I've never really talked to my dad. He is one of the best surgeons in our area, and we live in a wealthy suburb by the city. I know he has to save peoples lives. BUt what bout spending time with me? My 19th birthday was last month and my dad didnt even remember it, my mom was talking about it all the time purposely for him to remember but it never crossed his mind until now. He doesnt even know anything about me, its like i grew up with just my mom raising me...in all family vacation pictures its me, mom and younger brother. How can i be closer to my dad?
2006-06-08 04:12:48 · 16 answers · asked by classynikki1987 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
but he cant take a day of because hes a surgeon, theres always someone thats sick that needs a surgery. Hes always on call even on christmas.
2006-06-08 04:22:42 · update #1
Let your dad know how you are feeling. Even if he isn't receptive at least you know you tried to make the relationship stronger. If it is hard to tell him in person, try a letter. Good luck. Your dad doesn't know how lucky he is that you want a relationship with him.
2006-06-08 04:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, this is a tough one. So many parents get too wrapped up in their careers to even spend time with their children. Maybe he didn't have much of a relationship with his own father, so he doesn't deem it as important to develop one with his own kids. There are several things you can try... -ask him if he could set aside one day a month (at least) to have an evening to yourselves. -write him a letter and express to him how important it is to you that he reads it, then let him know how much it hurts to not even really know who he is, and how much you're interested in telling him all about you (since he doesn't know)
-page him like it's an emergency surgical call, and tell him the emergency is that you want to build a relationship with him and neither of you are getting any younger, so you'd like to start at his earliest convenience. -and tell him how much you love him and appreciate him for chosing to bring you into this life, but no job is so important that you neglect your family...especially not your children who have no choice but to depend on you.
Good luck!
2006-06-08 04:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its just hard for him to relate to you, he doesn't know what to say to you or how to start a conversation. I am sure that it isn't that he doesn't care about you. Maybe you should try telling him how you feel about the lack of relationship between you and him. Tell him how you feel and try to set aside a time for you two to have a father-daughter day out to get to know each other and your interests. I hope all works out well!
2006-06-08 04:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by pdanielleh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off by making meeting with him, even if it is 5 in the morning. tell him you would like to talk to him and you understand that he is wanted other places. i know people that are in the med. field and they make time for meeting. if you have to make the meeting at his work that way if he needs togo he is already there. bring him a lunch to work. try that honey good luck!
2006-06-08 04:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kelli A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become more creative when you try to get his attention. Think about it. Write him a note, or get a card make sure you don't write anything too long because it seem like he don't have time to really do to much. But don't give up, continue to care about your dad
2006-06-08 05:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your dad know that you understand his job is hectic and he doesn't have alot of time for you but you feel like he is choosing his job over you and you don't want to feel selfish. If my dad forgot my birthday I would be furious I can underatand where your coming from. good luck to you.
2006-06-08 06:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by arizonabrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one day when hes not a work sit him down and say "daddy i love you and i wont to spen time with you will you come and do something with me please i miss you its like your not around anymore i just want to talk to you fill you in on how my life has been sence i was born please dad i beg you spen some alone time with me ilove you with all my heart"
you lucky you have a dad i dont so try to talk to him and spend time with him before its to late, i never got thatchance and i hope i realy do hope you do get that chance.............bless you and your family
2006-06-08 04:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by ♥YOUR BABY GURL LUVS U♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he works for someone,.call his boss and ask if he can take a day off,. and plan a luncheon for the 2 of u,. just u and him,...and tell him exactly how u feel and how u want things to be,..
2006-06-08 04:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by cris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hand him a pen and paper and ask him to write down 10 things that he knows about you. and then talk to me about them.
then leave the room.
he will come to realize what he has missed.
it's an awakening of his busy mind... and i think you will see a different side to him.
2006-06-08 04:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by LifeSux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a dad kinda like dat he works all day and night if i wonna catch my dad B4 he goes to work i have to wake up at least 1:30 am cuz he goes 2 work a 2:00 btu just tell him yall need to sit down and talk thats wat i do
2006-06-08 04:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by *~*~ Philly's Flyest 4life*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋