I've been seeing this guy now for quite some time now and when I met him, he told me he had a daughter(I love kids) he told me that we were going to be together. One day after sex while he sleeping, I went through his phone and discovered two nude pictures of a girl that I knew (he didn't know that) in a position as if they had just had sex doggy style. When I confronted him he denied knowing the girl that I knew and told me it was somone different. After a while I forgave him but this past Monday, I spotted his car at the girl's house that I knew. There he confessed that the son she has (I knew she had a son) was also his son. Both of his children are 2yrs old with 2 different moms. I'm so hurt because we were supposed to be a family together (I'm not saying we can't be a family with his kids but he told me that we could have children and now all of a sudden he doesn't want anymore. I had an abortion 2 months ago cuz he said we couldn't afford it was the worst thing I ever did.
2006-06-08 06:48:34 · 19 answers · asked by career_girl101 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
what should you do.....dump him immediately.
If he cannot be truthful about his children, do you honestly think he is being truthful about anything?
2006-06-08 06:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by Plain_Common_Sense 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you were wrong to abort that baby. Children aren't just THINGS that you throw of and kill if you think you can't afford them.! But what's done is done and no matter how bad you want to, you can't change that. If you don't think you can trust that man then leave him alone. If there is not trust, there's no relationship. But if you think you can, then try to make it work. But don't throw it in his face every time y'all have an argument. LET IT GO. It's going to be hard! If you make it work you will have to be apart of his kids life. Your "daddy's girlfriend". That might mean seeing their mothers sometimes. Even if you don't like their mothers don't talk bad about them in front or around the kids. GOD BLESS!
2006-06-08 07:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by GabbiGurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This whole thing seems very bad, you have to be very carefull with this guy, it doesn't seem he is good for you, by now he has lead you to take an important decision for the wrong reasons.
What i would tell you is that you have to think very carefull about this, you have to take care of your self, love your self, and think for your self.
This relation migth even be dangerours for you, get all the help you need with the friends who really cares for you, with your family, you cannot go trougth this alone, really.
You have to find someone to trust, and to help yousee the things as they really are.
But the important thing is that you have to love you, and do what is best ONLY FOR YOU.
2006-06-08 07:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Popocatepetl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a total looser!!!! Dump him! Sound like the only thing hes good for is lying and making babies. A relationship is based on trust makes you wonder what else he has lied to you about! And if that girl was just his babys mom why would he have those kind of pics on his phone. I know my husband dont have pics on his phone of his first babys mom. Sounds like he needs to use some protection too. What a creep
2006-06-08 06:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by danielle s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a hell of a guy to me.
Get rid of the bum
Once a liar ..........
Always a liar.
And a cheat
And a guy having kids with two different women..
And a creep for letting you have an abortion because he couldnt afford anymore kids.
What a piece of crap.
2006-06-08 06:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by snakeman11426 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be unhappy for a while untill you find someone new, but compare this to being unhappy with him. You are bound to find out more unsavory things about him. He lied about his children and will lie about other things. You should cut all ties with him. Try to get over your emotions envolved with the abortion and move on. Find someone else.
2006-06-08 06:56:41 · answer #6 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, your story makes me sad
you should always trust your insticts when it comes to a realtionship
if you feel like he is being dishonest with you he probably is.
and if you regret this abortion (and he doesnt) than that can make the realtionship tainted
tell him how you feel
or talk to the girl that you know
and find out her side of the story, maybe some truth can be exposed
good luck!
2006-06-08 06:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by mramirez1283 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need a guy like that you should leave him and if you can't afford a baby then you should use something to pervent it from happening again it is not fair to the baby. But i am very sorry to hear about your situation. Good luck to you and i wish you the best.
2006-06-08 07:12:52 · answer #8 · answered by tanyat_1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him now. In my opinion any boy that will lie about having kids or how many he has is a low down dirty dog. That is just wrong. You can do better.
2006-06-08 07:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him....he's already got two kids from two different women...thats not a good sign. and the fact that he had u get an abortion is just disgusting....leave before u get pregnant again.
2006-06-08 06:57:09 · answer #10 · answered by gaigesmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never understand why you ladies are so silly. anyways now when you are already in a relationship and have had sex also , "don't throw yourself completely on him ,i will suggest u to leave that man and if you can't then atleast take every step securely, always keep options for yourself . i think he's not worth believing. so please apply mind don't be emotional and sentimental. thanks.
2006-06-08 07:02:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋