i am 22 years old. i am seperated and have 3 children. i recently moved back in with my mum aand sister b/c my mum has been un employed since10/05 and i can am the only other fam around. i am currently paying for rent, gas, food, cell phones, home phones,and all of my bills. i cant tell my mum deal with it on your own since she has helped me out but i am not saving anymore $ than before and i now have no room and sleep on the sofa. she is controlling and tries to raise my children. i want my husband back but him and mum butt heads and im always in the middle my husband is no where near perfect but i love him at what point do i say enough to both and what do i tell them?
2006-06-07 17:52:31 · 6 answers · asked by ansleygarcia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let your mother know that, her opinion about the raising of your children is wanted but, the final say is yours. Try to keep you personal life out of discussion about your husband and you. Paying all their bills is nice but, what did they do before you got there? If you think the marriage is worth saving then, work on it and either move back or get your own place.
Good luck
2006-06-07 19:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are mixing apples and oranges.
Why are you separated in the first place? Keep that issue completely separate from your supporting of your mother.
Also, what is your sister's deal? Does your mom need to get re-trained for a new job? Help them to pull their own weight so you can focus on your life.
2006-06-08 00:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you need your Mom and /or Husband to provide you with child care? If yes, your options may be limited.
You need to get your own place and live your own life as best you can.
I think you're a pawn and your mom and husband are playing you for all you're worth.
2006-06-08 00:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by MillwoodsGal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love your husband and want your marriage to work then just make it work. your first priority is to your husband and children. it's fine to help mom, but your children should come first. if this means moving back with your husband then so be it. just talk to your husband and work things out. your mom and sis were fine without you before and will be fine without you there again.
2006-06-08 01:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by mystiminx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her nicely to keep her opinions to herself. You are a mom yourself now and don't need her telling you what to do.
2006-06-08 12:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND , FIND YOUR OWN PLACE TO LIVE . TAKE CARE OF YOUR OWN LIFE , TAKE YOUR KIDS WITH YOU . LET MOM HAVE A BRAKE .
2006-06-09 03:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋