Why do some women go for bad boys when they say they want a nice one?

Question

I am a mix and do OK getting dates but it seems like my jerk friends get laid a lot more than my nice friends. It seems like the opposite of what most girls say they want is rewarded. Is it fair to have a good time with a jerk and then try and strap a good guy to a plow?

Answer 1

ive been trying to figure that out myself. girls often said i was too nice. try being a jerk a little. see what happens.

Answer 2

Nice people get ran over, period.

Well I'm not on a mission to change anyone.
But as a rule:
Women don't like soft men. Women respond to qualities like power and strength. The 'bad boy' usually has an abundance of masculine energy, confidence and strength.

You're average 'nice guy' usually doesn't. He's shy. Unsure and almost timid. Turns me off...

I have a 'nice guy' friend. We were discussing his failed relationships with women. He asked me once: 'if I thought he were such a great catch why didn't I want him'. Honestly I didn't know what to tell him. But now I know what it is: It's not the niceness. It is the fact that he is a complete and utter pushover. He will do whatever I tell him to do!

I don't want an a**hole who treats me any kind of way but then again...I don't want a mindless yes-man for a mate either.

Answer 3

Circumstances my friend. Look at what you said. Your bad friends get laid more often, right? Because they're looking for bad girls. Your good friends don't want those kind of girls.
Your good friends are looking for nice girls who will appreciate them. And sadly, there aren't enough good guys or sweet girls in this world. Sorry. But if you search the Discovery Channel, you're not gonna find the Supranos.

Answer 4

Benjamin woman are crazy. Dont try to figure us out. Be who you are nice, honest, genuine all that stuff and the right one WILL come along. We dont really want a bad boy just everyone to think he is. A true measure of a man is the way he treats you when no one is looking.

Answer 5

Women want the good guy for a relationship but the bad boy in bed.

Answer 6

Well some girls want the bad boys because they know they can get laid. You don't want these girls. They will only bring you heart ache. find the girl that wants nothing to do with them and that's the girl for you...

Answer 7

awh it just the way it is. LOL but you would not want the girls yo boys have anyway they are sluts, hoe, what ever you want to call. And i belive that you might want better then that, cause if they can get laid that easy, you dont wont them around yo boys, you and yo boys might be getting some from the same girl,

Deborah

Answer 8

I'm not sure as to why that happens....but one don't worry about whose getting "laid" because a moment of pleasure can lead to a life time of consequences.....would it be worth it no! I think that a lot of women go after that bad boy type because that's what they are use to being around....and as you know some times that type of company leads to death!

Answer 9

Most chicks go for the bad guys because they want to be the one that meant enough to them to change them. They end up with the good ones in the long-run, though, because most of the bad ones can't be changed.

Answer 10

Be you. You may need to start dating older women. They appreciate a nice guy a lot more. Don't change who you are deep down for anyone. Trust me, it will pay off. When I meet someone, I always give them my worst. Because if you like me at my worst, your going to love me at my best. When i say worst, i don't mean be an ***. Just don't give it your all. Good luck.