Why am i feeling like this??

Question

Am 21, been single now for the past 5 mnthz,work full time as a waitress (isnt the best job in the world but its ok), I have loadza friends and family that love me and my life isnt all that bad. So tell me why the hell i feel so down.. Since i split up wiv my ex life doesnt seem 2 be picking up. I work constantly and when i do finally get an evening off and am alone in my flat i just feel so depressed.. Anyone able 2 give me some tips on booking myself up and explaining why am like this...

Answer 1

Depression happens for many reasons. I don't know you, but I would expect some depression (possibly from lonliness) after a breakup. Friends and family aren't the same thing as a significant other. Also, working all the time makes anyone depressed. I recommend you and a great friend going out and doing something just for you ( a mini vacation). Stress (which you seem to have a lot of) can get to be overwhelming and lead to depression. I would also recommend looking for a job that you enjoy doing and that might give you some flexibility with your time. Having worked in a few restaurants myself, I know that they are very demanding and can be ultra-stressful. Find some relaxing things to do that you can look forward to. If these things don't work, you might want to try talking with a counselor (if that is possible). Also, don't listen to the negative idiots who posted above me. Do listen to the positive ones (not idiots). I hope this helps. God Bless.

Answer 2

Listen, an ex is always an ex for a reason. It doesnt matter what the reason is. Obviously something was wrong and you weren't meant to be with that person. You should have a girls night out hang out with the girls and do something you ordinarially don't do. Then maybe you can start to feel better. Ive been there. Sounds like you are in a slump. It will pass. Theres bound to be something better out there. Get out do something fun if you dont want to include your girl friends in. Adopt a pet, or volunteer at a pet shelter. Volunteer at an old folks retirement home. Find a new hobby to think about instead of the ex. Theres no need to go on being depressed. Take care of yourself. It will all work out for the best.

Answer 3

Have you ever thought about joining a church group? You can meet very nice people there and these people can help you to get a LIFE.
If you have lots of friends and family that love you, that is the most important thing there is. I do not believe you are lonely. I think you have some depression and anxiety, but you can pull yourself out of all of this. Keep your chin up and be proud of yourself. Try to be positive and your life will change for the better. Good Luck

Answer 4

girl i wish i was there to knock you back on straight ! you have a job? a flat? and family who love you? and you are still complaining? think about people your age in say somalia or iraq and be thankful that your ex that left you was a stumbling block to you! he had to leave so you would move up! look around you there are tones of things you can do now that he is gone that youve been meaning to? how about getting some more education? you did say waitressing wasnt the best job on the globe?and you need the time ALONE to find yourself.you can be single and happy you know. goodluck.

Answer 5

explantion for why you feel this way, you got used to having a life that included another person and also being around someone and now you have to adjust. You are mourning a loss. I've been through this many times now and as you get older, situations like this get easier to take. I can imagine you must feel like you are on the outside looking in on other people's happiness. There is someone out there for you even if it does not feel like it right now, you just have to put yourself out there, smile even when it hurts, laugh when you feel like throwing up. If you can adopt a pet from a shelter that helps too. Pets give unconditional love and also are good company, a dog will give you a reason to go for walks. I've been in your shoes before, you need time to heal.

Answer 6

Love God and love your neighbor as yourself. The clue here is to expand yourself. Go to the closest hospital and help them.
Help at a hospice. Help at a neighborhood garden. And this time guard your heart. I mean it. Don't get serious until someone really really commits to you. But expand yourself and quit being alone. Help others all the time until you get compassion burnout. Don't forget how much a friendly puppy can fill your life. Take something interesting at school or maybe just sit in for the fun of it.

Answer 7

You have a friend in Jesus and here. I'm not a counselor or therapist, but I've been where you are at before. I focused on Jesus and His love for me and the future He wanted me to have. I know a website you can go to so that you can talk to some loving, caring, godly men and women. It is www.lwf.org click on the "contact us" and e-mail them or go to the online store and click on "strength and encouragement" then on "vhs video tapes" then maybe you could order one or more of these tapes that appeal to you and your situation: How to deal with depression#1871V, Can God be trusted with your troubles?#2155V, Christ of every crisis#2294V, Giving thanks in dark days#2179V, How to come back when you're down#1730V, How to find peace in the midst of your storm#2158V, How to get up when you're down#1353V, How to have a steadfast hope in a shakey world#2176V, How to live in Victory#2058V, In times like these, you need an anchor#1552V, Living in the sunshine#1652V, Peace in the midst of your storm#1435V, Overcoming satanic deception#1649V, Riding out the storm#1908V, The battle for your mind#2145V, The secret of fulfillment#1671V, The warfare of prayer#1945V, Why do good things happen to bad people?#2075V, Why do I exist?#2427V, You are never a failure until you quit#1437V. I took the time to look all of these up for you and whoever else out there needs a little help and advice and encouragement and love. I hope that you will take the time to look into them. This website's ministry is called Love Worth Finding Ministries, Dr. Adrian Rogers is their pastor. He passed away Nov. 15, 2005 of cancer, but his teachings of God's great love for us (Jesus) lives on. Pastor Rogers has helped me through a lot in my life. More than he'll ever know, and I wish the same for you. As the song goes, Turn your eyes upon Jesus, Look full in His wonderful face, and all the things of the earth will grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace. God Bless you and strengthen you. Turn to Him for help. He will never let you down. I will pray for you.

Answer 8

It is probably worthwhile digging in deep and finding out why it is that the break-up has hurt you so badly. There is something about you that made you depressed. Not everyone gets depressed for 5 months after a breakup.

Probably the safest place to do that is in a psychiatrist's office.

Answer 9

Help other people. Do something really nice for someone else. It will make you feel better. Ask one of the other waitresses at work who doesnt seem to have any friends to hang out with you.

Answer 10

It takes time, but it will gradually get better. Set some goals in life and focus on that. I know it's easier said than done, but this is one of those things in life that isn't meant to be easy. You just have to ride out the feelings and avoid doing things that could make it worse (i.e. self defeating behaviors). When you start doing positive, esteem building things for yourself, things will start to turn around for you.