I am gay and can't help it! I hate being this way! Will I go to hell?

Question

I know in the bible it is a sin to be gay. Ibelieve it also says everyone sins and every sin is as equal. I know being gay is a sin, but I can't help it. I pray for help from Jesus all the time, but I'm still gay.

Answer 1

as long as u know god, u'll go 2 heaven.... no matter what anyone says. good luck!

Answer 2

Praying to the Greek Jesus ain't gonna help. If you realize it is a sin, and truly want help, then you need to pray to God, not one of His servants.

And since being 'gay' is a choice and you understand it is a sin against God, then yes, you will go to hell. Why? Because you willingly continue to commit a sin that God has made quite plain is an abomination before Him.

Its like breaking the law here. If speeding above the speed limit is against the law, yet one willing and continuously do it - should it be a surprise when that person gets a ticket, fined and even one's license revoked? How can one stand before a judge explaining they cannot help but break the law and expect a light sentence? God will not forgive until the sinner stops the sin and Never does that sin again.

Answer 3

You should really see the move Saved. It is awesome, and it tackles this issue pretty well.

My advice to you is to realize that if you can't help it, then it is not your choice. You have to accept yourself. If Jesus made you, then he would have seen this coming. At first, people around you will be a little strange, but people who love you should be able to accept you. Remember, if you accept yourself, then everyone else will soon follow.

If religion is important to you, then keep praying. Show you are a good Christian, and that you are comfortable with yourself. The only way you can find happiness is if you realize the problem is not your homosexuality, the problem is that you have not yet accepted yourself. See yourself in a good light and know you have done no wrong. If you keep praying, you will find strength.

If you lead a happy life and have plenty of self-respect, you would be living a far better life than someone who was straight with no love for themself. Life is something that sometimes cannot be changed. Adapt with it, and learn to accept everything that makes you who you are; and how life turned out for you. And rent the movie Saved, it is a really good movie that explains my point even better.

Answer 4

I used to argue the problem that you face like this:
God did nto make you ga. That is a lie and you are just brainwashed or just don't want to accept it.
I realize that this is not the correct arguement.
However you think you were made, you need to obey God!
The arguement that child molestors, and people that practice beastiality, can be the same. They have certain desires that they never cultivated, they just always had them.
The Holy Bible states that the flesh wars against the spirit and that we must put the flesh under the ovediance of the cross.
I feel (there is that word again. it is useless, but we love it so) that I have a right to vengence, but God said that vengence is his alone.
Let me illistrate. you have a car. you want to enter it in a race. the sanctioning body tells you that there MUST be changes made to the car in order for it to race.
They require a fuel cell, racing seat with 6 point harness, racing tires, and no alcohol-based coolant.
You can argue all day long that your car was made the way it was made and it was not made a race care to those standards. You already have a gas tank standard and you have a seat belt and a very comfortable seat. You do not know what kind of coolant you have because you never checked so whtever is is there should be just fine, you think. and of course your tires came with a 70,000 mile warranty so why should you replace them?

Well the authority will not let you race. You must fulfill what is commanded or you cannot participate!

God makes the rules and, perhaps he does make some to have certain desires and perhaps wqe are molded by our environment to those ends, but in any event we MUST bow before God's will because HE said so!

Answer 5

In order to "sin" you have to deliberately choose to go against God. You know in your heart that you never "chose" to be gay. Just like a straight person cant change their preferences you can't change yours. Straight people assume that gays choose to be that way but they have no clue what hardships we go through everyday. If I chose to be gay I would have turned back to being straight the first time I was called a f*g by someone or been threatened with violence just for being who I am. By the way where in the bible does it specifically say that being gay is a sin?Jesus never mentioned it ONCE. He mentioned all other sins but never spoke about homosexuality. The ten commandments, written by God's own hands, doesn't even mention it! If it was such a big moral issue don't you think he would have made it really CLEAR in big bold letters? The only passage in the bible that SEEMS to denounce homosexuality was written by a MAN not by God and it states something like this "Though shall not lay with another of the same sex" or something like that. So your telling me if I nap and I "LAY" with my father or my brother on the same bed I'm sinning and going to hell? Please! Also people don't seem to mention that in the same section where it says this it also says not to eat pork or SHAVE YOUR BEARD. People tend to ignore that small part. Think of it this way, back when the Europeans had slaves they used the Bible to justify slavery. The same people who had slaves working in thier fields would go to church every Sunday claiming to be Christian. Do you think God liked that? So what does that tell you? Just accept Jesus in your heart and you will have nothing to worry about. No matter what anyone tells you, God loves you just the way you are!

Answer 6

This statement, "I know in the Bible it is a sin..." is an error. The bible does not "say" anything. The reader interprets what he/she reads in the passages, based upon many factors, such as what they have been taught, depending on what religion they were brought up in, or have chosen, and their prejudices/attitudes.

Never deny your feelings...you do not "know" that being gay is a sin, you BELIEVE it is a sin, but without knowing what "sin" means. To deny your feelings is to shove your creaturehood down into a hole, where it festers, and becomes a sort of spiritual infection. What sort of god creates you with these feelings, or the potential for these feelings, then punishes you for what "he" gave you in the first place?

Sin is nothing more than a choice, to act as if we are separate from our Creator, Who is infinitely wiser than the world has believed; it is a decision to substitute a pale imitation (the physical world) for the real life we have with God.

Answer 7

Just keep praying and God will help you through this. I would never tell anyone they are going to hell. That is not for anyone to judge, except God himself. I heard a story one time that might help you. A man had a strong desire to go to, well, dirty movies, for lack of a better word. He knew it was wrong, but determined in his heart and held to his faith to help him through. At first he couldn't even go down the same street where the theatre was. After a while, and much prayer, he was able to walk down the street, but had to turn away from the theatre so he wasn't tempted to go in. Then, one day, he was able to walk down the street, look at the theatre and suddenly, the desire was gone. Maybe you can try this. If you know that homosexuality is a sin, then you can avoid the circumstances that surround that life-style completely. Eventually, you may be able to help those who are dealing with the same problem. Just keep praying, steadfastly and with sincerity. If you stumble, ask for forgiveness and keep going and repent (meaning turn away) from the sin. If you have to ask Jesus for help EVERY minute, then do it. It can only help your relationship with him. Focus on the things that are positive about not being gay. I have a family member who is gay (for those of you who wonder, yes, I talk to him on a regular basis. He knows I don't agree, but I still love him and care about him) and he truly wishes that he had a child of his own, but due to his life-style, it really doesn't seem like that will ever happen for him. It is much more difficult to have children with this life-style, especially if you are male, for obvious reasons. There are many other positives also. Just focus on them and keep praying and eventually, you will see a difference.

Answer 8

if yu dont think its hell already then i dont know if yull ever make it bac to man hood ,look i know ya probly felt for this one chik so much that yu would say if i were yu and yu were me we would be doin the same thing which is quite normal to say to a woman that yu love,but to go beyond that is wrong cuz theres a major life just wont work that way problem, 1 no matter how gay yu are that will not change yur body 2 that is not the person where that feelin began ,three if its not naturel evolution by the works of god then its not right cuz there are things and secrets about our body that god will not allow us to find for the very perpose of life so if yur gonna be gay at least do it with the proper sex,man and woman enjoy what yur given and if god does not allow it in this life then perhaps in yur next life youll live on the other side,its like a seperated couple on which side does the child visit this time, so dont try to cheat yur future partner out of their turn

Answer 9

Please bare in mind that the bible is a book written by mere mortals, not God himself. The only reason people claim it to be written by God's word is because of just that... they claim it. What if Grimm claimed that the devil made him write Hanzel and Gretel? Would it be picked up by satanists and praised?

What you are suffering from is just something that happened during the developmental stages of you as a fetus. You are not a bad person. You are not a sinner. You are a human being.

The only thing that makes a person a sinner is the character of them. For instance, a lier or adulturer does not have good character and this does change if the person is gay, black, white, yellow, whatever.

Don't let anyone make you feel like you are less of a person. Jesus would never judge you fro something that is not your fault. Find comfort in yourself and your own character, not your sexual preference.

Answer 10

God made you who and what you are, so who are you to criticize His work?

Being gay is completely normal, natural, and healthy. Please stop berating yourself for something you did not ask for and cannot control.

You are absolutely not going to Hell.

Homosexuality is not a sin—only ignorant people would tell you otherwise.

I regret that your being born gay has set you up to face the prejudiced and bigoted, but take comfort in the fact that the number of those hateful and misinformed people is declining, and you live in a world in which exists a multitude of people that will accept you simply for who and what you are—gay or straight, no changes necessary.

Jesus loves you as you are, and so do I. Go in peace.

Answer 11

Do you live in the U.S.A.? The majority of Americans are Christian and believe being gay is a sin.
If you pray and repent to Jesus that is good but if you don't change your behavior than why pray etc.. but is this a behavior that can be changed? Can you change this behavior? If not, will good luck to you and hope you can be happy and not suppress yourself by hiding in the closet. No matter how hard one tries to hide a secret. The truth comes out and 50% of time when the truth comes out it is a good thing. I would definately seek counseling and if you really hate yourself seek pyschiatric help. they deal with changing a behavior.