my father scolds me for every thing.I scolds me in front of everybody.My mom goes to work.He's fine when she's there.And i also think he ignores me and comes to ask me to do work for him in a polite way.
2006-06-08 01:49:03 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How can i take revenge on him?
2006-06-08 01:54:09 · update #1
Try to write him a note that you want to either have a chance to talk to him and or you and him need to go out to a movie or some type of lunch get together.
LC
2006-06-18 19:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by littlebit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your father definitely has a problem. The question is what is the problem....I don't think he would answer that question if put to him directly by you. He obviously doesn't want your mother to see that side of him with you. There is a deep rooted problem here on his end. He might have been treated that way by his father when he was young and in turn he is passing on that same behavior towards you. Behavior is passed down from parent to child. I would have to say that it is a form of abuse. The only way for him to stop this is for him to admit that he is doing this and realize it is a problem and seek some kind of counselling. His father might have done this to him and he might think this is the way it is suppose to be. This is definitely NOT the case. Some form of help is needed. I do think that a talk with your mom might be needed. She obviously is not aware that he is doing this. I think the whole family should be involved with counselling once this situation is brought out in the open.
2006-06-21 05:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby I don't know how old you are, but it may be that your dad is a bit, shall we say, nervous about you becomming a man and his having to share the den with another male. Have you tried having a man to man talk with him? At this point you may be the only man talking...Anyway, use this time and his behavior as a lesson in how NOT to behave to your children when you have them. Make sure you step back and look at the whole picture before talking to dear dad. Are you doing your chores and helping out around the house? Or are you putting stuf off and not helping out and adding to the stress in the house? Just asking. I wish you the best. I hope it gets better for you. Oh, forget the revenge. Karma will hit you hard if you go acting all nasty on your dad...for real. Good luck dear.
2006-06-20 16:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He scolds you because he wants you to be the best man you could possibly be, he might not understand the pressure he is putting on you so take him a side and let him know how you feeling and let him know that you are a person too and people of all kinds make mistake, and in order to learn and grow up you have to make mistakes. Some times you just take his advice and move on with your day thats the only way to do things sometimes.
2006-06-17 05:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Bear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your father should be the one who should be embarrassed, scolding his son in front of people. Imagine such behavior from a grown man, totally irrelevant.
It could be he had some hard time in life and just take it out on u all the time. Of course doesn't make him right !! However, taking revenge is not the right course either. It is such a vicious cycle.
May I suggest talking to him? talking to your mom? talking to your teacher? or talking to someone who you think could get thru to him(this person has to be someone he respects). Other options is to communicate through writing. Tell him how you feel!
2006-06-19 05:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by h2o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the mistake which u r doing may be small for u. but unless your father corrects it then & ther u will be doing the same mistake again & again.u should feel happy that your father is concerned about u &care for u. u r thinking of taking revenge on him ; that is really bad. see that u don't do any thing wrong so that he will not have any chance of scolding u.
2006-06-21 06:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge will not solve anything.
Why not ask him directly .. "hey dad, did you notice you scold me when mom is not arround and you become kind when she is there, am i wrong at saying this?"
Wait for his response. See how he handles a question like this.
One more thing. Communicate in a kind way...but say how you feel. If you dont, you will regret it...even if you have to do the first step. You will feel great after!
2006-06-17 06:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Life is Wonderful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father has a problem. I is fine when your Mother is around because she would show disapproval or they would argue. Revenge is not the way. The best is to stay away from him. Do your best to avoid any confrontation with him. If it get out of hand then it's time to talk to your Mother.
2006-06-20 02:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by sally_little03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honor your father and mother;Ephesians 6:2; tough as that sounds, it will make things easier in the long-run; there's something that needs to be discussed bet/w the both of you, or maybe you can ask your mother for advice; somebody knows what the deal is,except for you! I hope this helps! Be long-suffering toward your father, when Jesus was being reviled, he did not go reviling in return, when he was when he was suffering, he did not go threatening in return; 1 Peter 2:23
2006-06-18 18:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by HoneyB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh i had a massive fight with my mom and i found that the best revenge was doing little things like switching milk from skim to full cream putting food dye in the shampoo it was funny
2006-06-08 02:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Imogen228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋