girlfriends and take our boat to water ski and wave ride? Its not that I don't trust him or his friends I just would feel better if I went, He said mom you can't that tell me he needs his space or is this the time he is going to screw up...His friends are all 18. What should I do?
2006-06-07 20:58:47 · 15 answers · asked by MissChatea 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He has always been a great kid no problem ever, A and B's..He has a job. His friends are great kids too, Insurance covers anyone driving boat, but its best that at least one of the 18 years old be on the boat at all times..No booz he has never done any thing like that. or drugs for that matter...Its just I don't want any girls out there with them that all....Is that wrong...
2006-06-08 09:24:13 · update #1
Boys, boat, and girls are all safe and sound I have seen some great pic one of the girls shard on her way new awesome camera (I want one). Any way yes the trip was a susses and they have all made a PAC when my son graduates in two years they are coming home to go do the same trip all over again they called the crossing of life becoming adults.. Had I read Mr. Cents I dont think I would of let him go..Death never crossed my mind..
2006-06-08 19:54:49 · update #2
Yeah, this is matter of trust and a matter of maturity. Does he always make good decisions? Does he get into trouble? If the answers are yes and no, respectively, then let him go alone. You are just concerned for his safety. But if the answers are no and yes, respectively, chain him up.
2006-06-07 22:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by BrianL 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It would scare me too!!! A 16 YR old and some 18 YR olds "hanging out" in a boat ski-ing, unsupervised? Thats a tough Q.
I would worry more about drowning than "chicks". It is a matter of maturity. Are these boys capable of good decisions when they are all together "cuttin-up"? Is everyone on the boat gonna try to "out-do" each other ski-'in , to "impress" the girls?
The water is a "deadly" place to make bad decisions.
If it was me, I would find a designated chaperon, or go myself. To HELL with what a 16 YR old wants! I was a dumb-sh*t at 16! And I did some dumb-sh*t stuff. There would be NO way I would let my daughter of 14 out "cruising" on the water!
(When I was in High school, I had some friends of mine die in a boating accident.
Story goes: My friends were not drunk, (Or on drugs!). They fished and ski'd until after dark . They decided to go home around 8:30. Little did they know, but , Jax. , FLA had been experiencing abnormally HIGH TIDES that week.
The bridge that they had gone under at 3:00, was too low to pass under at 8:30 , in the dark.
They were going way too fast when they hit the bridge. One boy was decapitated. All of them perished.
Recently, my bosses, sister-in-law, was in a terrible boating-accident where everyone died & 1 person had there face torn off.
A guy in my Bass-Fishing club, almost got "et" by a gator. Thankfully, he was armed with a 22 pistol. He was retrieving his "favorite lure" from a log. Gator crawled right in the boat with him!
The first time I went "Knee-boarding" I got a concussion and almost drown. I was "hanging-out" with my friends on my M&Dads boat. If I hadn't had a "buoy-belt" on I would have sunk to the bottom. It took them 10 minutes to wake me up!
I could go on and on.
BE CAREFUL! )
(PS: I'm sorry . It's a "sore subject" for me. If you believe your Son is mature enough, I say go ahead. Sorry about "freakin out"! )
2006-06-09 02:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Swamp Zombie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let him go, on a few conditions. Make sure you know very specific details about where they will be, how long they plan on staying there and the like. Whenever water/boating is involved, its best to leave a plan of action behind. Make sure at least a few of the people have cell phones, and that you have access to the numbers if the need arises. Ask him to call you once, in the middle of his trip, just so you know everything is ok. Just let him know you sincerely have his best interests at heart, and give him some room.
2006-06-08 07:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sinda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it depends on your son. Is he normally responsible and trustworthy? Is he experienced enough in the safe operation of the boat / waverunner? Is he legally old enough to be the primary operator of the boat on a public waterway? Does your insurance cover minors as the primary operator of your property, and will they cover one of his friends if your son is not driving and is skiing, and how experienced are they in operating this type of equipment? What kind of kids are his friends? Any alcohol possibly around? (If the answer is even remotely a yes, then yours must be NO.) I think you need that info to make a responsible decision. Remember, as the owner of the boat / waverunner, YOU are ultimately responsible for any liability incurred by he or anyone operating your property. I have 2 boys, I could trust one of them at 16 with something like this, and would not be able to trust the other.
2006-06-08 04:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they're gonna use the merchandise = the ski and the boat, better have somebody smart to watch over the boat. But let them go. Yeah, space is good, but in the presence of expensive merchandise. You should have someone watch the merchandise.
2006-06-08 04:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by Danny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must start letting go little by little. We never know if our decisions about our children correct. If you attempt to protect him, you may be getting into trouble. He will not be living with you much longer, enjoy your time together and respect him as much as you want respect. Just think, in a few years, he may give you great gifts; grandchildren and you will find great satisfaction. Let go.
2006-06-08 04:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 with 18 yr old friends??? i guess is better than no friends... I would suggest to let him go but emphasize the fact that you as the parent is giving him the trust that he won't do anything stupid... and if he does well you will know next time not to trust him.
2006-06-08 04:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by gonzalopiceno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, but tell him to make good choices while he is there. You want to build that trust with him. Remind him that trust is very important to have with someone, and once it's gone, it's hard to get back.
2006-06-08 10:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by s3foxy26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YA u should allow him.its OK.but warn him to take any bad step.and plz trust our son.
2006-06-08 04:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by raja rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go, but warn him that you make check on him just to make sure he is ok. let him know that you trust him, but its other people that might get a little crazy..
2006-06-08 08:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by girlygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋