My husband family wants us to get our daughter baptised. My husband and I don't want to get her baptised and plus are religions aren't the same he is Catholic and I'm not. What so I do? How do I get his family to leave us alone?
2006-06-08 00:10:26 · 17 answers · asked by shellz1616 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You should do what you think is right by your child. You need to be very clear to your in-laws that you will not be getting your child baptized and that is your choice. Close the discussion. Let them know that you respect their beliefs and that you would like the same respect back.
Love & Light
Sharon
2006-06-08 00:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, you are obligated to do what's best for your child. You must do what's best for her; mind, body, and Spirit. I am sure you will see to it that she is welll protected, and well educated.
But why do you insist on ignoring her Spiritual Welfare? Your daughters Spiritual welfare is more important than her body and minds welfare combined.
It is the duty of a Catholic parent to bring their child up in the faith. This starts with Baptism. You must allow your husband to have his daughter Baptized.
If you are not Catholic, then you must not subscribe to Catholic beliefs. With that in mind, what harm would it do to allow your husband to have your daughter Baptized?
You may not be Catholic - but that doesn't mean it is right to prevent them from fulfilling their religious obligation.
What should you do? Worry less about your back and more about the Spiritual wel-being of your daughter. Allow her to be Baptized, maybe learn a thing or two about your husband and his family's faith.
If you refuse, you will be doing your daughter a monumental disservice, and even more harm to yourself.
2006-06-08 11:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Daver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have to be a member at a Catholic Church to baptize your kid there? That might be your "excuse for the family" right there.
Jesus said to "Repent and be baptized." If your daughter is a baby (and I'm assuming she is) she doesn't yet have the mental capacity to repent.
The only thing is that Catholics (most anyway) base their salvation in baptism, which is in no way scriptual. You may need some intervention of some kind to talk to his family.
2006-06-08 07:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to read in there own bibles, about baptism. lol. nah dont do that. they might chuck a sad.
tell them this truth:
Baptism, is not real unless the person being baptised is aware they are doing it. its a serious desicion that one makes to follow Jesus Christ and be born again. a new born baby, cannot be baptised, because it cant possibly make that choice. there are no children in the bible who were baptised.
tell them that you want your child to make the desicion for herself when she is older, this way it will be genuine.
you can always get your baby dedicated to God. this is just a simple church service where the pastor prays over your child, blesses her and asks the Lord to have His hand on her life.
his family should be happy with that. i think its a lovely idea.
as far as baptism goes? its not your choice, or theirs. its your childs. and your child needs to know what baptism is, and why we do it.
2006-06-08 07:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually the children of a marriage are baptised into the church where the parents were married ,if you became a catholic at marriage it is expected that you will raise the children as catholics ,the only other thing you can do is to have a private ceromony of dedication of the child and let her grow up and decide where she wants to baptised herself.
2006-06-08 07:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, allow me to say that I too believe that Baptism is a means of grace. Because of that, I would want the child baptized as well.
However, it is ultimately you and your husband's decision. While a parent's advice should always be accepted, you must make your decisions as a couple -- not based upon pleasing other members of the family. If you and your husband have decided to wait, then you should BOTH address the matter with his parents. Simply remind them (respectfully) that this is your decision, not their decision. Thank them for their concern and ask them to pray for the child. Ask them to be a strong positive influence on the child as he/she grows. While baptism is a means of grace (i.e. - a means through which the Holy Spirit works faith in our hearts), it is not a "magic wand"....nor is it the only means through which God builds our faith. Teaching the child what Jesus Christ has done for us is more important than baptism.
2006-06-08 07:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Seven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her decide for herself. Just tell everyone that your daughter has a mind of her own and when she is ready to decide what she wants to do than let her. If she wants to be catholic than that's her choice but if she wants to be your religion than that's her choice to.
2006-06-08 07:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sugar Cookie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be baptized means to be immersed in water, not sprinkled.
It is a sign that the person acknowledges their sin and looking to God to cleanse them and change them.
2006-06-08 11:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say, to prevent any animosity, just get the kid baptized. its just sprinkling with some water. nothing's cut off, there's no obligation to be catholic later, and she doesn't even need to know.
you'll be glad you did when you get your in laws off your back.
unless you want years of "you're condemning our sweet little granddaughter to limbo!"
that's the only reason i got confirmed. to shut my mother up.
2006-06-08 07:16:42 · answer #9 · answered by Aleks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank them for the input and concern but explain to them that it is not your belief and you and your husband have decided against it.
2006-06-08 07:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Quantrill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋