when i found it out, I said to him we are over. He cried n said no, pls don't do it to him and give him one more chance.. pls let me no what should i do it now?!
2006-06-07 22:55:09 · 29 answers · asked by Steph 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he is unfaithful then he doesn't care bout you ignore your emotions an dump him
2006-06-09 02:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by wetnslippy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love your boyfriend, you might as well give him another chance but with a decisive statement that you will no longer give him third a chance should he do it again. This will scare him if he was only tempted before and for sure, he will avoid hurting you again. Generally, men don't cry. But you said he cried and pleaded that you give him a second chance. I think that he was sincere when he said that. You should be thankful that in stead of breaking your relationship with him, he chose you and not the other woman. It's a sign that he loves you more or he really does not love the other woman at all.
Upon reconciliation, do not ever discuss about his fault because men don't want that. If his asking for forgiveness is true (and only you know will know that), forgive him with all your heart. Be even more loving and understanding to him. This will make him love you more. Forgiveness is true if you will no longer be hurt by the thought of his infidelity. Try to overcome the hurting by thinking of his good sides. Once you forgive him truly, your love and support will make your relationship work and last. Smile.
2006-06-07 23:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not long together, then dump him. If he is doing something like that now at an early stage of the relationship then there is no hope! If however you have been together along time and truly feel it is worth another chance, then give it another go. It is esy for people to say GET RID but sometimes we all make a mistake. Maybe this was his? Dont let him off easy though make sure he understands he has to earn your trust and respect again and this time make him. If it ever happens again the Honestly, its time to let go. Good luck.
2006-06-07 23:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by Donna M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one again! This problem is the one that at some point in almost everyone's life they have to deal with [on some scale].
It must be very painful for you. No matter what anyone tells you, your the one left with the heartache and turmoil.
The options are limited to two.
I. Leave him, because once the trust [not love] has been removed from a relationship, then the relationship has lost it 'glue'.
2. Stay with him BUT be realistic. I love my b/f so much, there is not one person, one excuse, one reason, one anything that would ever ever, make me HURT him.
You need to clearly and calmly express your concerns to him. Yes, we're all human, capable of making mistakes. BUT don't allow yourself to become a victim. If he is committed to you [emotionally] then he must re earn your trust.
It can work. My brother's wife had an affair 14 years ago [they had been married for 2 years & were having serious problems], he had her back, the trust took along time to re earn. However, it did return and they love each-other more dearly for it.
Be kind to yourself. Listen to your heart first then listen to your head [the head tends to temper the heart].
GOOD LUCK
2006-06-07 23:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. I strongly believe you cannot go back when this happens. I've never cheated but been cheated on it's the only thing i could never forgive. It depends on your beliefs though. Once trust has gone out of a relationship in my eyes it's over. Could you trust him ever again? If you say yes give him a chance but if you say no. Dump him.
2006-06-07 23:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Rax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gettin back at him will only make you feel good for a short while and its likely you will regret doing it after. It really all depends on whether you love him, and whether you want to be with him. If he cries etc dont fall for it, make your own decision on what you want to do. At the end of the day, none of us are perfect however, you have to ask the question...why did he do it in the first place?
Good luck, contact me directly if you wish to discuss it further in confidence. x
2006-06-07 23:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by nicktheo2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him and move on. He was the one doing the cheating so now he must pay for what he did. Once a cheater usually it means they will always be a cheater.
2006-06-07 23:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by James B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How people behave is determined by how they think.
If he thinks like a cheater, he's likely to cheat again.
If you gave him "one LAST chance" you'd have to make sure it's because he's changed the way he THINKS, not just because he gives you a whole load of apologies and "I won't do it again"s...
2006-06-07 22:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Nefeco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about him, take him back. But he must understand that what he did hurt you and it is going to take a long time to get over it. But love conquers all, so I heard.
2006-06-07 22:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by Scottie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to be strong and finish it the only reason he's sorry and cried is coz he got caught! how would he have reacted if it was the other way around?
2006-06-08 00:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by blondebirdcrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are rolicking in sin and still celebrating it! It cannot be smooth unless it is Godly. Go it the Lord way, and your happiness is guarrantteed. period
2006-06-07 23:03:41 · answer #11 · answered by mikail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋