how do you soul search? im a young girl going through self eteem issues?

Question

my lifes a mess i need help. i need helpful answers so if youre an a##hole who wants to be smart i dont need you or your dumb remarks.

Answer 1

Well.... the easiest way to find yourself is to get away from everything you know. Because you're not 18, this is probably going to be impossible. But, you can try to do different things- try out for a different sports team, learn to play an instrument, volunteer at a women's shelters over the summer, join a book club, etc. See how you deal wiith these things. You will learn a lot about yourself- whether or not you enjoy these things, how you were able to cope if it was hard, etc. They will ultimately build up your self esteem, because you will start to realise how much strength you have, and who you are. You will become more comfortable with yourself because if something were to come up, you'd know how you'd react, and what you could do to help. You will learn to rely on yourself, and that is the best feeling there is. Good luck!!

Answer 2

Wow, you tell'em girl. I think the best way of soul searching is by asking yourself why. Like, why do I like this music, tv show, picture. What appeals to me about it. Or why did I say that to someone. What was my motive. What did I think it was going to accomplish. Could what I said reasonably accomplish that? Why do I want what I want, what does it make me feel? What need is it fulfilling. Just anytime you do something, wondering why you did it is a good way to find your soul, if you want to call it that.
And then you have to be honest with yourself about why you're doing that. Which is REALLY hard. But it's a good way to get self esteem, because you're more aware of who you are and what you're doing. And that makes it so you can defend your choices when people doubt you.
This is hard to do. It's alot of work. And it's painful when you find out something disappointing about yourself. Most people don't bother. So if you don't want to, that's pretty normal. I just thought I'd tell you on the off-chance that you would want to try it.

Answer 3

Are you involved in extra-curricular activities? Band, drama club, choir, art? Getting involved in a group will help you meet new friends and will give you a sense of accomplishment.

Don't put yourself down before you try either - don't say "Oh, I can't sing" and then give up. Every choir needs members who don't necessarily want to sing a solo. And, if you didn't want to act in a play you could still work on the set decoration or lighting or makeup or whatever else is needed.

Do you like guys and football? You ever notice that a lot of the folks on the sideline giving water to the players in college football are GIRLS?!? Coaches are always looking for managers to help out.

Bottom line, don't let yourself fall into the trap of self-doubt. There is only one you in this world and you need to love her.

Answer 4

Low self esteem is very common among young people, specially under 20 in general. If it really makes you feel very unhappy, like paralyzed, you should seek psychological support. But first discuss this with some close relative. It all depends on the circumstances surrounding you.
You will get over this, believe me you will. Just be patient.

Answer 5

Check out (http://www.reducingstress.net ) there is a lot of great content, information articles, expert advice and links on the subject there.

Answer 6

Go to God. Ask Him for guidence. Consider attending a Church - you will find a strong community support base there.

Answer 7

a counselar sounds quite good starting a diary (not a dairy :) ) and talking to someone like a close friends your friends gardians hope it all works out :)

Answer 8

Try this web address... www.egobooster.com . Hope this helps! Don't forget that you are wonderful, okay?