She has a boyfriend but his never mentioned the word marriage. What can she do?
2006-06-08 00:09:44 · 14 answers · asked by kays 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I suggest you to just wait calmly. If she's in love somebody indeed, she'd ask him precisely. Tell her and encourage her not to be afraid of asking his marriage. It's not something that made her shy. Yeah!, I think she loves her boyfriend, but she doesn't have her courage enough to tell him. By the way, she may think it's not the perfect time for marriage. Some people marry when they're 30. It's not too slow for her, so I suggest you to advise her, and encourage her. If she doesn't do as you pleased, just wait. He maybe ain't her true love. Good Luck and have a nice day. Enjoy your life and don't be too worry on something. Bye.
2006-06-08 00:17:09 · answer #1 · answered by little bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given that this is the 21st Century, there's really no reason why girls can't mention the subject to guys - or even ask! My fiancee was the one who started talking about it to me, and 10 months ago we got engaged and are due to marry in April 2007.
If the guy's genuinely not keen at the moment she shouldn't push him on it, not everyone will be ready at the same time. Marriage is a big commitment, and depending on a number of factors people may just not be ready - that doesn't mean they don't ever want to or that they don't love the person, but simply that the time isn't right for them. So if she mentions it, and he doesn't seem keen, tell her not to be too disappointed.
Neither of them should feel pressured into it. Marriage should be for life, so people should know that it's definitely what they want before they walk down the aisle.
Hope things work out for her! :-)
2006-06-08 00:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First she should decide how important it is to get married. If she really wants to get married and have a family, she should be sure, that her boyfriend loves her and would not mind to have a family with her. Sometimes men just think they have all the time in the world ahead of them and it does not even cross their mind that at a certain point the moment has come to make a move. Women have a better sense of time as we know our biological clock is ticking.
So, I think your sister could tell her boyfriend that she wants to change her life, have a family and find the person who would be willing to share his life with her. Then she could tell him that her boyfriend is also free to go on his way - she will not keep him, if he is not ready to make a commitment to her. If he loves her - he will stay and will make the move. If he is only spending time comfortably with her - he will leave her. At least she will be clear on the situation.
I know it is risky - but this is the only way to go about it, if getting married is really so important to her.
2006-06-08 00:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As her elder sister it is your responsibility to bring up the subject to the boyfriend. Tell him it is time to get married. (if he disagrees and wants to go on as usual, tell him you disapprove). Keep up the pressure on him to prepare for marriage. Tell him you and your sister are starting preparations for the wedding. See how he reacts. Most times men are afraid of commitment and will not take the initiative to take the next step. Family members have to step in in such situations. It is not to your sister's advantage to drag on such a relationship without culminating in marriage. Be serious and firm about it. He will fear and respect you for taking a firm and serious stand where your sister's happiness is concerned. At least he now knows that your family accepts him and wants him to take the plunge. No more dilly dallying.
2006-06-08 00:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no need to rush into marriage.... we have our whole lifes ahead to do that, and whats a piece of paper worth, compared to the love that you share with your partner!!
if you want to feel like a princess for a day... dress up and go to a fancy returaunt!!
2006-06-08 16:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister wants to marry her boyfriend, she should ask him. Simple as that. Does she really need you to interfere?
2006-06-08 00:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by xenobyte72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see.Time has not come to say marriage by him.Meanwhile you can bolt bedroom door from inside when you are at it.
2006-06-08 00:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask ur sis n his BF,do 1 meeting 1st,clear ask both of them and him also that he wnna merry n ask will he keep her happy forever? n if all seems good,means cast ,region,family,them i dnt think so there shoul be any problm,n u have to agree man.after all they have to live theire life each-othr so u dnt have to much bother them if all seems good.
2006-06-08 00:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by Dj Div 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait. before marrying, they have to make it sure if they're both ready and love each other.
2006-06-08 00:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by babypards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can she be single if she has a boyfriend??
2006-06-08 00:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋