Im trying to get back with my ex, we have been apart for 2 months, things were getting better but they are not that good again.. in school i studied with an old friend of mine and his women friend...i had both their phone numbers in my cell and when my girlfriend asked me who she was i lied to her until i told her the truth. It was stupid, the girl wasnt even a friend, we studied 4 times together before our test and me one time alone with her just to view a test she had one time when my friend was not there, all this was before our test in the college library....how can i get her back when she doesnt trust me?.. she told me she felt sorry for me thats why she gave me a chance to be her boyfriend.... we were together for a year and 5 months.. she always told me she loved me and we were always together... what can i do? do you think she really meant it about feeling sorry for me? she thinks i cheated on her, i never did..she says even if i didnt, that what i did is bad enough...
2006-06-08 06:30:07 · 8 answers · asked by Josh B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
firstly, it wasn great of u to lie, u shud be honest with her at ALL times, especially since you love her. your relationship should be based on trust.... secondly, i do not think she meant that she only felt sorry for you, because as you said you went out with her for a year and 5 months, and thats a long time to be feelin sorry for someone, there were definately feelings involved! i belive she might have acted that way and said the things she said because she was hurting inside and she did not want to look weak in front of you and she wanted you to feel bad or guilty. be honest with her, tell her EVERYTHING, the only reason why she said even if you didnt cheat on her, what u did was bad enough is because u left her out of your life, what was the harm in tellin her "baby i am studyin with a friend and his women friend", she feels like u could not trust her! do not worry though all you should do is talk to her, tell her how much you love her and will do anything for her! do small things to make her realise that you still want her and only her.. rememba, its the small things that count! leave her a message on her answerin machine sayin those three words I LOVE YOU.. nothin more nothin less! do not stalk her though because it could turn into the case of the ex, and you do not want a restrainin order against her.. what you do want is to get close to her. but these things take time, give her a little space if she asks for it. she will realise that you are the one she wants! just rememba wen u get her back (which i hope you will) be honest with her from the very beginning k... make her feel like she is part of your life! i think thats what she wants... do not think of this as the end of the world, jus think of it as a communication breakdown and all you need to do is pick up the pieces slowly and carefully and before you know it the puzzle will be whole again. good luck
2006-06-08 06:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by badgirl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-06 02:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think she really meant it.. You lied to her and that hurt her, so I believe she was just trying to do the same....
If you can get in touch with her, just ask her if she can give you some time to speak with her.... Be honest about everything and let her know that there was nothing going on with the girl, but studying.... Let her know, that you were afraid of telling her the truth, because you thought she would be upset....
I HOPE IT WORKS OUT! GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-08 06:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly think tha getting jealous of you study another girls notes is stupid but maybe tha's just me. first off tell her tha you understand if she thinks you are cheating but studying wit another girl is perfectly normal and you and her didn't do anything... and say you two do get back together invite her to the study session just to show her tha you can be trusted. you noe most girls do have a hard time to wit trust no matter how long you have been together. its amazing. so prove to her tha you can be trusted. and if she still won't take you back after tha then well she is not really the kinda girl you need right now. try to still be friends. good luck getting ur lady back.
2006-06-08 06:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by simply keshia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not worth it! Sure you may have lied, but if she was telling the truth when she said that she felt sorry for you, then she lied to you all the time by telling you that she loved you!
Move on, there are better girls out there....ones that wont play head games with you!
2006-06-08 06:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Seerah327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTLY YOU NEED TO STEP BACK, TURN AROUND, AND WALK AWAY, IF IT WAS MEANT TO BE SHE WILL COME BACK, IN THE MEAN TIME HAVE SOME FUN AND DO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE TO GET YOU THROUGH THIS BREAK UP
2006-06-08 06:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by ta2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
learn to let things and people go... there's a big world out there. she/he wasn't meant for you. that's all. you can't make someone be with you who doesn't want to be with you..good luck
2006-06-08 06:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Date all of her girlfriends and treat them real well.
2006-06-08 06:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋