since they think us teenagers dont no how to raise there grandkkids and they think they can do a better job and then they want to get mad cuz we say they can with them thats bullshit for real!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-07 17:59:26 · 79 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well I am sorry to hear about your problem. Do you live with your child's grandmother if you do maybe you need to be self supporting and get your own home. If you have your own home you don't have to put up with her telling you how to raise YOUR child! If YOU can support your family financially & are mentally there for your child then you shouldnt have to take any advise you dont want from anyone! You can be a teenager and a great mother .But you took this responsability now you must be an adult and get a job, home , learn to cook,clean,take care of a baby ,a home, bills ....Theres no more partys,friends,,staying up till dawn just because you want to...that life has now passed you by. Good luck with your mother in law. Call a truce...Ask for her help and not her criticizim. Everyone needs help!!!!! I just read your other questions and descovered that you are NOT self supporting. TRULY HOW SAD for your children .The childrens grandmother has a legal right to take the children and she should.They have no real home ,you have no income,How do they EAT. It takes alot to really care for a child.GET A GRIP CHILD...................you need this woman to help your kids STOP being so egotistical and get the help your children NEED!!!!!! Stop spreading your legs toooooooooooo.
2006-06-21 05:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by codysunfinishedlife 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be glade she wants to "help you", you are lucky! I am sure she gets on your nerves, but at least she is there for your children. All mother in laws are not the same, I had a very wonderful one before I got divorced ( I even miss her, very badly), so take heart she only has what she thinks is best for the child at heart . maybe she sees you making some of the same mistakes she made with her children, if this could be the case tell her next time that you and the other parent have to learn from your own mistakes or non mistakes. Good luck, oh, and give her a bit of a complement it might make things better!
2006-06-21 05:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by brandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who married at 21 but waited until they were 29 to have their first child, I think that you were too young to be a parent to begin with. I am so glad that I waited, was financially established, and was not dependent on my in-laws or my own parents and therefore could raise my child properly and that caused little interference from my mother-in-law. I know that you have already had your child and like me, I'm sure you wouldn't take anything for it. A child is a blessing and are ours for such a short time. Maybe you could prove your mother-in-law wrong by being exactly what she thinks you are not and could never be. Mature, independent, respectful, and an awesome parent. It's worth a try. What do you have to lose?
2006-06-21 05:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by Motorhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this requires time and patience. It will get better for you as you do get older. For the time being , just go with the flow and don't disrespect her even if she does disrespect you.After all she is your husbands mother. Some Mother in Laws are just this way. Not all of them are like that. There is an old saying that goes like this "two wrongs don't make a right" So, you be the bigger person in the relationship between the two of you. If she doesn't like you, she will push your buttons and try to get you to argue back at her just so she can have all the more reason to not like you. So, have patience and be as nice to her as you can be even if she is nasty and hateful towards you and one day she will see that you are more woman than she thought you were and she will grow to love you. Just give it time.
Good Luck
2006-06-21 06:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by swhm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I want to play devils advocate here. I personally dont have a great relationship with my mother in law. She is mentally ill though so I have a great reason for not having a good one with her. I wanted to give you some advise that some day I hope that you will be able to see. One day you are going to be the mother in law. Think about your child or children. You want the best for them. You want them to be happy and healthy. You want them to be loved and respected. When it comes to grandchildren the maternal insticts are still there for the grandmother. It is her blood and her posterity. Her lineage is with the grandchildren. It is hard to not be involved. What you and your husband need to do is set ground rules for grandma. Instead of getting defensive with her ask her for advise and help. She is probably just feeling like she is not needed any more and wants to be part of her sons and grandchildrens life. Being a teenage mom is very hard. I know I was one. If I didnt have the love, help and support of our families I dont know where I would be today. Now my daughter that I had as a teenager is getting ready to graduate high school. Time passes us so quickly. Dont miss out on things because you are angry and annoyed at the woman who loves your husband so much that she gave him life and love all through his childhood. She created the man that you love enough to have children with so she cant be all that bad.
2006-06-19 04:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by angelsforanimals 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well i was only 15 with 1st child from her son. And No one told me what to do with my own kid. I'm 23 yrs old now. And she always been a pain in my @ss. I mean i took him to all the baby check ups and bought diapers with my own money. I was lucky was able to get a job at a grocery store back then. Just speak up. Alot of old folks think that young parents cant take care of their baby's because they are not mature. Not everyone develops at the same pace. I mean there are teenagers out there who do so much better that actually adults. But if you dont have a baby yet just wait cause is hard as hell.
2006-06-17 05:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all mother-in-laws are bad they have very good parenting skills for young mothers to be they also need to be pointed in the right direction in order to become a good parent we all need that in our lives today whether we are older parents our selves as well. just a reminder grandmother knows best a grandmother offers calm but firm discipline to a toddler who doesn't get that correction at home to where some parents do neglect at times just because they are to busy with something else. what you are lacking here is communication, honesty, patience, compromise, & by all means mutual respect, once you start working on these catagories you will see a big difference within the family & you will be more appricative as a mother figure.
2006-06-21 08:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by mannygoody_2shoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to appreciate her in other ways. Try to learn something positive from her. You seem filled with negativity, if I understand clearly, you have a baby? She's probably just trying to help you, because YOU ARE SO YOUNG. And you are a teenager, she is an adult. She has more experiences, I will never have a mother in law. Most people say I am lucky, I just wish I could have met my fiancees parents...they both died a few years ago, before we met.
Um yeh...I just read your past questions...you shouldnt be raising children. Give them to your mother-in -law from hell, they may be better off. Have a great life.
2006-06-15 00:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I don't dislike my mother-in-law. I know my sister-in-law had a hard time with my mom though. She wanted the best for her son, so she treated her daughter in law like a slave/servant.
It's hard having kids when you are young. It's a long process and you sort of gave up your youth to have them. As for your kids, grandparents will always try to be helpful. Just try to be patient with them.
Try to find compromises so that both of you will win. The kids will grow fast enough and all this bad feeling will just grow and fester. So try to be patient.
2006-06-21 05:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by fran c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers do not need babies. Just stop hating or blaming mother-in-law. Why can't you look on the other side of the coin. She is just worried that you may mess up. Be understanding and learn from her whatever you have to. How on earth do you hate the mother of your husband. If she were your mother, would you hate her? You are embarrassing your friends
2006-06-18 12:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by TCHIKO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋