2006-06-08 02:25:37 · 8 answers · asked by brikwrik 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Don't use time outs and rewards. They cause resentment, shame, and anger. You want your children to learn self control and not to be controlled by you.
Logical and natural consequence are the best way to discipline. When one of your children hurts the other, rush to the hurt child, pick them up or get down to their level and coddle them a lot. Empathize. "That must have hurt! You must be so angry about that. Let's get some ice to put on your ouchy." Completely shut out the child who hurt. They will not like the feeling of being left out.
Have the hurt child tell the other with some help if needed "Don't bite me! I don't want to play with you when you bit me!"
When the child who hurt is calm, empathize with them. "You must have been (mad, frustrated, angry, sad, upset) when you hurt your sibling. What can you do next time instead of hurting?" This will help you child learn to verbalize their emotions rather than lash out.
You can also try this. When one of you child hurts the other, take them gently to and area away from the other child and say "When you ready to play nice then you can come back." This is not a time out because you are not setting a time limit (you controlling your child), the child returns when they are ready to control themselves. Be patient and consistent. Good luck!
2006-06-08 08:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
as a mom of twin boys (2 1/2 years) I am beginning to see the rivalry as well. I can tell you this when one of them bit the other, it only happened once. there are few things that need extreme consequences and biting is one of them. I am all for the time outs, but when you have twins that is not always an option (only a mother of multiples can truly understand that). Stay on top of them and follow through with the discipline (however you choose to) because you can never let them know they out number you.
2006-06-08 07:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take action now!You want it to stop before they get older. As soon as the action happens react!
-Explain that it is not tolorated.
-Put in time out for 2 minutes(No toys on interaction durring time out!)
-When over explain why they were in time out and that it is not nice and hurts the other.
-Give hug and kisses and have them say sorry to the other.
-Dont forget to reward when they play good together!(very important!!!!)
Patients, consistency, Remember you are the parent!
Good luck!!!
2006-06-08 02:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep them separated. Explain why they can't play together and maybe that will get them to stop.
2006-06-08 02:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by pipi08_2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a white parent.Dude beat the hell out of them
2006-06-08 02:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separate them.
If that doesn't work, discipline them. Take away priviliges and punish them.
2006-06-08 02:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punish them
2006-06-08 02:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mittens and muzzles
2006-06-08 02:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by Black Fedora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋