my bf on an occasion or 2 demanded that we take this step.although i am not for it.i also love him too much.i am in a dilemma.what do i do ?it hurts to see that he doesnt support my decision.
2006-06-07 18:20:25 · 22 answers · asked by Buck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES IT'S OK TO REMAIN A VIRGIN. YES YOU SHOULD REMAIN A VIRGIN. SAVE YOURSELF FOR THE MAN YOU LOVE AND GIVE YOUR ALL TO HIM ON YOUR WEDDING NIGHT. THAT'S THE WAY GOD INTENDED IT.
IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU, HE SHOULD UNDERSTAND AND BE WILLING TO WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE. (YES...IT'S HARD TO WAIT) BUT IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU....HE WILL RESPECT YOU AND WON'T DEMAND ANYTHING OF YOU.
BESIDES....SOME GUYS LOOK AT IT LIKE THIS ...........
"WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE?" NOT SAYING YOU'RE A COW...JUST USING AN EXAMPLE..."WHY WAIT TO MARRY A GIRL WHEN I CAN GET SEX FROM HER WITHOUT THE RING?"
"MAKING LOVE" AND "HAVING SEX" ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS.
MAKING LOVE IS GIVING YOURSELF AND ALL YOUR LOVE TO THE PERSON YOU LOVE AND ARE MARRIED TO.
HAVING SEX IS JUST THAT !!!! HAVING SEX WITH A PARTNER.
IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?
YOU LOVE HIM, HE'S DEMANDING SEX. DON'T DO IT JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE AFRAID YOU'LL LOSE HIM IF YOU DON'T. IF HE DROPS YOU BECAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE SEX ........HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. NOT REALLY... IN LOVE WITH YOU...BECAUSE IF HE IS..........HE'LL RESPECT YOU AND WAIT.
HOPE THIS HELPS...
DON'T DO ANYTHING YOU'RE NOT READY FOR.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-07 18:37:55 · answer #1 · answered by LindaInNC 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfriend have been going out since January. Well back in March I gave up my virginity to him. He never did pressure me to do it at all. Having sex with him was totally my decision he never demanded me to. If your man is demanding you to have sex with them then he doesnt care anything about your feelings. He's a very selfish person. You can do better!!
2006-06-08 01:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's okay for you to remain a virgin! Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that you are simply not ready to have sex yet. If he still doesn't support your decision and continues trying to pressure you into bed, leave the guy.
2006-06-08 01:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by Arabella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. If you want to keep your virginity, that's a perfectly reasonable thing to do. Why put up with crap, and why make his life miserable? Do what you need to do for yourself, and let him go free to do his JOB, which, quite frankly, is to have sex with as many girls as possible before he gets roped into marriage.
There's nothing wrong with you keeping your virginity. There might be something wrong with you trying to make a willing partner out of your boyfriend, who isn't all that supportive. Find a guy who wants to empower your choice. Meanwhile, get rid of this one.
2006-06-08 01:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by jackmack65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok for you to remain a virgin and that's decision should not be base to your bf. it is more better to give to the person who'll be sharing with you for the rest of your life. you are just under pressure by your bf. he have to respect your decision. tell him that you're not ready for it and he have to respect it if he really loves and care for you and that he have to wait.
2006-06-08 01:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by babypards 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is great to remain a virgin
You deserve love and devotion to share with someone in marriage. If he or you place the physical gratification ahead of the emotional one you risk danger of losing all that is precious in love and a future together.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-08 01:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt support your decision.. hes not worth it! it shouldnt be something to think about and relationships shouldnt be based on intercourse.. it should be based on feelings and emotions. if hes demanding it from you, dont give in. your virginity is something you should cherish, because if you lose it to the wrong guy you will be very upset! dont do it until you feel comfortable youll feel better in the end.
2006-06-08 01:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by cestmoi! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have sex with anyone until you are 100% comfortable with the choice. If he can't support you and understand your feelings on this...chances are thats the one thing he is after. Try talking to him about how you feel. If he isn't willing to accept your feelings and wait I'd find another boyfriend.
2006-06-08 01:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by 87_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T let him bully you into it!!!!
When it feels right for you then you will know it is time for you to take the relationship one step further.
If he talk's or bosses or make you feel guilty until you say yes then you will hate yourself for it later. If he really cares about you then he would respect you and not put this type of pressure on you.
The bottom line is IT IS YOUR BODY. YOU DECIDE WHAT HAPPENS TO IT NOT YOUR BOYFRIEND!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-08 01:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Sue W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Bf you aren't ready to lose your virginity and that it hurts your feelings when won't support you.I think you should bring up the subject of(DUMDUMDUMDAAAAAAAAAA)Marriage.!!!Yes I said it,marraige.If he wants to have sex so bad,and you two lllooooove each other so much,why not?
2006-06-08 01:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by Myaloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋