ok yesterday.... i spoke to a woman that left me 2 months ago, for the first time since then,,,, i thought i would do good.... but, it all just came flooding back.... she claimed to love me for 3 years, we talked of kids and marraige......but she was in a new relationship within a month... says he will take care of her for ever... this stings.... did she ever really love me at all ?
2006-06-08 01:07:37 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your heart feels bad...because you were in a relationship that meant something. My view is that a heart doesn't ever really heal from a wound it just scars over and occasionally that wound is re-opened. Hopes and dreams and expectations and all the meaningful things shared come flooding back and its like we are in the moment all over again. I guess at the time the things you shared and spoke of over those three years meant a lot to both of you... a fact of life is that people move on at different paces and it seems that you probably do think she did love you in those three years and what is hurting more is the fact she moved on so quickly. Without knowing in depth details and her reasons its hard to comment. I think she could have been a little bit more tactful in her words to you ....Sometimes people leave for other reasons...even though they love that person still...Sometimes love is not enough.
Our hearts end up with many scars and as we go through life we tend to guard our hearts more because of this..
2006-06-08 04:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Curious77 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mate! Listen you need to drastically think of getting your life back on track. Take it from me i've been down the same road and it's not pretty. If it wasn't for my mates I would probably still be in mourning, so to speak. Get out of the house do something constructive that will keep you occupied like join a gym or go go out with your mates, but don't just sit at home thinking of her all the time. Yes she's moved on and Yes she's done it in just a month, but it doesn't matter how long she waited, she wasn't the one for u so you have to go out there and find that one. It might not sound like something you want to hear but get out there and live your life. This is just gonna destroy you in the end if you don't take control of yourself and pick yourself up and move forward. The best thing is just to think of yourself at this moment and put the past where it belongs. Best of luck to you mate.
2006-06-15 02:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think love sometimes comes with an expiration date.
People change over time, so sometimes the person you fell in love with is not that same person you're with 20 years later. Ask someone over 35 if they're anything like they were in High School.
I read this once: "Love is not the person you can imagine being
with. Love is the person you can't imagine being without".
2006-06-08 10:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by pachl@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, course she loved you, just not enough to want all those things you talked about WITH YOU. she has moved on and obviously isn't pondering over the same question. people in love need some healing time after the relationship ends. i certainly would not be emotionally ready to get 'back on the horse' after a month of my 3 yr relationship ended.
you need closure and she has given it to you by being in a relationship so soon after your break up. she has moved on, now it's time you did too.
good luck!
2006-06-08 01:44:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally dont think she loved you because she would not have jumped into a relationship that fast after urs ended. Its time for u to try to move on,shes not worth it.
2006-06-08 01:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably did love you but she has moved on and sad as it seems you need to move on as well. It would probably be best if you broke all contact with her, delete her number from your phone etc cos seeing her and speaking to her will only make it worse.
As someone said earlier your well fit and will find someone else as soon as your ready!
2006-06-08 01:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by Katty83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she found someone better or more suited to her. I sucks I agree. 3 years is a long time to drag someone along for nothing. In retrospect, do you think it would have ended happier if you had prosposed and married her earlier?
2006-06-08 01:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she loved you but it sounds like she probably fell out of love with you awhile back. So when she broke it off, it shocked and hurt you worse.She had probably been planning it awhile as well. You will find love, cheer up :) I love your questions, theres ya some love!
2006-06-08 02:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥My 2 Cents♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She falls in and out of love rather quickly. I don't think her feelings for you went very deep.
From what I read her, you seem to be a decent guy, intelligent and funny.
And good-looking... you deserve much better than her!
2006-06-08 07:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a user. Its hard but you will get over it before you know it. Chalk it up as a wonderful life lesson. That will never happen to you again.
2006-06-08 01:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋