My mom has a drinking problem?

Question

Its not really bad though she just eats drinks and go to sleep iam sort of scared like i come home one night and tries to hurt me cause shes drunk but she drinks a six pack in 2 days she works and takes care of me its just she might become out of control one day what can i do to stop this

Answer 1

Tell her how you feel or write a note and let her know y'all need to talk. If that doesn't work, if she has a brother or sister you can talk to maybe they can talk to her.


LC

Answer 2

You are very right for feeling this way. And, I am very sorry that you are going through this right now. I would suggest that you sit down with your mother, and tell her how you feel about her drinking, and how scared you are that she may have a problem. Try to do this, when she is sober of course. Ask her, to get some help. She could attend an AA meeting, or talk to a therapist. If she says that she doesn't believe that she has a problem, which she most likely will, then ask her to stop for 72 hours, no drinking. If she can do it, than use those 72 hours to show how grateful you are to her and how much you love her. If she can't do it and she gets abusive or mean, call another trusted adult or the police and explain to them what is happening. She will probably need to go into a in-patient treatment center, where she will get the help that she needs to be a great mom again for you. She has to want to get help though, so this may take some time. You do not deserve to live in fear though, and you need to do what is right for you. Even if it means, telling on her. God bless you and best of luck to you.

Answer 3

That is sad. I noticed that someone said Try And Talk To Her. I wouldn't do this. The reason why is that when children try and talk to their parents about things that the "parents" are doing, the parents will always take a dominant role and it does nothing but make the situation worse. Most parents will feel that they need to be tougher, meaner, more agressive just to keep that child from speaking up again against something they're doing wrong,.

What I would do is find out if there are ANY family members who are older than you such as an aunt, uncle, grandma, grandpa, or anyone that you T R U S T and let them know how you feel and then ask them for some help.

Your mom is obviously having a hard time with her life but with a few coping skills, she could be much better. She just can't see that. So if you do not have a family member, than is it possible for you to speak with your father? If not, maybe go to the school counselor just to be able to get some tips on how to cope for yourself.

Any of these are something and i would try at least one of them.

Best wishes to you and I am truly sorry that you or any child has to ever go through this. It is highly unfortunate.

Answer 4

Three beers in one day isn't considered too much, but three beers EVERY day is. If this is a regular habit, you're right to be worried.

Since her drinking hasn't yet become a "problem", there' s not much you can do other than talk with her about your feelings and concerns. If she's not willing to drink less alcohol, then that's an immediate sign that she's in grasp.

Your Mom is doing okay... she's maintaining a job and taking good care of you. She is definitely playing with fire however.
There is help out there for people who are affected by someone else's drinking.
That's you.

A good place to start is here:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Answer 5

3 beers a day for a year, could add up to a 12-pack by The next year. then an 18- pack a day, then the next thing ya know,your stuck on a 5th of whiskey everyday. I know, cause I'm now a full BLOWN alcoholic in recovery now ,and that's how it started with me. For 18 yrs, I've been a "Drunk". Drinking is a DOWN WORD spiral into hell, It dosent make ENYTHING BETTER! It only makes EVERYTHING WORSE!! Please tell your mom this is a DANGEROUS habit to get into,and that her drinking WILL eventually-get out of control.Probation,Jail,DUI Fines,Court costs,Loss of her Driving Licence,Rehab are all repurcussions of drinking. Hope this helps. much Love.

Answer 6

Alcoholism has a tremendous emotional impact on the entire family. So, living with your mom, I can surely understand its NOT an easy thing and you seem to love your mom and want to help her. Such a great kid!

First, you need to understand alcoholism, read on it, get yourself informed.
But before you can help the alcoholic you may need help to recover from your own negative feelings and emotions.

This is what you need to learn
(1) to maintain your own emotional health and (2) to learn the best approach to the alcoholic

Here are a few tips to help you out...

Talking to others who have faced a similar problem may provide you with practical suggestions on what to do.

a few more tips

Although you can’t force an alcoholic to go for treatment, you can make him want help. But how?

Basically, there are two approaches: (1) allow him to experience the consequences of his drinking and (2) confront him directly with the facts about his drinking. Even at his sickest, the alcoholic can accept some portion of reality if it is presented to him in a receivable way!

Such intervention requires that you be informed about alcoholism and have the emotional strength to apply that knowledge.

But, its not easy.....if the person does not accept the help THEN YOU MUST TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF so you can live in the healthiest possible way!

Answer 7

I am a child of an alcoholic parent also. My mom had me at the age of 16 and began drinking shortly after my birth. However, through working on my own issues over the years, I have learned that my mother has a sickness known as alcoholism. I would suggest perhaps supporting your mother through a 12-step program such as Alcoholics Anonymous. Also, try to remember that your mother's sickness doesn not make her a bad person, just a person who makes some bad decisions.

Answer 8

Your mom sounds like she is having a problem with depression. You are probably not going to be able to help her with her depression, but remind her that you need her to be healthy so that she can be a wise parent. She can check out her county health center for referrals to counselors that can help her with depression (or with a drinking problem), and they will adjust their fees based on income. Also, remember that adults often feel stressed, and they drink because they believe it relieves the stress. It is not a good solution, and often the adults will realize this and give up on the alcohol after trying it for a while. If she gets abusive when drinking, she has a problem which she needs to deal with. You can deal with it by contacting Al-a-Teen, which is a division of Alcoholics Anonymous. Keep in mind - an alcoholic is not defined by how much they drink, but by how much they depend upon getting one - in other words, how much they want it.

Answer 9

Questions to ask yourself ( before you ask her ) are :-
Is there an emotional reason..traumatic experience, love, money probs, lonely?
If you can find the cause then you can work on the cure.
Give her lotsa love and understanding and be strong enough to take her abuse if she becomes defencive. It'll be all too easy for your mum to give it up once she finds whatever it is she needs to replace her present day escape from reality.
One more thing, show happiness and always have a big smile when your around each other.

Answer 10

A six pack in two days is not that much really. But, if it bothers you that bad have a talk with her and find out why she has started to drink more than normal.

Answer 11

Tell her how you feel, let her know now, while the drinking problem is light, don't wait until she is drinking a case a day or a fifth of whiskey a day. also contact ALONON, or ALA-TEEN ( not sure if I spelled them right), you can find out about them at a school councilor's office or by contacting them on line, also go to your library to look for more resources.Also check outAlocoholics annonomas for help with your mom. Good Luck!