is it OK to smack a child?

Question

what does it REALLY teach them, not to do it again..or that you correct things you dont like with violence?

brian?...instill fear?...wow thank god i aint your kid... you have the same outlook on women by chance?..and dogs?

monkey?...children dont have logic till later in life?.... lmao....damn im surprised they even manange to get up in the mornings.... lmao@ no logic....watch them play doofus

Answer 1

I disagree with "smacking" a child. I believe that many parents that result in beating up a child feels as if they are not in control. That being said, I also disagree with turning my head around when a child does something wrong. Many parents these days don't correct their child on time and then loose control of their children. Now, I'm not saying that an occacional spanking is not deseved but in an appropriate way. I see Nanny all the time and they have the naughty chair system and that works, but if you punish you child stick to the punishement and be firm, do not loose your class, you are an adult keep control of yourself and of your child!!!

Answer 2

I know you have had a lot of answers to this question but here goes. If you want to know what smacking is teching children then the first place to look is the area of SOCIAL LEARNING THEORY, this was a move away from the earlier behaviourists' idea of child development(hit a child and he wont do it again, give hime icecream and he will. NOW, social learning theory was devloped partly by a psychologist called Bandure, in a famous experiment he got kids to watch an adult beat the crap out of a doll and then gave the kids the same doll a few days later. RESULT, predictable the kids beat the crap out of the doll. He also found though that children will also copy more gental EMPATHIC qualities such as hugging and COMFORTING. WE have moved on since Bandura though but the knowledge has just shown us more and more that any form of aggressive behaviour will only have a negative effect on children. AGGRESSION breeds aggression and messes kids up. MODERN research (the last two decades) has shown us that when using agression (physical or verbal) children are likely to become self loathing and withdrawn or aggressive themselves. A child will build models of how people are with him, he will use this information to find out what type of person he is and how he should react to situations. SMACKING IS WRONG, it is banned in europe and in the UK if you leave a mark.

Answer 3

Yes it is...you cant reason with a young child so you need yo instill a small measure of fear that if it does it again it will get a smack, I'm not talking about a closed fist or anything exsseive but a small smack accross the back of the legs is needed to teach a child. Most ppl will give out about what I'm saying but that doesnt matter because I'm right

Answer 4

I think so, spare the rod, spoil the child!
Children don't have logic until later on in their life, you can't reason with or argue with someone who can not understand. I was hit when I did wrong, and so did my siblings.

It did nothing but give me respect for my parents, as long as when you do wrong you know it, and they show parise when you do the right thing.

Crime rates among children have soared, violent crimes and drug related being the highest - teachers them selves bearing the brunt of many attacks and it's illegal to defend your self?

Child rights are a good idea, but children should grew up with the idea that if they do something wrong, there is a punishment.

It should be representative of what has happened, maybe show a little anger in your voice and increase depedning on what has happened.

Not just kick the lil thing about.

Answer 5

Yes it is OK, if they misbehave or if they would hurt themselves more, for example you can either smack a childs hand or let them touch a fire/plug socket etc. and let them get seriously hurt. I would rather not have to take my child to hospital, when all they needed was a tap on the hand. It does teach them not to do it again and if you see them go to hit someone you stop them and tell them it's wrong, if the child is brought up properly then they'll know what smacking is for.
People who say smacking leads to violence, I know violent people who were never smacked and peaceful people (such as myself) who were smacked, that's just nonsense, obviously don't just hit a kid for the sake of it though.

Answer 6

I asked a local community policeman the same question once after my son (then 9) said he'd report me if I smacked him. The copper said he had 4 girls of his own and they get a tap if they're doing something they know is wrong. As for being reported by the child, he also said that if the police followed up every report made by a stubborn 9 year old they'd never have time to catch the real criminals out there, and the genuine complaints are always obvious. My son's a copper himself now

Answer 7

Oh boy, some of you people are really scary.

It's not okay to hit a child. I have two children who are very well behaved...but no child is perfect all the time. You want to teach your child the proper way to behave..hitting is not teaching, it's abuse.

THe naughty chair works for my almost 3 year old... with my 7 year old I have to take away privileges. But it is not okay to hit a child. I was hit as a child and I can tell you it was humiliating - I never want my children to feel the way I did.

Answer 8

i dont think a child should be smacked if the parent is at the end of his/her tether or just angry and cross because then they are not as in control of there temper as they would like to be,
i very rarely smack my child and it has to be for a very good reason and never hard its usually just the action that makes my son realise when to stop not the severity.
if im really wound up and cross etc then i leave the room to calm down before i confront him
the best punishment ive found is definately the naughty step to think and then say sorry (hes 5)

Answer 9

I think that the threat of a smack is as much of a deterant as the actual act of hitting them. I probably had a tap on my bum a few times as a child, and after that the counting to three technique taught me that you can not do bad things without concequences. There is a fine line though between hitting as punishment and out of anger. Although slightly controversial, I also think that men shouldn't hit children as they doen't realise their own strength, and a loud, deep voice telling a child off probably works just as well.

Answer 10

DON'T ANSWER THIS QUESTION IF YOU DON'T HAVE KIDS!!!!!!!!!!! How are you gonna take advice from someone with no kids? Smack your child, I bet they don't do it again. And they won't fear you (as long as you're smacking them, not beating them). I have a son and daughter. I am rougher with my son because he's a boy and needs to be strong. That's why you see these kids killing there parents or running away from home and ending up in prison where they get there azz beat because there to soft. Be rough with your kids in the discipline area, make sure they respect you. Without discipline and respect, your kids will go wild.