Another break-up question?

Question

I met this guy online 6 months ago and we've been together ever since. We talk on the phone but we've never met. He didn't have a picture on his page ( I didn't either. I still don't!) and a couple weeks ago he put his picture on and it wasn't what I expected.
All my friends are telling me to break up with him. I kinda want to, but I like his personality too much. And I know it's kinda shallow to dump someone because of looks.
I'm stuck between what I want and what I know is right...or what I think is right.
What should I do?

Answer 1

If you arent into him physically, then you arent being fair to him. He thinks you like him, but you really dont. Not being shallow or anything, but you must have some chemistry. let him know the truth. He has a right to be with someone who really wants him

Answer 2

You know what,when i read that you think that it is shallow to dump someone because of his looks,the first thought that came into my mind is that you are a great person.Alot of these great people with heart of gold get corrupted because of their friends and in the end these friends of theirs will not be there when you stand to lose.Girl,if these friends are really yours truly,they will know that you truly like this guy not because of his looks but of what is inside him so they,as your friends,should encourage the relationship because this guy likes you too for what is inside you and not for your looks and assets.Don't get stuck between what you want and and what you know is right or what you think is right.Go with your heart,not with your brains.Make the right choice.Who knows this guy may be Mr Right?If he is not,cherish the good moments you share with him and not the bad.You can even come out of this a new bestfriend.Who knows?So stop listening to your friends and give yourself a chance to hear yourself shout the best decision from your heart.

Answer 3

well in my opinion if it is only an online relationship where the two of you have never met before.... then technically you cant really say that you are a couple or that you are dating.... to do that you have to be able to be with each other..... however..... you like him because of his personallity... you like him because you got to know him from the inside out..... not the outside in. in a way i like the whole idea of meeting ppl online and talking with them. most of them probably wouldnt give you the time of day if they knew what you look like.. i mean.... the world is a shallow place anymore.... but since this guy has not seen your picture either.... if you want to end it... find a very horrible picture of someone.. even if you have to find it online and send it to him saying it is you. hopefully with that he will stop talking to you... if not then he is a very genuine person and i would keep talking to him.. good luck

Answer 4

Just think, you've gotten to know this person, their true self, without beind clouded by what they look like. So their picture wasn't 'what you expected.' This happens quite often in online dating I'm afraid. But you can like someone regardless of how they look. What if you get to know each other more and more, and perhaps meet, and you find yourself attracted because you know the inside of the person so well? I've had that happen before. I wasn't remotely attracted to someone to begin with, but as I got to know them, the inside shone through to the outside.

Don't judge a book by it's cover. If this guy didn't deliberately deceive you...why not continue the friendship? He hasn't seen your picture...maybe YOU'RE not what he expects either.

:) Good luck.

Answer 5

Don't worry about what your friends think. If they're any kind of friend at all, they will accept you no matter who you date. I totally think it's shallow to even consider leaving someone you're happy with to be socially accepted by your "friends." If you're happy with this guy, although it's nothing more serious than phone and e-mail right now, continue your relationship. Nobody knows how to make you happy better than yourself, so don't allow your friends to try to take that away from you. If the shoe was on the other foot, would you accept your friends' decisions no matter what?

Think about it...

Answer 6

If you can, meet him in person. Give the guy half a chance! Even if you think looks are everything then think about these possibilities:
1. The picture could be outdated
or
2. It could just be a bad picture. We all have pictures that make us look bad.

Answer 7

Gurl it is not all about the looks if u like is personality then stay with him, dont break up with him just because yo friends tell u to are just because he aint great looking just stay with him for a while okay plz dont break his heart hey if u want to write me sometime and ask me any other question just write me [e-mail]

Answer 8

Honey looks are everything. (but it does help) You juest need to decide what is more important to you. His looks or how he treats you. There are alot of good looking men out there that are dogs. But in my experience the nice looking ones are the ones that treat you right. Follow your heart. Good luck.

Answer 9

well, if you have never met him, you really are not "together", I mean I am sure you enjoy the conversation, but do you honestly consider yourself unavailable now and him as your man?
I say just stop talking to him, he will eventually fade away,
good luck

Answer 10

Dump him. You have to be honest with yourself. Yes, personality is great, but we need to be attracted to our mates. Or, you can just make a transition to just a friendship type relationship.