Do you think the justice system is wrong to nearly always choose a mum over a dad when deciding custody?

Answer 1

Anything which glosses over the individual facts of a case and tends to follow trends has to go wrong somewhere, sometime.

Dads can love and care as much as moms. Ok their variety might be different. They may allow the child to go out with uncombed hair or not worry too much about the child playing in the dirt or getting soaked in rain water cause they would remember the fun they had as kids in doing the same things Moms conveniently forget all that. But for the more important things both may set the same rules and examples.

The more important question is who does the child want to stay with. and in the case of the parent how willing and able is he or she to look after the kid. i think actually a Psychoanalyst / Psychiatrist should be asked to study all three ( child and parents) and suggest what would be best.

Answer 2

The decisions are made long before the justice system is involved. Ever notice when a couple breaks up the man leaves, leaving the children with the mom, or the mom leaves with the kids??? This is BEFORE the courts are involved so the groundwork is set isn't it? Is it unfair? NO...the couples make this decision all on their own.

There are many bias when it comes to parents and the courts. Why is it that the father, even he murdered 3 children and does drugs daily would STILL be granted access to his own children? This is based on nothing more than genetics and the bias that every parent is important in a child's upbringing. It also assumes that despite everything, every child wants that connection...

So, you can't deal with only 1 issue, custody without opening an entire ball of string

Answer 3

The justice system will always prefer chosing a mum since the mum is the one giving birth to the child and normally be the one who can love a child more than the father. But is can also fails since the mother may be alcoholic or taking drugs or does not have a financial stability and won;t be able to take care of the child. Then this case, if the father is stable, its preferable to give the father the custody

Answer 4

I believe that there are too many kins that the system overviews and that they need to keep a check on who ever they set the child the child with, and yes many times the system is wrong with who they set the child to live with. There are too many times where the child isn't the most important part of the custody case and the child should be the focus instead of the mothers "rights" to parent. Just because you carry a child doesn't make you a fit parent.

Answer 5

This does seem unfair in many individual cases, but I think that men as a group have made this situation difficult for themselves. Many men seem to think nothing of abandoning their pregnant girlfriends or wives and children. There isn't really even any stigma attached to being a father who has done this. Based on this men in our culture have shown to have less attachment to their children and less committement to the responsibility of raising them.

So many women have been left in this way historically and have been made to pay the price of raising kids by themselves that 'the system' tries to even things out by giving the kids to the mother wherever possible as she is more likely to take the responsibility for raising them.

Women also invest a lot more in creating children than men do. Months of discomfort, the pain of labour, having to give up careers etc. men just don't have the same input. Fatherhood isn't as hard as motherhood.

Which isn't to say that fatherhood isn't valuable and worthy. In fact I think we need to value it more, to encourage more men to stay with their families and take pride in being a father and the man of the house.

Answer 6

yeah definitately they favour the women for what reason I dont know if the father wants to have contact with the child (ren) then i think the custody should be equal
I know it gets bitter when a family breaks up but why favour the mother its like saying he loves the child more thena the father and that is so not right

Answer 7

yes i do. i think their are fathers out their that make great dads as there are mothers. my brother was a single dad for a few years and he was brilliant. his whole life revolved around his daughter. he always put her first and maneged to work full time too. i think all single dads should be give a chance. they should be aloud to share the children equally,ie split week, if that's not possible then given a chance to show who is a better parent

Answer 8

yes sometimes.. i think they believe that a child has more of a bond with their mother then father, only because 9 times out of 10 we do!!
but they do tend to make the wrong decisions, and i think they need to put more thought in to it!!
lifes tough and we have to learn for ourselves and try to educate others...

Answer 9

Yes! In many cases I have seen couples divorced where the father would provide better financially and emotionally.

Answer 10

no, I don't.
It is statistically proven that a child in its formative years needs his mother more than his father.
In teenage he needs his father more.
Early maternal deprivation is one of the key factors in psychoses and neuroses in later life.
Unless the mother is unfit,like 'oscared 111' said -eg an alcoholic or drug addict,custody should be given to her for the sake of the child.