2006-06-08 06:02:16 · 29 answers · asked by Selena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are together for 2 years. Even if I know he may uses me just for sex I can't stop loving him just like that. I don't know how to stop it and I don't want to hate him but it is hard to stop my feelings...
2006-06-08 22:10:51 · update #1
just think about this 4 asecond.
if he fell of a building 2 morro u would miss him rite.
there fore......
2006-06-15 07:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by hp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sending you lots of sympathy and good vibes. I know from personal experience how difficult that can be.
I think you know that this isn't really doing you any good. You very much deserve to be with someone who treats you well and who does not use you.
I would suggest some confidential counselling - if in UK this can sometimes be available through your doctor. Counselling can help you to work out why you are stuck in a relatyionship like this and it will give you support to move on.
If this is not possible, and you can't end it yet...start building up other areas of your life. Go out with friends more, go and see family. Join a club or evening class. Do some exercise (it will help your self esteem) If you already exercise, try something new, like a martial art or a dance class, whatever appeals to you.
You will end this relationship when you are ready, and in time, you will meet a lovley guy and you will be happy.
2006-06-21 22:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him it will be very hard to break away from him without ending up hating him. No girl deserves to be strung along and used for sex. There must be a man out there who will show you how love should be. And when you feel that love you will hate him for every minute you have wasted on him and you will feel goo about it.
2006-06-15 11:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by Bettyboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already know that you are being used well then you are half way there. Do think that it is right for one person to use another ? Would you do it ?? If you do not mind being used well then stay with him. But, if you want to be treated like a human being and not just a doormat well then it is up to you.
Go out meet other people. When you are young you always think my god he is the only one for me. Well meeting other people will make you see that is not true.
There are so man single men and women out there. Respect yourself get out and meet someone that will treat you the way you should be treated.
2006-06-20 07:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by no baggage 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think he is using you just for sex? If you truly think this then you need to start respecting yourself. Why do you want a man who treats you so badly. Go out with some great friends and find someone else who will give you the respect that you truly deserve.
2006-06-17 08:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by flymetothemoon279 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away and make a new start with someone who is not just using you for sex, you can still care about him, just stop sleeping with him.
2006-06-18 12:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by i'm_a_goodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. Just start hating him if that is what you feel inclined to do - if you know he's not worthy of your love then there is no need to try and force yourself to think fondly of him or be civil to him. I hate the guy who did this to me and I am a much happier person for it!
2006-06-22 01:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mountaineer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know he's only using u for sex. he's USING U!!!
what? u think u're some kind of a... THING? not some pretty gurl?
well i think u need to change the way u'r thinking.
maybe he's da guy u love or whatever... but think of it this way. if u love him, someday u'll want a marriage right?
guys like this are not responsible. he won't wanna marry u, especially having a baby! he'll leave u, FOR SURE... so talk to him bout this, if he's still not getting it, leave him
2006-06-17 06:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by mode_pucchi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become friends i mean when u love someone y stop loving him & if u just want to be friends hang out as friend no need 2 hate!
2006-06-08 06:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to say the answer from bettyboo i think is about right.
you should not allow yourself to be used for sex unless that is what you want,uncomplicated sex,but obviously you want more.
sometimes the concept and idea of been in love is actually harder to break free from than any actuall person.
ideas of failure,self doubt,worthlisness and i will be alone tend to cause us to panick,and to be fare hate is ok if you channel it into something posotive
mike
listener06y@yahoo.co.uk
2006-06-15 21:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by listener06y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. Suspect you are trying to finish things and are not sure how? Or you have to? Anger and hurt are normal...even if you really feel you hate him, time is a grat healer and that will go away. Good luck.
2006-06-08 06:17:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋