She does this to everybody and it seems she is always on the phone already with someone else or gets a new call while we are talking. I know that some of her calls are important, so why does she take my call in the first place if she is busy with an important call? It's very frustrating to me, as I don't really like to talk on the phone much at all. She's always polite and apologetic and sometimes I even hung up on her, but the behavior has not changed much at all. What can I do to stop it without offending her?
2006-06-08 01:27:47 · 33 answers · asked by Zelda Hunter 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i would talk to hear about the situation, and tell her that you are going to start treating her the same way. if things don't improve, then i would continue to hang up on her, and put her on hold. sometimes people don't realize how they are treating people until they get treated the same way, it may open her eyes. good luck
2006-06-08 01:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by rita 4 · 4⤊ 3⤋
I would talk to her about it. Explain that you don't feel comfortable on the phone and that you'd just prefer it if she rang you back or you could call her back at a more convenient moment. Try to have this conversation face to face. Say that you love to talk to her, but to do this you really need her full attention. Perhaps suggest she gets voice mail, people these days never mind leaving a message and often that's enough, especially for important calls. If it's annoying you it must be annoying the other people she puts on hold. If they are important calls it would be best not to annoy them.
2006-06-08 01:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by tommytwopence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being rude to you by doing this... Next time she does it just hang up, and DON't answer if it is her calling back. Then, when you see her in person, tell her what you just said. If you are busy, don't take my call. Call me back when we can really talk, so we will both be happy. Better fix it now... I lost a friend who was late EVERY time we went somewhere together.. so I stopped going anywhere with her..
2006-06-08 01:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sydmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her it's not convenient for you to hold right now, can you be so kind as to call me back when it's convenient for you. That would be the polite way if she is truly a friend.
If not a friend, Than put her on hold for awhile when she calls you. The message might get across.
2006-06-08 01:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by laughsall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the hanging up hasn't helped.- I think you guys are in need of a good heart to heart. Because if you don't settle this she will continue to do it (maybe not even knowing how much is bothers you) and you will become more and more on edge about it.
These sorts of things are the little things that can drive huge wedges into friendships.
Talk to her and explain how you love her but that what does makes you feel like she doesn't value you and care about your friendship.
Goodluck :)
2006-06-08 01:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by pink chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. If she asks if she can put you on hold, say No.
2. If she puts you on hold, hang up immediately then call her back. If she doesn't answer just leave a short message that she should call you back when she actually as time to talk to you.
2006-06-08 01:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she puts you on hold hang up and dont call back let her call you. Tell her that when she has a min of spare time to call you from now on because you also have things to do and cant be left on hold. Let her call you back at her convenience
2006-06-08 01:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang up every time they do it and tell them you were expecting an important phone call and you cant be put on hold or someone was at the door so you had to hang up. i have this same problem.
2006-06-08 01:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by dizzeedee@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wouldn't take her calls or if you don't want to do that, I would just put her on hold until she hangs up and then tell her why I did it. She needs to get offended. Some people don't get it until you offend them.
2006-06-08 01:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by DELETED ACCOUNT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is a real friend she will understand when you get up and talk to her about your concern. just begin by telling her how much you value your friendship...etc, and how much this concern is bothering you and how much affected you are with her behavior.... then tell her about the exact behavior "putting you on hold all the time".... then tell her.... i need your help to resolve this, can you do this for me? i dont think there is a way for her to skid away from this but in case she does. then tell her that she did not do anything to resolve this concern and she owes you that as a friend.
2006-06-08 01:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if you can stop it without offending her. After a short time she will be over it and will just do the same thing again. When she tells you to hold just say no I have better things to do.
2006-06-08 01:43:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋