hang in strip clubs but don't worry trust me....when you find out what it is she is worried about and then go out (or whatever it is) call her a couple of times just to say you are thinking of her, be home when you say you are going to be home and eventually she'll figure out that you are a man of your word. also during this talk explain to her that you understand she has been wronged and hurt in the past and that you are willing to work with her on that but that you aren't willing to be treated in a way that you don't deserve, that you are better and have earned better than what she is giving you and you will help but you do expect her to get it under control.
2006-06-08 07:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, either you're lying to us, or your girl has her own private issues and is taking them out on you. Some people can't do things unless they picture everyone else doing it - that's how they rationalize their actions. Unfortunately for you, she seems like one of them and I'd worry she's doing the things she's accusing you of.
Trust is a big issue in a relationship, and without it painkillers for headaches becomes a big part of the relationship. Back off and tell her maybe you should just be friends if she can't seem to trust you and see where it goes. But be ready to carry it out and don't make it an empty threat.
Good luck.
2006-06-08 07:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by David 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has probably been hurt before by friends or guys or both, or has something tragic happened to her recently? If that happens enough, it will make a person have a victim mentality....you think that everyone is out to get you. Just try to talk to her about it and get her to open up to you.
2006-06-08 07:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by ka250 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is hiding something -or playing off and dont want u to be doing the same i was like that when i was playing then i realized its not worth it and they guy that says all women are crazy dont listen to him they put his mom in the nut house not yours..maybe she has low self esteem and u are the greatest guy she's been with but i know you will leave her if she continue to act this way and u need to tell her let your nuts breathe
2006-06-08 07:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by jcleann13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this a sign which shows that yes she really loves u. when a girl really loves a guy she keeps asking him Qs so that if she can she will help u 4 sure & next time dont get angry with her. ANGER IS INJEROUS 4 HEALTH!
2006-06-08 07:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by angle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone else screwed her over. It's just her protecting herself from the same HURT! Let her know you're NOT the other guys and she needs to trust and believe in you or it's not going to work!
2006-06-08 07:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was probaly hurt before by someone she dated. You know that saying "if it's too good to be true, then it is" that's how she is thinking. Talk to her don't get mad. The only way that you two are going to work is if you two sit down and talk.
2006-06-08 07:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by raynao2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is bothering you A LOT (you feel like your life is being over taken and you are not HAPPY)than you know what to do...maybe try talking to her first and see her actions from than on..also maybe she cares too much...
2006-06-08 07:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you..but i know she is never suspicious you, thats show you she loves you,BELIEVE ME.. true its disturbing..dont be angry with her.be cool man! why dont you tell her its disturbing you? better than having an argument then break up..u want your relationship to be like that? if u love her,you wont.
2006-06-08 07:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋