..she's getting married to some guy that she only marginally likes!
I'm so angry at her....she says it's because she is 34 years old and she's going to lose the opportunity to marry because she is in her 30's.
What do you think? DO you agree? Even if you agree with her, tell me WHY? Cause I can't think of a reason to marry your complete OPPOSITE just because you want to have a party in a white dress......
2006-06-08 05:21:44 · 23 answers · asked by FavoredbyU 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am 36 and am surrounded by friends who think the same way....they just have to get married and have kids. Here's a sad story, my best friend was determined to get married and have children before she was 40. In September, just before her 39 birthday, she announced that she was pregnant, only with the guy 7 months. They got married in November, baby born in March and they are already having problems.
I say you shouldn't get married unless you are in love and are compatible. Too many people get married have kids and are divorced before they are together 5 years. It's not worth the heartache!!
2006-06-08 05:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anistasia 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
She is being silly but in the end it is her life and if she wants to make this monumental mistake then on her head be it. The only thing you can do is talk to her when the dust has settled and try to reason with her. If she will not listen then let her know you will always love her as a friend and will support her but make it clear that you think this is a mistake that she could live to regret. Why get married to someone she only just likes? That will not last, it is also not fair on the guy either, everyone deserves to be married to someone that loves them, he will feel rejected and hurt when it all goes wrong.
2006-06-08 05:28:13 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's an excuse to marry just anyone because you're in your 30's. All you can really do is be her friend and support her. If she asks for your advice then say something. Talk it through, but don't be judgemental or critical. She's making a huge decision and needs you right now. If you do get a chance to talk it through, maybe she will see things differently and will break it off. Just be her friend. If she makes the mistake then she'll learn. All you can do is be there and try and warn her if you see any signs that this guy is wrong for her.
2006-06-08 07:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is a very big decision. It shoul dnot be taken lightly. I agree with you that she is making a mistake but it is her life and she is the one who has to live with it. All I can tell you is to be there for her no matter what. You can tell her that you are only worried about her getting hurt in the end but that if she really wants to get married then that is her choice. By being there for her you are doing the best thing you can. If it ends badly or if it just ends she is going to need you for support and under no circumstances should you tell her," I told you so." All that will do is hurt her even more.
2006-06-08 05:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Shea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, a lot of people make this same decision. The best thing you can do is support her, and perhaps meet the guy so you can get a feel for what he is like. I don't agree with marrying someone you don't truly love and care about, but the decision is hers and hers only to make. Some people only care about the wedding day - they want to be able to say they had one and go all out for it. I wish her luck and I wish you the compassion to deal with her during this time...
2006-06-08 07:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose she's insecure with the thought of "being alone forever"
but I'm like you, I don't get why you would compromise the right relationship just to get married.
Some people have a much harder time not being in a relationship and she's probably convinced herself that it's now or never... which I'm sure isn't the case!
If you can talk to her without a hint of judgement, you may be able to help her see that getting married for the wrong reasons is a bad idea.
You have to kiss a lot of frogs!
2006-06-08 05:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so hard to watch someone you care about make a HUGH mistake, but most people have to learn the hard way. Of course she is wrong to get married just because of her age, but there is really nothing you can do about it. Just be her friend, give her your opinion IF SHE ASKS FOR IT, and when the inevitable happens, resist the urge to say "I told you so". That is a true friend.
2006-06-08 07:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People forget that its about the marriage and the committment that two people make wholeheartedly no matter what. She shouldn't marry this guy. Be a true best friend and inform her of what she's doing. It's not about the ceremony, white dress, and reception. It's about the love and respect she has for herself and this guy. And from what it sounds like....she doesn't love or respect him.
2006-06-08 06:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by tweety3602 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she will be making a mistake if she marries him and this will definately end in divorce. Tell her you will throw her a party if that will make her feel better. Let her know that she doesn't have to be married, not everybody gets married.
2006-06-08 05:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to settle because she is affaird of not finding someone she loves. She will get her wish of getting married but soon after she will be unhappy, angry, and not her normal self. I was lucky and find my wife when I was young, we love each other and would not want to be with out each other but we have our disagreement even still. Being married is a life long compromise with someone you love. Me and my wife dated for 13 years and have been married for 9 years. Tell her to wait........
2006-06-08 05:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by mcgreyhair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋