why am i now scared to get married when 5 years ago i could have done it in a heart beat?

Answer 1

Perhaps five years ago your experience of living with parents was still fresh in your mind. And sharing your life with another person looked ok to you.

But now you are used to the freedom of living alone. And perhaps having to share your life with a man and loose some of your freedom and independence is what scares you now.

People are creatures of habit. And once you get used to a certain lifestyle, then it becomes hard to change and do something different.

Answer 2

A lot can happen in five years. You've probably grown a lot since then and are seeing things a different way. When you wait 5 years to get married anticipation builds up and issues come up that you didn't know were there. You've had a lot of time to think about things and now you're nervous. It's natural because marriage is a huge step.

Answer 3

Are you getting married soon? Marriage is a big step and it is scary to know that this will be the person you will spend the rest of your life with. If you are in the process of planning then it's proabably because you have had time to think about it, and it seems so real. If you are not in the planning stage then it's probably because you have grown up and are realizing how scary it is. Or maybe because you haven't found the one (don't know if you are with somebody)

Answer 4

The more mature you are the more you realize that marriage is more than infatuation. I guess I was anxious at 25 years of age when I got married........kept saying "when we get married" or "if we get married". Just about drove my (now wife of 32 years) future bride nuts!

Try to find your best friend. Do not think you can change someone; if you see signs of being unhappy prior to marriage, it is likely the marriage will wind up in divorce. Do not feel rushed! My sons are 30 and 26 and marriage is not even a blimp on their radar......neither has met the right one.

If you believe in God, ask Him to lead you to the right person.

Answer 5

Because you have probably changed in five years. Your life and goals are different. And you are probably at a phase where even though you think you might have the right one you are not positive.
You need to be positive in order to get married and maturity has taught you that.

Answer 6

ewll 5 years ago u were very unmature and probably didnt think of ure future life. now ure either REALLY in love with them, ure afraid of comitment, u have cold feet, thinking about how marrying one guy can affect ure life, or u just are afraid of wats coming next.

take some time and think about it. bring him/her to ure parents and let them judge him. and see if he is right for u. if they say we absolutly HATE everything about him. then dump him. ure parents are usually right.

but if they sorta like him then wait and see wat happens.
if they think hes a good guy well then thats great! just stay calm. if theres something u dont like about that guy and its a HUGE PROBLEM then hes probably not the right one. but if its little it COULD turn big too.

if u think its right to marry then GO FOR IT! im so happy for u!

Answer 7

The fear of the unknown. It will be okay. Just make sure it's who you really want to be with. No need to jump into something if you're not 100% sure. But, relax, if you really want to, the butterflies and the jittery feelings will go away. You're probably just extremely excited and overwhelmed.

Answer 8

Maybe because your older and you know better. Maybe in your heart you know the person your going to marry is not the right person.

Answer 9

because you are now mature enough to realize what an enormous life change it is.

FYI - I'm with you on that... The idea of it scares the s*** out of me.

Answer 10

Because you now understand what it really means - it's not a wedding, it's not like having a boyfriend; it's a marriage and it's supposed to be forever.