til the baby is born.she wants to abort and is considering it because of ex boyfriend. what to do
2006-06-08 02:07:01 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately you can't do anything about it. It's her decision. If she decides to have an abortion, forget about her forever. If she decides to have the baby, be there for the baby, because he/she will need a parent with a good head on their shoulder and she doesn't seem to have one. Don't blame yourself or torture yourself.
2006-06-08 02:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please if you ever want your own life, instead of having her have you wrapped around your finger. let her abort. her ex may even take it out on the child.it is best for all. i am usually against abortion, but in this case, go for it. i have been living in hell the last 15 years because of my sons crazy mother. and honestly, i love the kid, but i would have sooner she had an abortion. i am counting the days until i can be free of this woman. ask people who have supposedly tried to do the right thing. see how they feel. if you haved been through this you do not want to. it will drain any future relationships. she doesn't want the baby. let her abort.
2006-06-08 09:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, this is a difficult situation for you. Your girlfriend (ex) is clearly demonstrating that she does not want to be in a relationship with you and that the baby is a connection to you that she does not want. If she decided to keep it, it would be very difficult for you, the baby and her to ever adjust. It is for this reason that I would suggest you simply leave her to make this decision and understand that her actions are out of your control regardless of how wrong you think they are. She is acting out of fear and immaturity but you can't control her or her thoughts. So just back away and leave her to make her decisions. If she did decide to keep it, I would strongly suggest counseling for the two of you which would give you both coping skills and help her to conquer her fears and grow up a bit.
2006-06-08 09:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely stick by her, even though it will be hard. Talk to her about an abortion, and let her know there are other options out there, like adoption, or letting you raise the baby. Let her know that she might regret an abortion for the rest of her life.
2006-06-08 09:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by ~*~Jeni~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of the circumstances, you and her created a baby. A human being. Be a man take care of the baby. You don't have to love the baby's mother to be a good father.
2006-06-08 09:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by WONSWTGRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want the baby and are willing to raise it youself ask her if she is willing to give it to you. Make sure you get all this in a legal contract. If she dosent want it then there is nothing you can do.
And if she wants her ex and not your baby stay away from her shes only going to continue to hurt you.
2006-06-08 09:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember its your baby too...if you want the baby discuss with her your feelings and come to a compromise that you both agree on
2006-06-08 09:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by crzychickee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She deserves nothing from you. But fight for your kid. Don't let her get an abortion. You can take her to court you know.
2006-06-08 09:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by nomad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't have to stick by her...u need 2 stick by your baby...and don't let her get an abortion
2006-06-08 09:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋