Are parents (usually younger parents) meaner to their kids nowadays or is it me?

Question

Pretty much every time I go to the Grocery store a woman (usually young looking, in her late teens or early twenties) is yelling at her kids: Shut up, Jordan! Put that down, Amanda! They don't even bother telling the child calmly to put it down and behave. They just start yelling immediately. They don't seem to have any loving patience for their own kids. Has anyone else noticed this or is it just me?

By no means did i mean all people in the described age group. I only meant that some people that age partook in the behaviors described above.

Answer 1

Well if that's the case then I guess you could blame the parents parents for not teaching them patience with kids or in having sex at such an early age.

P.S. I wounder if I'm one of those Moms (not in my teens or twenties). I can honestly say I do lack patience at the end of the day after cleaning house doing laundry and other chores all the while playing with my children keeping them safe and entertained while teaching them not to have sex at a young age, not to drugs, not to talk to strangers on-line or in the street, not to let a teacher or anyone else touch them in a inappropriate manor, not to shoot or harm another living thing.........should I go on. Maybe I don't have the patience they deserve but at the end of the day they are alive and live another day for me to love them.

signed,
loving, caring, worried mother of 2 in her 30's

Answer 2

Something about sparing the child has been lost in translation here. I believe that a firm parent can raise decent children to mature teens, but laws have been put in place with a blindfold on true justice preventing a good beating for attentiveness. My Grandfather warned me once that my hearing nerves were in my ***, and that we could start a program where I just go up every day and got my beating and it would continue until "morale" improved. Psychology itself is the underlying culprit here. Most "teens" cant even read these days and they are the future generation that we look forward to caring for our ailments... They are weaker by far. My mother was tough and with a look she could get me to do thing I didn't want to do. I have felt that pain and just as Pavlov would not care for it once more, being throttled is just the answer parents need for their lack of interest in the children they bear.

Answer 3

Nope... I have seen older parents and younger parents behave like this... I am a young, MARRIED parent. I am not like this... It all has to do with the way people deal with things and stress. And lets face it, the younger generation of people are just different than what older people are used to. Kids that grew up in the 90's are gonna have different ways of parenting! The world is more stressfull today... A lot more single parents and the like. That doesn't make them 'meaner' so to speak. I mean goodness, we are not even allowed to spank our childs bottoms when they need it! I believe that a parent should be able to do that if they choose to, as long as they don't go 'crazy'! I have also heard of people saying that some youbger parents tend to spoil their children more...

Answer 4

Now i would never tell a child to shut up but if u knew my nefew u would understand why we yell at him all the time. He is just very hyper doesnt even eat alot of sugar or anything heck he hardly eats at all and he will bounce off the walls it u want to kill him. Its the confinment i think and the not being able to touch everything like the child can do at home. They can be infurating after a long day of dealing with them i dont think there is a mom out there who hasnt at some point or another wanted to strangle there child just because its been one of those days and everyone has breaking points.

Answer 5

Maybe they see how the kids are starting to turn out nowadays and they think "not my kids" I mean you gotta admit parenting has gone a little soft lately, you can't spank your kids without having half the world thinking you are EVIL, now I agree there is a line (and a very fine one) between spanking and abuse, BUT you never know maybe you caught mom yelling at Jordan on a BAD day, maybe the kid had too much sugar at grandma's is on hyper drive (literally) and has BEEN told nicely to be quiet and behave, and it just hasn't worked, OR perhaps your right and young people just don't know how to discipline without yelling (I mean look at the TV, in sitcoms it's funny, this generation grew up watching tv and probably picking up on how to parent from TV). I don't know, I get more irritated at the women who say "Bobby don't touch that" (at the store) and Bobby is STILL touching that, Mom isn't even paying attention (or she weakly repeats herself OVER and OVER again) and doesn't do a DURN thing to stop Bobby from putting walnuts in the pistachios and peanuts in the almonds. She's teaching him NOT to listen to her (why SHOULD he stop there is no consequence other than hearing his mom repeat herself, and THAT'S easy enough to tune out). Personally I try not to bring my kids grocery shopping anyway, they just get in my way (and I mean that literally since I tend to pack the cart pretty full, and my son can't walk yet so either I carry him or get another cart, either way it's a pain so I'd rather make Dad stay home and watch him). By the way when I DO take my kids out (and I see kids behaving badly) I try to curb it before it starts by pointing out the "bad kids" and saying we don't yell or scream at the store do we? We don't touch things we're not supposed to (like that little boy over there). See how silly he looks behaving badly? See how loud and obnoxious that is? Usually it's people we don't know and will never see again so it's no harm making some kid out to be the "bad guy" Funny but I almost enjoy seeing that, because whenever I point it out to my daughter she almost instantly starts behaving like a perfect child, and I reward her with little treats (usually with something she would get anyway, like I tell her she can pick out her own toothpaste, or new toothbrush, or shampoo sometimes I'm cheap and it's candy)

Answer 6

I think there are alot of pressures on modern parents. Financial worries [raising costs of living, and education, to mention a couple. Then there's the peer pressure which can really effect how people feel in themselves.
And some parents [especially of under 5's] don't get any `time out' and it can really cause a lot of stress. Most parents are models of good behaviour and deserve a medal! Children can bring the most saintly person into quite a different persona!!
Ok.

Answer 7

I am 22 with 2 children and i love them very much and treat them very nicely. I never tell my kids to shut up, and my kids behave well enough to not act like a brat in the store. So not this young parent!

Answer 8

You're probably right... I think they have children way to young, before they are capable of developing patience of their own. What I see a lot of is the young girl just turns the responsibility over to the grandmother and the actual mother plays the role of big sister or something.

Answer 9

Not necessarily they are the kids of the same lady whom You have met in the grocery shop. may be a servant maid who is a care taker of those pity kids, I mean. Generally the mother of the child never behaves like that and what you have expressed is correct.

Answer 10

Some people have parenting skills, either they educate themselves or it just comes naturally. Some don't, never did, never will, and aren't interested enough to do better. Feel for the kids. They will grow up to be the nasiest people that roam the planet and will prey on those that have been raised lovingly. scary!!