My boyfriend broke up with me last night. Saying that "we are both on two different paths of life" right now. SoOoOo i love to party because im 19, i mean people my age dont really have to much to worry about, its only school, working, listening to the parentals, and partying. And he is 23 a medical student, i know its hard and stressful and being an intern next year will make it worse. What makes this worse is my dad also agrees with him. Since my dad is a doctor too he thinks im just holding my boyfriend back from what he wants. Since my dad was always performing surgery on other peple he was never there for me. And now my boyfriend left me. So my idea of doctors are they are freaken assholes. Are they not the biggest assholes?
2006-06-08 03:55:45 · 24 answers · asked by classynikki1987 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
umm NO i don't think they are a**holes! they help you when your sick. they give you surgery if you need it so i don't really think that they are a**Holes. Yeah they would be a**holes if they didn't help any one and just broke up wit someone out of the blie but otherwise ya know! welll bye now!
2006-06-08 04:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by _cool_chick_4_ever_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say that, judging by your tone in your question, you are a little too immature for your boyfriend at the moment. He is right - you are both on two different paths. He is on a very serious, studious path, and you are out for a good time. Best to just let go now before you really end up getting hurt after wasting too much time on a relationship where your ambitions are so different. There is nothing wrong with either point of view, they are just too different to surpass unless one of you wanted to change.
As for your dad, I think you're more upset because you secretly agree that it is the right thing to do and it stinks that he is actually right. And if your dad was never around, why would you want to be a guy who would probably be the same way?
2006-06-08 11:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you could say they're assholes, but honey, all men are assholes. It's life. As for you holding your guy back, no, If that's what you're being accused of then it's not true, You can't hold anyone back from what they want, if it's what they truly want. It's just an excuse for guys to say that youre holdign them back, and as for the different paths of life, you two may be on different paths, but if it was meant to be, those paths will be come one once again, got it? you just need to be young while you still can, because it doesn't last. Nothing good ever does. So go out, have fun, be yourself, just don't fret over some guy.
2006-06-08 11:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by southern_bella0869 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they are assholes. A doctor saved my life. Maybe you should decide what you want to do in life. What are your goals in life. 19 is a critical age. Nothing wrong with partying sometimes, but that's not what being young is all about. What you do now will set your future. If your not concentrating on that your going to end up struggling all your life. You need to get over being what you call your father not being there for you. Think of what he's doing for the world. He's a hero. Always remember this, "What you do for yourself will go to the grave with you, but what you do for others is your legacy." You need to focus on your education. What are you going to do to make this world a better place? Besides I bet you would not have the nice lifestyle that you do if your father didn't work as much as he does. And if you want to keep that lifestyle your going to need a great paying job, or a husband with one. And that means at this time who ever that may be will need to focus on their education. I'm not meaning to be rude, but want to help. Please try to see it in a different light. Your father and boyfriend are right.
2006-06-08 11:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by Q~T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very bitter against doctors.
You really should first sit down with your father and talk with him. Most likely your anger is at him, not at all doctors. Tell him that you wish you and he could do things together. Tell him that you need more than just things, you could use some attention.
Now at the same time, you are in a bit of a tough spot. Your father pays the bills by being a doctor. That carries alto of responsibility. His time is not 100% his own. You knew that when you started dating your boyfriend. If you don't want to have this happen again, don't date someone who is planning to become a doctor.
2006-06-08 12:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by math_prof 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who provided you with food clothing and education and anything else you needed your parents including your dad have you ever took the time that your dad wanted to be there more often for you doing fun things with you spending time with you but couldn't as he had to work to provide for you as for the 2 seperate paths this young man age 23 is working hard to build a carrier and make something of himself your into the carefree party scene and having fun i know your angry and have every right to be but what i'm saying here there are 2 sides to every coin i also feel at a stand point your also mad alittle bit over not getting your way with your dad and the former b/f
2006-06-08 11:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by precious52801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its rough that you got dumped and that your dad wasn't there for you. But at the same time you seem to have a good life if you can be out partying. I don't think it fair to call them that especially since they have saved countless lives...including the lives of people hit by drunk drivers as the result of people partying and driving home. I think you need to just get over it and go find someone else.
2006-06-08 11:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by ravinskye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your a bit immature. If you feel you need to pary at this time in your life and he is going through medical school which is no easy task then you are on different paths. Leave it open and keep in contact. Who knows when you out grow your partying stage and if he is still single then maybe you could hook up again.
2006-06-08 11:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - this is an example of EXACTLY that to which your father and ex-boyfriend refer. You two ARE at different places on the ol' "Pathway of Life" - you are a teen party-girl, living a carefree life, partying, a little school here and there.....he is in med school, with it's concommitant study load and time commitment. And you can't SEE that those are two WHOLLY DIFFERENT and COMPLETELY INCOMPATIBLE lifestyles, then you are pretty immature. Get a grip.
2006-06-08 11:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooo if you truly love him you'd wish him good luck and just b-cuz ur 19 doesn't mean party,party. YOU should also be thinking of ur future too, the future is the next minute and will be here and gone b-4 u know it. then ur going to be left wondering Y u didn't do things differently when your done.
2006-06-08 11:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by STACEY S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is not about partying. You never know when your last day might be. He is goin for what he wants and you are stuck on something he thinks is trivial. You need to step back and look at what you think is most important in your life.
2006-06-08 11:04:40 · answer #11 · answered by nykki_77_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋