I received a formal wedding invitation yesterday with a folded response card which on the outside has the M ______ line and meal preference checkboxes then is blank when folded open. Am I allowed/supposed to write a more personal message on the blank space inside?
2006-06-08 01:17:51 · 8 answers · asked by S.G. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Emily Post says nothing specifically about it, but I don't think you do write a note inside. The bride will likely never even see it, since all of her necessary info is on the outside! Here's a few more pointers...
Tips on being the perfect guest
RSVP. Immediately.
RSVP is French for “please respond” (répondez s’il vous plaît). Your most important obligation as a guest is to respond to the invitation immediately, especially if you are unable to attend. At the very least, it allows your host and hostess enough time to give an accurate count to the caterer. There is usually a card to return with your reply. If not, you may write a formal reply or a note indicating your intention.
Respect your invitation.
Do not ask your host or hostess if you can bring a date or your children. The invitation will be addressed to the people invited. If you may bring a guest, your invitation will read “Mr. John Phelps and guest.” If your children are invited, they will either receive their own personal invitations or their names will be listed under yours on the envelope. This is not the time to question your host’s decision, to argue or to beg for an exception. And, please, do not add their names to a reply card or show up with them anyway!
Send a gift.
If you are invited to the ceremony and/or reception, you should send a gift, whether you are attending or not. Generally, gifts are sent to the bride in advance of the wedding. In some localities, gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. If you hear from family that the couple would prefer a charitable donation—as in the case of an older couple or an encore wedding —please respect their wishes. If you receive an announcement after the wedding has taken place, you may send a gift if you wish, but you have no obligation to do so. It is nice to acknowledge the announcement with a card or a note expressing your best wishes.
Be on your BEST behavior.
Be on time, wear appropriate clothing and be respectful during the marriage ceremony. Pay your respects to the hosts, the wedding party and other guests at the reception. And remember.
“The good guest is almost invisible, enjoying him- or herself, communing with fellow guests, and, most of all, enjoying the generous hospitality of the hosts.” - E. Post
2006-06-08 01:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many people choose that type of invitation to give invitees the opportunity to write a note if they choose to, especially if they are unable to attend. You are not obligated to write anything but you can if you'd like. For example, if you are attending "Looking forward to celebrating this special day with you!" Or, if you are unable to attend, "We're so sorry we won't be able to be there, but we have already accepted another invitation for that date."
Another answer suggests that the bride will never see it ... I don't think that's true. Most wedding RSVPs go to the bride's family ... and I'm sure the bride will be looking through them to see who is attending and who is not.
2006-06-08 01:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by flamingo_sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will write the letter for you. It'll be great and nice for the "going-to-be couple."
"Dear _______,
This letter comes from my heart. For a long time I have known you and right now I know perfectly that you two deserve each other. I would be most pleased to participate to this amazing day. I hope the best for you in future years."
Mr/Mrs.______
Is this what you wanted???? If not... sorry and have a nice time at the wedding party!
2006-06-08 01:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
John Doe
2016-12-20 14:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by JACQUELINE C. EVANS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are certainly allowed. I think it's a nice touch to simply say something like "Sorry we couldn't join you on your special day. We hope your wedding goes perfectly and hope to see you soon. We'll be thinking of you on that day. " Something simple and to the point. Nothing like "I have to have my wisdom teeth out that day, so while I am on drugs and miserable, I will be thinking of you."
2006-06-08 06:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can write a note inside but it is not required. since the invitation is formal make the note formal as well
2006-06-08 01:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if you can attend or not if not then call ina couple days before and tell them you wont be able to make sorri but in a nice manner way ?
2006-06-08 01:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by MiSsySexii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just leave it the way it is, and check off if you and and a guest are attnding or not.
2006-06-08 01:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by littleman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋