Further to a question I asked a few hours ago ( http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AuO1Zcu1j1XAlOcavqx.FRTsy6IX?qid=20060608042655AAYhUnf ).
What about the kids?
2006-06-08 03:04:49 · 32 answers · asked by XYZ 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Certainly. I have been married several years. My wife and I have very different beliefs. But with love and respect for each other, we very seldom argue. If you both understand each other and each others' beliefs, it will work out. Religion isn't about intolerance. For the most part, they all have the same basic morals and values. When we understand that the various religions are only different paths as we are all different and need different methods in order to understand things, without clinging to a title of our religion, then we have a better respect for the others beliefs. If you truely love and respect each other, religion will not divide a marriage. She's Christian, I'm Buddhist. These differences lead to better understanding of the other's beliefs. As for children, I don't force any religion, but teach the things common in both. As they grow up, they will have the chance to choose whatever they want to believe and the foundation will be in place by their learning of morality.
2006-06-08 04:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
With trust, love and most of all respect a marriage between two people of differing religions can succeed. I am a Wiccan and my husband is a Christian and we will be celebrating our 7th anniversary soon. I respect his beliefs and he respects mine.
As far as children we currently don't have any but plan on adopting two or three in a few years. We have agreed to raise the children with education in a variety of different belief systems so that when the time comes each can make an educated choice about the spiritual path they wish to walk. Neither my husband nor myself believes that a religious path should be preordained for a child.
Blessed Be.
2006-06-08 08:06:25 · answer #2 · answered by genaddt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The basic belief in any religion is the worship of a Creator by whatever name u call him. The methods & isms of worshipping are just the trappings around this basic belief. Respect for each others beliefs are very critical for the marriage to succeed.Remember, when it comes down to it, religions are just a belief.Who's right & who's wrong will never be known until the time comes.Respect is the key.
2006-06-08 03:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by Ethslan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how tolerent the partners are about other religious beliefs. It's fine to have different beliefs, but can they allow the other to be different? The kids part is trickier and requires compromise. How much depends on how different the religions are. If one is Methodist and one is Baptist, not such a big deal. But I am guessing in this case one of the religions is Catholicism, which for some reason always seems to cause problems in these situations (due mostly to its exclusionary nature).
2006-06-08 03:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by CheezWhiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If one person is a Muslim and the other is a Christian, the marrige will not survive. Muslims and Christians have fought for 2,000 years; it's just something that's done. Do you really think that arguments will not appear in the household. And what about Sundays when the wife goes to the Muslim church and the husband goes to the Christian church? What then? The family is split. And you're right to ask about the kids. Will you baptize the kids into Christianity or make them Muslim? These are things to think about. The only way two people from different religions can survive a marrige is if one person converts to the religion of his or her spouse.
2006-06-08 03:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by HOT STUFF 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally would not marry someone that has a different religion than me. As I feel, the 'difference' can lead to unnecessary arguments. Before the thought of marriage, I would go down a list in my mind, of my views and beliefs ,and would ask the one I was 'involved' with if that is what he believes. If there is ONE thing that I feel would be a problem to MY lifestyle, I would not be involved with that person. Not marriage and especially children.
2006-06-08 03:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have to agree on what to do with the kids. I actually recommend just raising the kids in both religions, taking them to both churches. Will they be confused? yes, but kids are confused about religion even if you don't take them to church (just look on this site). It will give them the benefits of both.
Communication and talking about this a lot ahead of time is good. Just practice and respect both religions. The problem i see with cross-cultural marriage is that sometimes expectations are VERY different and it's hard to know in advance. I am not against it, but you must realize it's communication and flexibility that conquer all along with love.
2006-06-08 03:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much it means to you. Love conquers all things including religious beliefs. If you love your spouse more than your religious beliefs it won't matter. If you love your religious beliefs more than your spouse it will matter. If the two of you can not see eye to eye and either one of you is unwilling to budge, then you will have problems. Seek counseling, talk to each other, show each other the importance of your beliefs and there is true love, you will see how much it means to the other person and it will become a non-issue. The same goes with the kids.
2006-06-08 03:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can. Mutual respect for one another is what's needed to make a marriage succeed; this includes respect for each others' religious beliefs!
2006-06-08 03:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends on ur personal attitude whether u r flexible with other belief or not. Flexibility is key to success of inter religious marriage.
2006-06-08 03:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by karthicks_chn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋