my x-boyfriend of 4 years moved down the block from me and all of a sudden for no reason pushed me out of the house, told me i wanted to break up with you for a while now, and said if you come by i will call the police and told me it was over. he saw me at the bus stop and doesn't even acknowledge me ...but the day prior he told me were going to get married and have kids.. i am so depressed i almost ran in front of a train because i love him after 4 yrs together he just out of nowhere backstabbed me like that, and will not talk 2 me. I will not be able to handle it when he brings over agirl in the apt. I helped him get. i live with my mom and she will not move from this town, should i move away, but then I will have to leave my mom and she won't leave here..i just don't know how to cope my heart is already broken & im devastated to add insult to injury i won't be able to cope if i see him with another girl i am not strong enough. could u see the person you thought you marry with ..
2006-06-07 17:16:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i cannot cope seeing him with someone else i'm afraid my heart cant take it and i would end up doing something i will regret. should i take it that we are completely over?
2006-06-07 17:18:59 · update #1
PLEASE READ THIS!!!!A lot of us have had those same feelings and been in very similar relationships. It is definitely soul crushing. You feel like you have swallowed a sword and it cut all the way down!!! I am 45 now and still remember that pain if I try. But I don't because it all worked out for the better. I can look back and realize if I had not been hurt, humiliated, and cast from that relationship I would have had a miserable life. I would not know what real love was today or be able to appreciate anything I have the way I do.... Don't think it could ever be the same if he wanted you back. You would not be able to get this out of your mind and heart. Whats done is done. ... I know you don't believe it now but time is your friend. You know god may have wanted you out of that relationship, he may actually have a better plan for you.....There is nothing anyone can say or do to relieve you right now. Just go cry and cry and cry... you will get tired of crying and then get mad. That's when you know your going to be ok.........One day you will look at that man and see he was really not all that, and wonder what you were thinking and thank God he moved you on. It will not bother you one bit to see him with another woman, you can then look past him, maybe even feel sorry for the woman..Trust me.
2006-06-07 17:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to get a grip, sweetie. I read a couple of your questions and it sounds like this guy thinks of you as a trophy to hang on his wall. Once he gets what he wants then he's off to bag another one. That's what the "in,out, over" is all about. He must have some sort of a goal, like "I'm going to nail 5 new ones this month. Perhaps the thought of a committment scared him, and now he wants to get as many under his belt as he can. In a way you are lucky you found out before it got really committed, although from the sounds of it I doubt if he would have allowed that. The engagement ring was a moment of weakness for him, and he realized almost too late that he needs to score a few more hits. As painful as it might be now, it would only get worse. Let it go for a week and see what things look like next Friday. Maybe by then he will have "in, out, over'd with his latest victim and have dragged in a new one. At least then you will know what he is really like.
2006-06-08 14:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the best medicament for 'internal injury' like this. You can cry as much as you want, told yourself it was end. The next day, start a new life with that nice bright sunny day. It clearly show that he really want to end this relationship, he not worth it for you. There still have many new thing in your life waiting for you to explore. Don't force yourself, do it slowly and you will see the new chapter of yourlife.... Be strong.... All the best....
2006-06-08 00:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by SA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals wounds. Just give him his time and his space. Don't acknowledge, don't say anything to him, just leave him alone and pretend like you don't care and that you are better off without him. Let him know that you dont need him to depend on, that you are strong enough to stand on you're own two feet. Dont let him think you are weak and it bothers you. Just go on with your every day life doing your everyday things and move on and act like you don't care because that will hurt him.
2006-06-08 00:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry much. Forget the past and start a new life.
All the best !
2006-06-08 00:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by ausrg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes...Im sorry, I understand. I beleive it is totally wrong to live with some one one is not married to. Its just totally wrong. You should go to a good protestant church, talk to a paster, they can give you some very good advices!!! belive me its true.
2006-06-08 00:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry, truthfully he is scum, prolly lying to you for a long time. Go out with as many guys as possible!!!!! make sure he sees it. 4 years is a long time. he wont like it either. GO HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-08 00:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well get ova it its not hapenin 4 u anymore take up drugs or sumthing!!!
2006-06-08 00:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best you found out now instead of wasting more time.
He doesnt sound worth your effort
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-06-08 01:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds.
2006-06-08 00:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by sgtgregg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋