5 days ago i posted a question saying that my boyfriend was telling me he loves me and would love to marry me (after 5-6 months of dating). well today is a different bowl of wax, as since my boyfriend professed his love to me i cant say it back ... he told me that this is what he used to do to his previous girlfriends. when they told him they loved him he would not have the answer and either say stupid **** like thank u or oh. well thats nice.... i said nothing. his love profession has hit me like a train. i could not say it back.yesterday, we were laying in bed and he asked me again if i loved him or not or just loved the physical love. and again i could not say it. why, i feel it, its all in my heart and i couldnt say it.... i felt well, there is no words, and them my b/f said that since he has hurt people before he wants to give me space to figure my feelings.and we slept in separate beds.i am heart broken, why cant i just say it when i feel it so deeply?
2006-06-08 05:20:20 · 19 answers · asked by montana_leather_thong 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that maybe you scared to say it. You don't want to let your guard down and get hurt. Whatever the case may be if you do love him you should tell him no matter how hard it is for you. Love is not something you want to let slip through your fingers because you couldn't tell him how you really feel. How badly would you be hurt if he left you? Not showing him the proper love he deserves may push him away or make him want more out of the relationship that you aren't will to give to him. I f you love him don't let him go, it will be way harder to let him go that to tell him how you really feel.
2006-06-08 05:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen you have only known him for 5-6 months. I think him saying he loves you already is a rush. Maybe your feeling aren't the same. That would be OK. 5-6 months is not a long time. He shouldn't pressure you either if he wants the truth.Don't say it unless you mean it.
2006-06-08 12:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by wishorstish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that he is very needy if he keeps putting you in that situation if you didnt say it back the first time your smart no one should be rushed into that because this my friend is a huge step take your time talk to him about how you feel honestly and say it clearly so their are no misconceptions this way both of you can feel comfortable about where you both stand.When your ready youll know ,if you see he is conciderate in how you feel rushed and it doesnt seem like he is just waiting for you to say those three words then time doesnt matter have fun be careful use protection because some guys try to trap girls with a pregnancy set goals for yourself and stick to them.
2006-06-08 12:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by bookworm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls believe that once they say those words to a guy, he's gotten what he wants, and will go on to make someone else love him. Others are just plain embarrassed about saying them. You said that he said it so suddenly--well, then he should understand that you need some time for it to sink in. Good luck. :)
2006-06-08 12:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't say it then you truely deep down dont love him!...You may think you do because he is the only one you are with now, but take some space and see if you feel the same when you aren't with him....Maybe you just think you love him because he says it... If you don't love him dont just say it, remember ALWAYS say it because you mean it!
2006-06-08 12:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by tashas33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him as a person and also of course the sex, but you may not be "IN LOVE" with him...
But don't feel bad, do not say it unless you really mean it. If you say it because you feel like you have to, how would you feel if he asks you to marry him??
2006-06-08 12:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by Boricua Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like to me your b/f is using his proefessed to you as a mind game due to his previous statement to you he used to do this to previous g/f's so he wouldn't have to say stupid **** like thank you if he feels that way i don't honestly hun feels he loves you for you he is only playing a mind game and perhaps the reason why you can't say i love you back to him is you know deep in your heart he dont mean it and is playing a game with you- you deserve someone who can love you for you for who and what you are and isn't going to hold back telling you period
2006-06-08 12:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by precious52801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa! that is hard.. but i felt the same way at one point and i just told him that i cared for him but if he does say that he loves you then he should wait and not push you into saying it back. He should respect how you feel. and be patient and you will tell him on your own time..good luck
2006-06-08 12:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by babysonia23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need more time. You don't feel comfortable enough to say it back. For your case, it might take a year or so to get adjusted to your feeling for someone.
2006-06-08 12:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by paper dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:) oh my.........difficult question.:) u just not face it. it happens when in new relationship.let it blossom.it will come out naturally. do not say when u dont mean which is what u doing the best. i love u may be difficult but just " LOVE you" is not that much difficult. try it.:)
2006-06-08 12:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by enlighten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋