2006-06-08 03:18:33 · 25 answers · asked by kenzo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is a high chance he'll say some form of "no"... or else he would have asked YOU by now.
It wouldn't hurt to ask. He's not going anywhere, unless you push him away after you get that negative response.
If you want to get him more interested in that piece of paper, play the game. Don't let him be so SURE OF YOU.
(I don't mean "cheat") I only mean to make him wonder.
Ask yourself a very important question. What are this man's values that he would be so reluctant?
Are you a convenience?
Does he hope for something better someday?
If you ARE the ONE for him, he won't leave you with that piece of paper or without.
I wish you real love
STW
2006-06-08 03:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
8 years is really long... & u know that. I have somewhat of a simillar situation although it's not in so many yrs. I did initiate the conversation with discretion. I was very honest about how I felt, and was at the same time receptive to his answers. A "reasonable" man would be willing even if it's uncomfortable to discuss this. Just don't beat him up about it or nag. That will be the 1st turn off. U do know too that u may get a favorable or non-favorable response... SO, set some clear goals for yrself before you engage in any deep conversation. ALL THE BEST!
2006-06-08 04:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by Hapgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after 8 years, he should be ready! AND, depending on where you live, if you've been living with him all that time, you very well may already be married by Common Law! Check with your county courthouse.
If you ARE already Common Law spouses, then just say "Well, Honey, technically we are already married, so let's just do it for fun and have a great big party!"
If not, and you really want to be married to him, just say "You know, you're really the one for me... I don't know why we've waited so long, but, lets just do it, lets get married."
And of course, only you know what he's like so approach him in a way that he will respond positively.
Good Luck! I hope we hear wedding bells and not disaster sirens!
2006-06-08 03:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpea73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what is taking him so long. I mean 8 years. Man usually know the girl they want to marry and maybe you are not her or he is not ready for marriage. Dont ask him anything because it will come up in fights if you guys do marry. He will tell you well you are the one that wanted this not me. Tell him that you are ready for it. and ask him what he feels about this whole situation. Hopefully he will give you an honest aswer and you make your conclusions from it. Good luck with it.
2006-06-08 03:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want security, that you love him and want to be with him but that he's got to cement the relationship. Get the stats showing marriage to be more secure and loving and finally, give him a nice sweet, slow night. Or maybe do that first. But don't bung the queston in as he's all heated up. Lol. No, wait till the next day. And like make it sweet the whole way throgh.- The easiest way is to give him some space.
2006-06-08 03:32:02 · answer #5 · answered by smile4763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask where you two should do for the next 10 years and that you want to spend the rest of your life with the person. In eight years though you should be better able to answer that one
2006-06-08 04:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Jason Heinze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you havent scared them off after 8 years what are you worrying about.
2006-06-08 03:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 12:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to Vegas and do a Britney!
It will be "spontaneaus" and it will likely be his "idea".
I will quote a movie here; " Men are the head, but women are the neck"
Point him in the right direction! It will be fun and the worst that can happen is that you will have fun in Vegas anyway, you will know your answer and then decide if it's time to stay as is, or move on.
Good luck!
2006-06-08 04:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 8 years, you're probably better off staying just the way you are. A marriage license has a way of changing this somehow. If its not broke, dont fix it !
2006-06-08 03:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by Kit Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋