Why do men enjoy hurting women?

Question

Why do men lie to women, thinking that they are telling them what they wan't to hear, then never follow through with action?

And please no responses about how women are bad, yada yada yada..because this is something I've noticed in my personal relationships and other relationships of friends..Men seem to promise the world, however, they hardly follow through.

Answer 1

It is because most men believe that they can only get with a girl if they lie to her. They are insecure about who they are so they simply tell the girl what they think the girl wants to here instead of being honest with them. The can't follow through with action because that isn't who the really are. It is much easier for a man to talk a good game than for him to alter his actions to match. Unfortunately a lot of women don't wait to make sure the actions match the words and end up getting hurt.

Answer 2

That's a really tough question Shannon - let me start at the beginning with some women also hurt men (i know you didn't want to hear it but it's true) - yes i guess men perhaps do it more often, that is a valid point. why? i guess anything from they want to get you into their bed, to they run away once it gets too much, to some are just a**holes. when you say hurt do you mean date you and then leave you or hurt you mentally and physically when you are in the relationship, those are two different things.
i guess this is one of these "meaning of life" questions to which there doesn't seem to be a straight answer.
if i may, looking at your 360 page you look very very pretty and i would like to believe you are a sweet and nice girl, if i'm wrong, sorry. if i'm right, i hope from the bottom of my heart that you find the right guy for you! there are some really decent ones out there who would do anything for the love of their life

Answer 3

It's all swings and roundabouts. Take it as a learning process, in time you'll learn like everybody else men can be dogs, but every dog can be trained ...well to a curtain degree. If you give a man everything he wants....and you know what I'm talking about then there's no challenge in it, hand in hand it comes with no respect. Make a man prove him self to you (there's no rush) There are good men out there with the same problem .... Don't expect anything from any man until he's totally proven himself to you...how long is that? Well I'll leave that up to you ....Good luck!

Answer 4

Without even knowing it you have revealed much MORE about yourself and your friends than you have about men. Certainly not all men fit into your mold--but apparently YOU and your friends seem to attract the kind of guys who promise a lot of things and never seem to produce. Some girls are convinced that ALL guys only want them for sex--that is because those girls use sex to attract men. Men who aren't just looking for sex don't take the bait those girls offer, therefore those girls never get to meet higher-quality guys and as a result their world is filled with guys who DO only want sex.

Apparently, you seem to be attracted to big-talking guys who are actually shallow and lacking in character. So in YOUR world those are the only guys you seem to encounter. Perhaps if you elevate your standards and stop falling for every line a guy feeds you will find that there are sincere, honest, and forthright men out there as well.


Good luck.

Answer 5

I am a person who sometime wonder why people hurt each other period. I feel as though people use each other to get what they want rather that working together to please each other make the other happy as well as yourself. Majority of men just don't care honey! But, you will find one or maybe two who would love to give their all to you. They are out there just have to put it all in Gods hands. Remember, to respect everyone regardless of your situation and you will be rewarded.

Just remember to look out for number one- All men are not like that you have some who are looking for the right woman to trust, love, respect, and spoil you. Thats only if he knows you all for him your not out looking for a second lover and you feel that he satisfys you completely. then you have men out here that just wants to lie to you just to get in your pants.

Just know how to read the signs And that a real man will do instead of say.

Answer 6

well shannon, men lying to women, in my opinion is just the flip-side of the coin. i am sure that women have been lying to men a lot longer than men have to women. there are not that many single women who have had their bridges burned by a guy, but if you notice, men are the ones who get burned more often. whether we are genetically predisposed to getting lied to, i don't know, but now the field is even. men now lie to women, whether by choice or a natural reaction.

Answer 7

They want to attain something (we all know what that is)
If they have to lie to get it, then its a cheap price to pay to get what they want.

They don't necessarily WANT to hurt us, they are just being selfish. And selfish people chase after THEIR OWN desire--to the exclusion of anyone else's feeling.

Answer 8

i think it all hurts, it seems that we only want to see,hear what we only want to see, hear and that our feelings of trust and hurt are symbios but the most painful is to love someone that is unable to or can't love you back. believe in you first then you can weed out those that don't.

Answer 9

i'm guessing your takling about emotional hurting and not physical abuse...in which case, its easier to talk the talk and not walk the walk. we tell women all this stuff so they like us, but when it comes down to actually doing it..it takes effort and its hard to do. sometimes we do it, most times we fail. and being a failure is hard too.

Answer 10

Because most women have only half mind and the rest thy are lost