I'm looking for best practices and ideas on how to ask 'permission' to marry a father's daughter. Do I need to take him out to dinner? Take him aside? He is an old fashion and formal kind of guy
2006-06-08 03:35:30 · 10 answers · asked by Cory 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Great question! i think using a lot of respect (after all he did raise her) and letting him know that you are going to treat his baby (that's right she'll always be his baby) with the utmost respect, make sure you love her and take care fo her. as a father that's what i want to know that the guy my daughter is going to be spending the REST of her life with really loves her and will be good to her.
2006-06-08 03:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by measureoflove68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ask him when it would be convenient to speak to him in private. Wear your most formal clothes to show him that you consider this to be a very important discussion. No, you do not take him to dinner, you visit him at his home or wherever he might designate as a good, private place to talk. You start by telling how wonderful his daughter is and how important she is to you. Then you tell him about your plans and prospects for the future, to assure him that his daughter will have a good home with you. Then you ask the big question.
But first be very clear what question it is you want to ask. If he refuses his permission, are you going to forget your beloved and move on? Or will you marry her anyhow? If the latter, you should be asking for her father's blessing, not his permission.
Good luck!
2006-06-08 11:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, take him out to dinner or lunch. Tell him that out of respect for him you'd like to talk to him about marrying his daughter. In this day and age, no man should need anothers permission.
2006-06-08 10:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think it's awesome that you're asking for his blessing. So many guys these days just don't see how important that is to a dad. I pity the poor boy who attempts to propose to my daughter without asking her daddy first!
Second, if he's a pretty traditional guy I would suggest asking him to meet you for lunch or dinner and then tell him how much you love his daughter and what your intentions are. Honestly, as soon as you ask to meet with him alone, he'll know. As soon as my husband said "well, I was thinking of asking..." my dad jumped up and got my mom's engagement ring out of his car. He'd been keeping it there since she passed away, hoping my husband would ask for it.
If he already likes you, this will be a snap. Good luck and congrats!! :-)
2006-06-08 10:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by browneyedgirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do what my husband did.. call him and her mother up and sit them down either at their house or a nice restaurant and ask them.. tell them that you want to protect and honor their lil girl for the rest of the both of your lives. don't tell you girlfriend that you are doing it, b/c it will be a surprise to her. i know that i was when he asked my parents permission. it was actually pretty cool.. i always feel like it it more special, b/c it comes from the heart when you ask the mom and dad. :P
good luck!! congrats too!
2006-06-08 10:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by laurieprentice 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to take them to dinner, it is nice, but not necessary. Be sure to dress to impress. You may want to wear khakis and a nice (ironed) shirt. No hat. If you don't take him to dinner, you could possibly bring a bottle of wine for her Dad and maybe flowers for her Mom.
Good luck!!!!
2006-06-08 10:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by Bride05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no two ways of doing it rather than telling your wife-to-be to prealert him, that is, if she has already accepted you to marry her, because she is the one that matters and not actually the family. Just go on an agreed date with some wine and tell them. I bellieve they will be glad to receive you. Good luck!!
2006-06-08 11:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Angel M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My fiance asked my dad and step-dad(I had lived with him and my mom since I was 3)...which I thought was very respectable of him...he called my dad on the phone cause he lives in a different state, but to ask my step-dad he went and talked to him face to face at their house...my dad and step-dad respect my fiance and his decision to ask them for permission to marry me...good luck!!
2006-06-08 13:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by laurie0203 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respectfully.
2006-06-08 12:34:14 · answer #9 · answered by on my way 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just do it
2006-06-08 10:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by reb3mo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋