will power !!! why am i lacking some of it,,,, how do i get it back to stop smoking?

Question

15 years i have been smoking and tried to quit a hundred times but it drives me crazy .... i think its part of my personality by now and if i do quit forever this may phsycologically change my personality.... where does will power come from and how is it developed ??? my theory is as a child when you want toys and sweets and always demanding for them non stop and throwing tantrums coz your parents wont give then after half an hour of putting up with the stress they eventually give in and say o.k this time.... there you go.... and there goes everybodys will power at the same time...... what do you rekon !!!

Answer 1

I must have been very fortunate with my parents because they certainly did not give into my tantrums but would explain that by me throwing a hissy fit just does not make them say yes to my demands.

Will Power comes from inside a person if your determined enough to want something it will happen,you really need to want to give up knowing that after 15 years it will be difficult and you have tried and failed it is so easy to say "Oh I failed so what makes me think I can achieve this time" also to fail and make 100 excuses is far easier than trying to keep going.

Your an addict with an addiction,like a drinker but there are people who can help and be supportive.
The market has various patches that you might try.
If your serious about giving up then you and only your sheer determination will see you quit, ask yourself.
Do I really want to stop am I doing it for me?

If you then decide you are going ahead with stopping be prepared for all the pit falls as you wean yourself take time out and do not put temptation in your way stay out of smoking environments,tell friends you trying to quit and need their support and do not get bullied.

Try to imagine the end results you will no longer smell like an ashtray,you will find your fitness level will improve,things will taste better smell better,and most important if you have family they might be spared having to life with a family member who could end up being in a grave yard,take yourself to visit a ward of cancer patients it might give you more insentive,but at the end of the day it is YOU and only YOU who can or can not make the decision.

Good Luck

Answer 2

Every new year of my life I do the traditional making of a new year resolution which I woefully violate a few days into the new year if not hours then I started asking questions Why Is So? Then I realised that it is not that the things I will to do are not achievable rather the fact I lump my will together. Then it came to me that one who will climb the ladder will start from the bottom, thus you need to take it one step at a time. Try quitting a day first then two days and so on till you achieve your goal. If you have difficulty you can buy a nicotine patch and try to avoid areas where others smoke freely 'cos it might kindle your cravings again. Finally don't feel discouraged if at first it doesn't go according to plans Plus encourage yourself in the Word.
Keep pushing it you'll get there.

Answer 3

You just have to tell yourself you are done. I did.Cold turkey. I have been quit for 2 Months, 6 Days, 7 hours, 2 minutes and 31 seconds (67 days). I have saved $264.95 by not smoking 1,009 cigarettes. I have saved 3 Days, 12 hours and 5 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 04/09/2006 5:30 PM. Surround yourself with people who do not smoke. The average craving lasts 3 long minutes. Just keep telling yourself to get through those 3 minutes...it works. I am 34 and smoked since I was 11! I just kept thinking about being here for my kids. Ever smelled cigarette smoke on a baby's clothes? That is enough to make anyone quit. Good luck.

Answer 4

Wouldn't it be great if we could answer this question??
Can't say I go a lot on your theory though, being spoilt as a child is something that we all get over, (usually when we get a smack in the face by a kid that hasn't been spoilt) while still at school!
As for the stopping smoking bit, that would also be a great question to be able to answer, but no one can or nobody would smoke!
If I could just express an opinion here? I would like to say that it really makes me sick to hear some one say " I used to smoke but I gave it up, it only takes a bit of will power"
Nicotine patches don't really help, I was never able to keep them alight.
So I'm afraid that my answer to your question is that I don't have an answer!!

Answer 5

my will power is none existent but i quit smoking 6 weeks ago my doctors do a stop smoking clinic which gives advice and you go every 2 weeks to check on progress and to get patches there are 3 levels of patches im just starting the middle stage its hard work but im saving money actually im not saving very much as i found this great thing called e-bay!!! but at least ive got something to show for my money
i found it best to plan what i was going to do everytime i needed a *** eating a apple slowly worked and using the computer
now i know everytime i need a *** it will only last a couple of minutes
this is my second attempt after 22yrs of smoking (istarted young)
fingers crossed il succeed this time not just for my sake but for my sons sake as well and lastly when i was growing up no meant no and the only thing i got for temper tantrums was a sore throat and occasionally a smacked bum so nothing to do with will power

Answer 6

Don't use or trust in your will power. Will power is not reliable on it's own as it can fluctuate. Sometimes you can have all the will in the world, other days it may seem non existent.
It's seems like a large part of you would like to give up smoking, and that's great, but just try focusing for a few moments on that part of you that wants to remain a smoker, it may be just a very small part of you, but it is that small part that keeps you from giving up. Find out why that part of you wants to smoke, what are it's reasons, etc.
Ask that part of you, "where do you smoke?"
" When do you smoke?"
"Why do you smoke?"
write down the answers, and study them carefully, they should help you find new ways to help you without having to rely on will power.

Answer 7

these are the steps I took to quit smoking 8 years ago
1. I decided I was not a smoker (as a kid I never wanted to be, but got older and thought it made me cool, then liked it.)
2. I got the niccotine patch
3. I read all of the information that comes with the patch
4. instead of smoking i did one of these several things
a. I ate about 4 or 5 baby carrots
b. I chewed gum or ate candy
c. I brushed my teeth
d. I called someone on the phone
e. I chewed on alot of drinking straws
After a while it got much easier. Good luck!

Answer 8

Quitting smoking does not change your personality .you can develop your own will power by not giving in to your own weakness. even though you may have always got your way as a child , This does not have any thing to do with your will power as an adult. It sounds like you are trying to use your childhood to make a excuse for your self. I smoked for 26 years and stopped cold turkey , this was the best way for me. I'm not saying you can do this the way I did,but it worked for me. good luck

Answer 9

I don't know how to get "will power," but I can tell you how I quit smoking in 1990 and am still smoke-free. I had quit for up to 4 months once, but re-started. So one day I told God that if He didn't help me I was going to smoke until I was 90 or dead! I admitted my powerlessness over cigarettes and asked God to find me a way to quit that was just right for me. Within about a month a lot of things transpired . . . and He lead me to a book by the American Heart Assoc. that was 21 days to quit smoking. It walked me through three weeks -- week one broke the physical addiction, week two broke the habit, and week three broke the psychological addiction so I wouldn't re-start during times of great stress -- which I've had. I know other people who have cried out to the Lord for help, and He took them out of their addictions in other ways. They are still smoke-free, too. I was soooo addicted. I smoked first thing in the morning, before bed, in the middle of the night if I awoke, and I couldn't go anywhere without my pack. Sooooo, pray for the way that is just right for you. He loves you and wants to help you even more than you think you want help. Peace.

Answer 10

Your will power should be those kids in that picture. Quitting smoking is not an easy task, your addicted! You can't just throw a tantrum and in 30 minutes think that everything will be okay. You subjected your body to a cig and it attached itself. I find that when i keep myself busy i don't smoke as much. When i'm just chillin, i smoke like a broke stove. Good Luck!!!