I've been stuck pretty much planning the whole wedding by myself, if I ask my fiance to help me with anything, he either just doesn't do it or forgets, I've told him often how much I hate that, I really dont know whatelse to do at this point, I'm physically and emotionally drained between school, work and plannign this wedding and I really need him to take some of the weight off my shoulders. Some one please tell me what to do.
2006-06-08 04:57:51 · 15 answers · asked by sunstargoddess86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
That is a really tough question that has plagued women for countless generations. The best advice I have given friends and had it actually work, is to find out a way to convince them that is what they want to do. You will probably not get him to do all of the things, but he can definitely help lighten the load. The question to ask yourself is what is most important to him? For a lot of men, food is the answer. You can have him get you all the information on the possibilities on the caterers so you can just look it over and decide in just a few minutes.
Best of luck, and remember its only one day out of the thousands you will spend with him
2006-06-08 05:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by Brian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men don't want to be invovled because girls grow up and dream all their lives of the "perfect" wedding, and they don't want to mess something up for you. Start with him slowly, bring something home (a pattern or something) and tell him you love both of them equally and you can't decide and that you really want his opinion once he gives it to you tell him that is a great choice and use that. Get him involved that way, then ask him something a little more complex that may require him to call. Even if it is to set something up, tell him that you are not able to do that at the moment because you are really busy and would really appreciate his help. Make him feel important, and let him know how appreciative you are for his help. Tell him he needs to help because you are having a hard time between your busy schedule!! Good luck and Congratulations. Don't worry everything will work out for the best in the end!
2006-06-08 05:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it ibut you are going to have a tough battle on your hands. Men usually do not care about the details. You might noeed to just get some of your friends to help you out. Also I am not sure of your budget but you may also want to get a wedding consultant. They really make things go by so much easier, but they can be rather pricey. Hope your day is all you dream of.
2006-06-08 05:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by Shea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men don't concern themselves with details and planning of weddings. they think once they've done the asking and given you the ring, that they're set til they have to show up and say "I Do".
they are this way because: thats how women make it out to be.
they don't care about napkins or decorations or what time the wedding should be...if you want him involved with the planning, you have to give him things that interest him.
i'd say go with food and music. food is the best choice. my hubby had nothing to do with the wedding, until i delegated the food venue to him. he ended up choosing a very tasty resturant to cater and it kept him involved. i also had him help with the music.
keep it fun for him..and he'll be around.
good luck
2006-06-08 05:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by baidensmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry charlie that's the way it goes. if planning the wedding is putting too much strain on you then you should think about maybe postponing the wedding until you get done with school and have more time to focus. the groom's usually just want to show up. the wedding is the bride's show and most men just stay out of it. if you don't want to postpone it maybe your mother, future mother in law, aunt, female friend could help you.
2006-06-08 05:17:21 · answer #5 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to talk to him about it. I was very fortunate...my husband planned most of our wedding and loved every second of it. He even had a say in what wedding dresses he liked - we would go to the bookstore every weekend and flip through wedding books. The wedding was 9 months ago and I'm so grateful he was so interested in it. That's one of the reasons I love him so much!
2006-06-08 08:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's stuff like helping you choose colors or weed out guest lists, I doubt if you're going to get much help. If it's very specific stuff like "On you way here, stop at Office Depot and get a package of 3x5 inch lined index cards" then you'd better be asking yourself if you want to be stuck running all the household errands for the rest of your life.
2006-06-08 05:09:58 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. But men do not really care about planning a wedding. Ask your mom or his mom or your girlfriends
2006-06-08 05:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by Great Gifts 4 Everyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey... well in my past of planning anything the man usually just sits there and chills why the ladies go crazy. And yes you want to ring there heads but thats how the men are in our lifes. Sorry I cant tell you more but congrats and god bless you
2006-06-08 05:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by babysonia23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it's your gig. He wouldn't have a clue, and isn't really responsible for anything except the rehearsal dinner, so if you need help, ask your girlfriends or female members of your family. Don't expect any males to help.
2006-06-08 05:00:12 · answer #10 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋