Hi all, im thinking of asking her the "big question" and am starting to shop around for engagement rings. Im kinda old fashinoned and have picked out a very elegant solitaire diamond ring in a plantinum cathedral setting... I think its beautiful and also think she'll love it.... But since this ring is a ring for life, and dispite my openion, do you think I should take her shopping to discover what she really likes... Problem is, she'll start expecting it and my surprise ruined.... What are your thoughts....
2006-06-07 18:56:51 · 21 answers · asked by Will 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The only way to keep this a surprise is to purchase the ring on your own. Lets face it, if you take her shopping she will know what you are up too! There are many things to consider when when buying the perfect ring and some thinking on your part will help. Here are some tips, first of all have a look at the rest of her jewellery, get some ideas as to the style and color she likes. Think about what she does for a living and what her occupation is, this will help you decide on the mount and setting for the stone. If she works alot with her hands you might want to consider a mount that has a low setting for the stone ie. bezel set or consider a mount where the stone is protected. Color of metal is also a very important part, does she prefer white, yellow or maybe even rose gold? Two tone (two colors) is also a choice. Do some research on the metal of choice, look for durability, ease in sizing, weight and strength. You mentioned patinum? Platinum is very dense (heavy metal) and extremely hard causing less sheen after wearing. Platinum is hard to size and polish to it's original look. White gold is coated with rodium and depending on the wearer, the rodium can wear off causing the yellow gold to come to the surface. White gold is yellow gold alloyed with palladium and is harder than plain yellow. You also want to make sure that there is a suitable match in a wedding ring. I have seen many people having to custom make a wedding ring to match as one over a counter can't be found. For ease in a match, choose a ring with level edges and try various wedding rings with the engagement ring before you buy it. Stone size, shape and clarity must also be considered. If you go for a harder medal like platinum you should get the proper size to fit (sizing can be done but not recommended). Consider the fact of having children, pregnancy will often render a ring to small as will weight gain or loss. If you want to proper size without her knowing, take one of her other rings to jeweller for sizing but make sure that the ring you take fits on the same finger as the engagenment ring and the band will roughly be the same width. The wider the ring the bigger the ring size. I wouldn't suggest taking a friend unless it is absolutley necessary as surprises can leak. If you are still uncertain as to what to buy after your research, find out what the return or exchange policy is of the store. Remember to ask the store about their quarantee as with everyting in life, things happen and this includes jewellery.
2006-06-12 04:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by gailandnormhare 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
An engagement ring is usually a diamond solitaire, but doesn't have to be, you give this to her when you propose marriage (and hopefully she says yes) then the wedding band is usually a gold band, (sometimes and it is a good idea to purchase the engagement ring and the band together so that they will match). The engagement worn on her right had is moved to her left hand during the wedding ceremony and the bands (hers and yours--usually a plain round band--she helps pick out) you do not wear an engagement ring, the two bands are blessed during the ceremony and thus go on first being the most important, she then moves her engagement ring back on top of her band. Wedding rings usually mean the wedding bands.
2016-03-26 22:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her friends might be able to help you out-the only thing is you have to make sure you can trust them to keep your surprise too! My engagement was a total surprise (even though we were together for a long time!) and I wouldn't have had it any other way!
I agree that it is a hard decision as she will be wearing it for the rest of her life- but believe me my fiancee could have given me the ugliest ring and I would still have loved it!
It means more that he took the time to think about what I would like!
2006-06-08 10:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by monkeypox6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you go the old fashion way no matter what the most superficial of women say... every woman would like to hold to the idea that her man put time and effort in choosing the right ring....there are ways to know what her style preference would be with out literally taking her to the store...another thing is knowing her and her personality what do you think she would like.. thats what women want.... if you have given her ring that embodies what you feel about then you have been successful that I guareentee... Best Wishes and Good Luck!
2006-06-07 19:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by Gface15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ring you have chosen sounds beautiful, if it was me I would rather have my b/f pick the ring and surprise me, it is after all a gift from you to her and I am sure you know her taste so don't spoil the surprise, just buy it and pop the question. Good luck!
2006-06-07 23:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your kind of an old fashioned guy then you should pick the engagement ring. If you have taken the time to get to know her well then I'm sure you are capable of choosing the ring which she will cherish for the rest of her life.
2006-06-07 19:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by jasper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for her input and find out what styles she likes. Maybe even take her shopping to look at them, but ultimately surprise her. That's what my fiance did and it made it that much better. I knew he would get something I liked so I wasn't worried about it just excited to see his choice when months later he finally proposed in a hot air balloon! =) Just make it very clear to her that you will make the final decision but to be safe try to figure out what style she likes. Good luck!
2006-06-08 03:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by blueeyedlovebug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a local mall with a jewelry place in it.While your casually eating your ice cream, or juice walk past the store and ask if she wants to go look with you.Start out in mens rings and move on to the ladies.Listen to her 'ohhs and ahhs' without influencing her any.Then keep moving slowly and work your way back to the mens area just to keep suspicion off.Stay around the mall after your 'hunt' just to keep grounds cool.Good luck!
2006-06-07 19:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by Pork Chop 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get one of those temporary settings. All you pick out is the diamond and it comes in a plain solitare setting. Then, after the surprise, she gets to go chose the mounting.
2006-06-07 19:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My going to be husband asked me to marry him and of course I said yes. Later we both went to the store and he told me to pick out what ever I wanted. I then picked it out and he said okay!!!!!! When we went on a vacation to colorado rookies he then proposed to me and I did not even suspect him buying the ring that I wanted or anything. Your suprise will not ruin anything. You could ask her with the ring that he picked out for her then if she doesn't like it then tell her she can pick out any ring that she wants..... that will make her even happier....... good luck
2006-06-07 19:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋