your guy or girl has slept with doesn't matter to you. i once heard that when a lady takes off, a guy already knows where she's coming from.i mean the guy authomatically knows when she has started having sex(to the guys)
2006-06-08 04:08:52 · 31 answers · asked by skimpypearl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, it's not OK. Nowadays it's very normal, but it's still not OK if you ask me (which you do, ha ha...). It's not OK because it's not just a physical act. It involves your whole being, your body, mind and soul (or whatever you want to call that part of you where your thoughts, emotions, etc. are).
Ask most women, and they will tell you how emotional experience having sex is. It will affect your inner being forever and no matter others here say, you will never be the same. Your virginity is something you'll never get back, and it doesn't matter if others know whether or not you've lost it. You know, and that's all that counts.
I know it's hard to wait until marriage, but it's well worth it and your future husband will appreciate it beyond your wildest imagination.
It's utter rubbish to say that you can't marry someone unless yyou've had sex with them. If you've never had sex with anyone else, you won't be able to compare. Your sex life with your husband will be extremely satisfying and you'll never need to have any regrets.
2006-06-08 07:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by RachelK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I didn't really understand your question, but I'll try to answer anyway. I don't think there's anything wrong with sex before marriage as long as you're not religious. I'm not personally. It's also a good idea to know who you're sleeping with and not just have random bed partners. Perhaps even be in love first. It's never very attractive to the opposite sex for them to find out you had 50 sex partners and you're only 20. Be picky. This is your body and you should treat it well. If you're asking whether a guy can tell if you're a virgin, then if depends on how experienced they are. If they are pretty close to being a virgin they won't be able to tell unless you tell them. If they're experienced, they'll most likely know. If you mean that does a guy know when you're sleeping around on him or left him and started sleeping with other people, well that depends on your guilty conscience. If you're a bad liar, then he'll be able to tell, other than that, probably not. Good luck and do what's right for you.
Oh, just realised you were a guy. Well, same goes for guys with the virginity thing. Though, for the most part, a girl can tell that a guy is a virgin or experienced, unless she's pretty niave.
2006-06-08 11:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is perfectly normal. Not everyone gets married these days (Brad and Ang.) and it is a little bit naive to think that most people, by the age of 25 have not had sex.
The culture we live in today is driven by sex and to be honest, it has been that way for a very long time. There are sexually explicit images everywhere and whether it is subconscious or not, alot of people strives to achieve what they see plastered everywhere.
I mean, how can you be chased when your favourite show has your favourite characters losing their virginity to each other? Pop stars sing about it and movie stars (probably) have fun depicting it on screen... so why should we be shocked to hear that alot of people think it is OK?
2006-06-08 11:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by sophisticatedkitty82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's perfectly normal to have sex before marriage. Sex is an important aspect of a relationship and I think you need to be sure that you are compatable sexually before commiting yourself to marriage. The idea of no sex before marriage is outdated and unrealistic.
No-one will know whether or not you have had sex before, (although if you are very experienced it might show because you will know what you are doing!!!!!) My advice though, don't just jump into bed with someone though, sex is a lot better with someone you love (I know from experience)!
2006-06-08 11:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by sally r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you feel is right for yourself is most important. Not to worry about what is the "norm". Don't just go out and do someone just to do it. As for knowing the number of people my boyfriend has been with, I do know the number but it wouldn't have mattered to me as long as he wasn't a total man-****. The number of people truly doesn't matter because when you don't marry at a young age, you will most likely rack up the numbers if you are sexually active.
2006-06-08 11:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how a guy would know if a woman is having sex unless he experiences sex with her and she seems like she knows what she likes and wants. I think you can tell if she has had sex before because she will guide you to what turns her on. Just like guys kind of try to persuade women into what turns them on
2006-06-08 12:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't as big a deal as everyone makes of it- as long as you use protection, of course. It's not as though your entire perspective on the world changes when you have sex. Nothing changes (except that you've had sex).
I think that a person should choose for themselves whether they want to wait. I didn't, and I don't regret it. I know people who promised to wait and are happy, and people who waited and were disappointed that they didn't experiment while they had the chance. It all depends on the person.
2006-06-08 11:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What! You are not writing coherently at all......waffle. And anyway, no one can tell how many you have slept with and from when unless your a bucket or have amazing experience.
How can you wait to marry someone before you have sex....that is the most illogical thing i have ever heard. Dont go around ******* but its fine to be with someone you care about.
2006-06-08 11:12:05 · answer #8 · answered by smart_babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely wrong to have sex before marriage...The society approves of it but the bible does not. speaking from a christian perspective, fornication is a sin and all sinners shall die and go to hell. Think about it because sex is not just physical it is spiritual and u dont want to be bound spiritually to different people. Your life is more important than sex...
2006-06-08 12:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by Godz kid 4 life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it, Sex is ok at anytime. Its even better if its done before marriage......... Looking at it in a positive way, its like buying a new car, you take it for a test drive, you either buy it or you don't. ........Same with sex, you give her or him a test drive, you can then decide if you should go ahead or call it off.
2006-06-08 15:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by submike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋