My mother is now 58 years old, and whats weird my b-day is the day after hers, she will be 59 and i will be 22. my father died when i was 13 but that never seemed to stop her from being evil. she tries to give me things now. i was so shocked shen i actually felt the arms of my mother after all these years. i know she did have it kinds rough being that gram'ma had 7 kids on 1 income during a very racist history. but later on in life she was very rich!! she could drop 15,000 for play if she wanted. there are 5 of us im the middle she abused me, and the youngest boy davon. the other 3 she loved. now my sisters have kids and she is very abusive to my 13 year old neice and 6 yr old neice. she loves the boys accept E.J he is 8 yrs old she tries to beat him every chance she gets! but she loves kids and tries to adopt them? out of all of us she treated me the WORSE!! there were plenty of day when i had to push my meat back on my arms or legs so that it could heal good. what do i do !??
2006-06-08 02:06:39 · 21 answers · asked by gotchafool05 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know you love your mom, but, keep your children away from her. No one should have to go through that. Not only will you have physical scars, but also mental scars. She really sounds like she needs help. Just love her and respect her and try to keep her away from anyone that you think she might abuse. When you see her hit or even be mean, say something to her. Yes, she'll say something like I did it to you and you turned out ok, but when she does just remind her of the scars she's left on your body and your heart. But, remember, she's still your Mother. Lots of Luck to you. I know it can't be easy.
2006-06-08 02:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has some major issues, honey. Although she had a bad upbringing herself, that cannot excuse her actions. I had a terrible upbringing, but I don't repeat the cycle with my son.
The fact she's still abusing some children is really bad. She needs therapy big time and unfortunatly, the kids may do too when they grow up. Traumatic upbringing can manifest itself in many ways in later life, not just by repeating the same pattern of abuse. Personally, I'd ban her from seeing ANY children. Physical abuse like that to a child is JUST as bad as mental and sexual abuse. If she was raping them, would you still stand and do nothing? I know she's your mom and all, but we, as adults, must look out for the vunerable innocents of this world. A great deal of the social problems we see today are the direct result of losing one's innocence as a child due to people who have no idea of correct parenting.
2006-06-08 02:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by googlywotsit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nery tough position to be in. You can just go to another place and live away from the family. You can also document the abuses and when posible have a doctor wxamin one that has been abused. Take this information to child protection agency.
2006-06-08 02:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Family and Children's Services that she is abusive to some of the kids she spends time with. Tell your siblings that their kids might be risking abuse when they are with her, so that they will know what to watch out for. Then decide for yourself if it is worth it to you to continue a relationship with her, or whether it is NOT worth it (I don't mean in terms of money, either). Then talk to her about her behavior, but remember - she is an emotionally ill person, and her answers may not make much sense to you because of her illness. She may not be able to face dealing with it, so be aware that she may not appreciate you bringing it up - remember that you are doing it for yourself and your own emotional health, not for hers.
2006-06-17 17:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by LoriLastTimeILooked 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one dont let the others get abuse. you dont want them growing up feeling the way you did. No kid should. tell your sisters/brothers whats going on with their kids and grandma. everyone needs to have a talk with her seriously. Maybe she has some type of problem.. like in her head. what she does is very wrong
2006-06-19 15:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly stay away from your mother and tell your sister the same thing. her kids don't need to be abused because thats whats happening she's abusive and needs to be stopped why are you even being bothered with your mother sounds like she should be beat herself. you might need to get some proffessional help because of her. and if someone doesn't do something fast about the kids they might need it too.
2006-06-19 13:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sorry for, Children are too rebellious against their parent I want you to understand this,your children is going to think the same way about you later, stop from building hate red against your mother, you are a trouble maker and you must stop this drag net now or some body is going to get hurt stop it wow,please stop it before it is too late
2006-06-17 06:49:44 · answer #7 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to keep her away from my children!! Abuse is very wrong. I wouldn't disown my mother, but that doesn't mean you have to be there all the time either. Call, visit etc. but if I had children they would not be staying with grandma alone for sure!!
2006-06-22 01:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, abuse is wrong. You need to report abuse to the police. Those are your nieces and nephews. You need to be there for them and help them. Don't let them get abused. And, you need to get away from her. If you stay there then that is your problem.
2006-06-22 02:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by mamasita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love will discover you, regardless of in case you attempt to cover from it. I even have been attempting to cover from it in view that i grew to become into 5, however the ladies folk save looking me." -- Bobby, 8 Awww bless his little coronary heart! provide it some years and he often is the single chasing!
2016-09-28 04:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋