I miss her....What Can i do?

Question

I have been dating my GF for about 3months now and we only get to see each other once every week because we live an hour apart. This distance between us is killing me though!

And not just in the obvious ways but also financially because everytime I have to go out their I have to basically fill up my car with twenty dollars. Like one example is If I go and see her Saturday morning then come back Saturday afternoon/night I usually fill up the car again by the following Saturday before it falls below the mid-level or else it'll be even more expensive. SO basically I am prolly spending more than $40-60 a month on gas! I have a small commute to work (like 5mins) so thank goodness for that and I rarely go anywhere else that is far.
Just last weekend, Saturday morning, I filled up with about $20 (gas level was at mid-level) and I went to pick her up and we came back down to my area and hung out then I drove her back home late that night. I decided to stay because I didn't feel like driving back so I stayed in her family mobile home. Next morning, I drove back. By Monday/Tuesday, I had to fill up the car again before it fell below the mid-level. Now if I go see her this Saturday....it'll be like the example above where I do see her for a while then take her to work and come back home. Then by the next Saturday, I will have to fill up again with another $20. So now I'm currently deciding whether or not I should go this weekend. I know financially I should prolly take the break but Only thing is I miss her and I don't want to keep feeling like this. If I see her for a little bit, it can hold me over till next weekend, I guess.

I want to see her more than just once a week though but I don't know what I can do. I really do think I love her. I believe she has strong feelings for me too but they are not as strong as mine. At this point, I really feel like I need to see her more......or not see her at all.
Just talking to her on the phone is not enough anymore. I just want to be with her and near her. I don't want to feel needy or sound needy either but the pain in my chest and heart is so hard and bad now.

I hate this feeling. If this is love then why does it hurt?

I forget to mention she doesn't have a license or a car so she can't drive to see me.

She has mentioned she would meet me somewhere so I don't have to drive that far out to see her but I hate doing that too her.

I wonder would it be wrong to ask her for gas money?? lol

Bree30 asked me how old I was - I am 29yrs old and I am a Preschool Teacher. Its an important job but its not exactly the best paying job either.

Answer 1

I know this feeling, my boyfriend lives about an hour away from me as well. I only get to see him on Saturday's and money for him is an issue. You see, he has to spend about 20 dollars to get to see me every time he comes. And I feel bad but he says he does it out of love. Your not wasting money because wasting means for using it for pointless purposes and I bet your girlfriend is not pointless. It hurts you becuase with all your effort, you are so far away and you wish you could see her more often. I know the feeling so your not alone. You miss her as well too. You would do anything for her but you wish it would be easier to see her without having to worry about the issue of money and distance. It hurts because of the distance, knowing that she's over there. Your stressed, my friend. Your stressed from all the work it takes you to see her. Take it easy and realize that it's all worth it in the end. I know it is for me when I see my boyfriend. Take the time to talk to her about this as well. I am sure she can help you out too.

Answer 2

Ok well first off props to you for driving to see her every weekend. does she drive or have friends that drive? see if she can meet you half way. It is summer now. find a campround and go camping.see far as seeing her more often that is something you will her to talk to her about. If you only get to see her on the weekends then at least you have some thing to look forword to all week.

As far as love... You ever told you that love doesn't hurt is full of **** cause it can hurt really bad. Love isn't like fairy tales you don't alway live happy ever after. If it is love you will find a way to work it out with her. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

The biggest necessity that comes along with long-distance relationships (and yes, I call an hour's drive long-distance) is the willingness of both partners to share the burden. She should be just as willing to come see you as you should be to drive to her home and see her.

Secondly, you sound a bit clingy. Try to overcome that or she might see a red flag and the relationship can go downhill fast. The perfect relationship consists of time management with three categories: 1) Time with your partner, 2) Seperated, with friends, and 3) Seperated, alone. If you can balance all of those out, you'll be a truly happy person. DON'T build the relationship up to be more than it is too quickly.

Answer 4

Well yes love can be painful sometimes, but i have to say you should really talk to her about this. If I were in her shoes I would offer you some gas money to travel. Its only right. A relationship shouldnt really be based on money. She may like it the way it is now, maybe she doesnt want to see you too much. If she really wanted to be with you she would make more effort.

Answer 5

Is there any way that she can come see you or help you pay for gas? I was in a similiar situation, my boyfriend lived an hour away, we both took turns driving back and forth, but eventually we couldn't stand it anymore. We talked about one of us moving to the others' town and eventually I decided to move in with him. It's a little longer commute to work but it's worth it to just be able to be with him.

Answer 6

love=pain my brother, no way around it.The decision to be made includes both practical and emotional consideration. Practical: money...emotional:love. More money solves part. How about a part time job where she lives? Gets you the cake and see the babe too. Other hand ,drop the babe and find one closer to home.But yea, love hurts a truck load.

Answer 7

Honey how old are you because if your fussing about 20.00 a week in gas that's hilarious. Im a single mom with two kids and between work taking them to sporting events practice, games ect. i spend around 100.00 a week. if you love her get a better job and make more money and spend more time with her.

Answer 8

i do not really imagine you've neglected your shot. Love is a few thing that can not be pushed. once you arrive at her domicile, do not 'merely' kiss her. tell her the way you sense. She'll be at liberty to carry close it. and on condition that she likes you, you 2 may enhance emotions for an additional and also you 2 may be in a 'lengthy distance romance' :) that's a minimum of extra effectual than merely acquaintances, no? Telling her the way you sense then kiss her, if she appears like she needs it :) i trust your " i think like ive consistently loved her yet i didnt favor to love her..." Is because you do not favor to interrupt her cuz of a few thing to do with "sympathy date." Am I incorrect? properly, it should not be said as a "Sympathy date" because then received't she be even extra damage if it grow to be authentic? A date out of Sympathy, that's heart-stabbing, in her footwear, in case you comprehend the date grow to be out of sympathy, received't you be damage?! So, i trust it truly is because you loved her, that is why you dated, no?

Answer 9

1. Change your residence to near her residence.
2. Marry her and be with her or bring her to your home.
3. This happens to all.
5. Yours is not at all a problem.
6. Don't worry - be happy.

Answer 10

My gf and I lived a hour apart too. This was tuff during the early part of our relationship. However, lately she's asked me to stay the weekend at her house. So... hang in there!