i have being in love with this girl since high school in the year 2003.I told her but she said that she had I boyfriend and that our time will come.I did try to get over her but I could'nt.In 2005 when I was in my matric I happened to be in the same class as her.We could'nt stop looking at each other.She even told her friends that she can take time to tell a guy how she feels in order to see how serious he is.
The problem is when I told her how I felt she told me that she just could'nt be with me and that I should not ask her why.I did as she wished but we could'nt stop looking at each other.She would even be hurt when I try to find other girls.
My problem is even now I can't stop thinking about her.And the only contact I have with her is through a phone.
2006-06-07 23:12:19 · 29 answers · asked by tshepo j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to move on, I don't think that the relationship you long for will ever be. She obviously isn't interested in you.
2006-06-18 12:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by i'm_a_goodie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's never easy I'm afraid mate
You can't wait around hoping that you'll wake up "over her" one day, you have to try hard to think of other things.
If you know you have contact with her over the phone, don't use the phone to contact her unless you HAVE to... and that doesn't mean making up reasons to call her. If you don't NEED to speak to her for school work etc then it;s a good idea to delete her number, and the temptation along with it.
You can't stop thinking about her in the same way that recovering alcoholics and people who have quit smoking can't stop thinking about their addiction. You'll need willpower, thinking doesn't get you anyway, when you realise you're thinking about her, you have to make a mental effort to turn your attention to something else.
The best way, in the end, is to start thinking about another lass. We've all felt the same at some time, she's the most wonderful person in the world - but over time your tastes change, girls who don't seem as hot as she does right now will one day seem hotter than her, it's true.
If she says you cannot be together, then she won't be hurt if you try to find other girls. If she is or tries to stop you then she's out of order, and you can do without that sort of teasing and abuse. You can also do better than her.
Sorry mate, but time heals all wounds in the end.
2006-06-07 23:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Pip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i must say i feel for you mate, i know what it is like to have some one play you for a fool and play mind games with you, it really is heartbreaking and although this isn't nice to hear either, you really need to break completely away from this girl A.S.A.P as she really is taking you for a ride mate, and she now's it also, because of the way you feel for her she know's that all she has to do is call and you will go running and jumping saying how high should i jump and how far should i run!?!
So my advice is just to text or ring this girl and say to her that you want nothing more to do with her as you know what her game is and you don't have to put with the way that she is treating you as you can do so much better than that and you don't deserve to be treated in such a way. Then when you have done this you want to erase her number from your phone book or wherever you have it get rid of it, and she keeps on hassling you you really should think about maybe changing your number or keeping her calls/texts and get her done for harassment.(the easiest option is probably to tell her to forget about you and then to change your phone number so that she cannot get hold of you and then you want to get on with your life, find something to do to take your mind off her).
GOOD LUCK.
2006-06-21 11:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, you sound like you're being messed around big time. She seems to enjoy the idea of you fancying her and she seems to be getting as much mileage out of that that she can. Let it go u deserve much better, she'll only break ur heart more than she has been doing for the last three years. You will find somebody usually when u least expect it who will love you unconditionally and not mess u around. Good luck
2006-06-17 00:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by little pink dynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not easy,although i feel more communication is needed between the two of you.
in 2003 you told her how you felt and she said she had a boyfriend,do you know if she did or did she just say she did,but also your time will come.
in 2005 you told her how you felt and she said she could not be with you and dont ask why.
it could be she just enjoys keeping you hanging about,i e she does not want you but she does not want any one else to have you=power.
but i am not sure that is the case but be carefull of that,
you dont mention religion,could there be an arranged marriage or promises between families,and i think you have a right and to ask her why she cant be with you,what have you got to lose,you have not got her now,so you cant lose her.
mike
listener06y@yahoo.co.uk
2006-06-15 20:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by listener06y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can explain why she's doing so. She does have a good impression about you, but she's just not ready and not interested to get into a relationship right now. And ya, she's playing mind games with you.The best thing you can do is realise that she's not going to date you anytime soon and life goes on. Do try and find other girls so you can get over her. You have to ignore the hurt looks she gives you too.
2006-06-21 03:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by G K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How the hell can you love somebody you have never dated or been on a close friend level you plum. Are you 14 or something, get over it you will not find the 1 untill you're atleast 25, ok. Deal with it do not be week. gal hate that. peace
2006-06-21 05:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll get over her. I know it's cliche and you may not agree with me, but believe me if you learn to let go, you will get over her, someday.
When that day comes, it will be easier for you to reconsider the priorities in your life. A girl who's not yet your gf, isn't everything in life. Love yourself first. Don't you think you deserve someone who'll love you and appreciate your feelings and attentions you give her?
Besides, it'd also be good for her if you let her go. If you really care about her, let her find her true love. Don't force your love on others. She'll appreciate you more if you learn to understand her.
2006-06-18 00:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by annmohdali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is enjoying herself - treating you like some little puppy at her feet. She kept looking at you just to check that you were looking at her - she likes to think you are obsessed with her, it makes her feel good and powerful. One thing is for sure, she does not really care about you. Move on, find other friends, forget her - she is not the person you think she is, so what have you lost?
2006-06-20 12:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by fallen angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't see how not being able to stop looking at each other constitutes being in love. Until you have spent quality time with each other having meaningful conversations you cannot claim to being in love. What you describe is often regarded as infatuation. You really need to spend some time with her.
2006-06-07 23:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by Geoff M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you give her a ring or text ask her for her address uless you already know it. And ask her if you could become pen pals if that fails she's clearly not interested, so do your self a fava and move on. If you do find someone else and she is hurt then it's her loss.
2006-06-18 05:52:00 · answer #11 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋