We are cool at work but no contact outside of work. Most co-workers are going.I don't do funerals though, unless the person is close to me. Opinions ?
2006-06-08 00:48:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Nope
2006-06-08 00:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Beware the fury of a patient man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you obligated? No. You can send flowers to the family, or ask the individual after the funeral if they're dearly departed family member had a favorite charity and make a donation in that persons name. If you feel uncomfortable, your co-worker will understand. Others in your office will understand as well.
Worst thing to do is give the co-worker a card. Don't do this. It's demeaning and inappropriate.
Fisherking
2006-06-08 07:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by FisherKing 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I normally wouldn't go to the funeral if it isn't a person close to me either. I mean, your co-workers are probably doing it out of respect to an employee which is nice but I don't see how you are "obligated" to go. Funerals are for family members left and usually they are distraught at the time and this co-worker is not going to be at a funeral pointing out who did or didn't come either. I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-06-08 07:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel obligated to go to the funeral itself if you are not close outside of work.
It would still be a nice gesture, however, to go to one of the viewings, or to sit shiva, or whatever the case may be. Your co-worker will appreciate it very much. I also see nothing wrong with giving a sympathy card. I have always appreciated receiving such cards. Again, it shows respect and caring to a person who is hurting. And who knows? By taking time to show this kindness, you might actually become better friends with this person.
2006-06-15 03:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by cloudofchanel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't know the person who died then I don't think you should go to the funeral. You are not obliged to attend funerals of people you don't know, even though you know someone who was close to them. Just do what you feel is right.
2006-06-08 08:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by undir 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not obligated to go, but it would be a nice gesture since most co-workers are going. It's really up to you, and whether you care about your co-worker enough to show that you want to support them during their time of need.
2006-06-08 07:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Miss D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If most co-workers are going, are you looking to make a statement by not going? Because you will - "Look everybody is here except X; I wonder why X isn't here."
Be a team player and go anyway.
2006-06-08 07:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by fcas80 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I don't think you are obligated to go. But if a nudge feeling is telling you you should, maybe you should consider going to console your co-worker.
2006-06-08 07:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by indiam0net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would opt out of going. i'd give a card with my condolences but explain that you don't do well at funerals and that you're sorry for their loss. most people are understanding. i know how you feel, it's like you want to "be there for them" but once your there, you feel really awkward cause you don't know the person who died and everyone around you did.
2006-06-12 15:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by JerseyBleu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...you are obligated to go. I do suggest perhaps sending a card out of respect.
2006-06-08 08:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋