my sister in-law was so mean to me the time she was living with me i had a baby and she left me to look after a three days old baby alone and a year later we had a quarrel and she told me she has never liked me she was only pretending to like me cos of her brother.now she is pregnant with her first child and she needs some one to help her .but am travelling two weeks after she gives birth wat should i do ?
2006-06-07 21:56:56 · 36 answers · asked by cyndyds 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If i was you id be there for her, but also learn from past experiences, carry on with your plans. May sound bad, but trust me she sounds like shes good at using people. DOnt let her use you.
you deserve more. And she shud learn not to treat people so short and then expect to forget everything in a moment just coz she needs you. Selfish *****
2006-06-07 22:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guess ur relationship w her isn't that bad ..
Otherwise, why wont she leave her child under ur care when she dislike u so much..
At least she tried her best to like u, cos she love her brother.. By asking u take care of her child, it mean she trust u, y not take this opportunity to gain her trust n love, since u are afterall family...
show ur genosity to her...it also will prove ur husband didnt marry d wrong lady. D baby is ur relative also rite.
2006-06-07 22:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by HappYGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do your best to help but not at the expence of your own plans,
i know she sounds a bit nasty but dont forget its your brothers baby to and two wrongs dont make a right
you do the right thing and show your a better person than her and enjoy your time with your new family member, maybe once she realises how thoughfull you are she will start to apprciate you more
good luck
ps you sound nice x
2006-06-07 22:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can find the goodness in your heart, go ahead and help her. This may make her realize that she's made a horrible mistake, but do not have too much expectations. If you still feel uncomfortable or that it is inconvienient for you to help her, you do not have to go out of your way to do so. If you do decide to help her, just remember it is not for her, but for her baby. Good luck with this.
2006-06-07 22:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by FoodLOVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her what she and let what decision you make just be that you cant help her because you are tide up with your own world and not because you have to revenge for what she did to you. Advice her to find another family member since you will not be available and I hope she has a mother, then she can depend on her own parent for the help with her first child. Forgive and forget.
2006-06-07 22:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Q shows me that you are actually quite big hearted! How nice! However, having said that, I fear that this girl has made her own bed, and perhaps she should be the first one to reach to YOU. If she were to offer some sort of apology for her treatment of you, I would only then be inclined to offer help. Otherwise, as kind as you are, I feel that she might make you feel bad AGAIN, and you don't really deserve it. OK....good luck!
2006-06-07 22:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Till the time you can, just go and help her around and win her back with your love and affection. This way your hubby will get even more close to you and will help her realise her mistakes without you speaking a word.
2006-06-07 21:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by its_anoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think tell to find some else look after the baby if she going to be that mean to you.
2006-06-07 22:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by MJane21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont sink to her level. be there for her baby as long as you can. after all its not her babies fult that ur sis in law is a B I T C H
2006-06-07 22:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by predictable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont push it too much...but if you can help her in any way, do so...that way she will realize she was wrong about you...The past has passed...you both must start anew...after all, she is the sister of your husband...Be it somebody else, A friend in need is a friend indeed.
2006-06-07 22:08:02 · answer #10 · answered by bea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋