My 2 yr old baby will only sleep on the couch or with me what should i do.If i put her in her bed she will do nothing but cry her head off.Is she scared of something in her room?
2006-06-07 16:26:40 · 10 answers · asked by **Sam**[[loves someone special]] 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Try putting a night light of some sort in her room. It worked for my kids. Something soothing she can look at or watch until she falls asleep. I've seen spinning lamp in the stores and I wish they had those when my kids were small. Not a good idea to get her in the habit of sleeping with you. That is a REALLY hard habit to break.
An aquarium is something to think about, too.
2006-06-07 16:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by Living the Alaskan life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she ever slept in her bed? If not, it may just be too strange a place for her to be in. It may worth trying to sleep with her there first.
Then, I would let her cry it out. I didn't want to do this at first but I could not stand sleeping with my son any more when he was 14 months (it took him about an hour to fall asleep, often after bumpping his head on my nose several times...) We used the Ferber's approach and it worked. On the first night he slept by himself, my husband and I realised we haven't talked as much as we used to for a looooong time.
In case you want to know, my son cried for an hour the first night, 1.5 hours the 2nd, 50 mins the next 2 nights. Then he cried for less than 15 mins mostly just a few minutes for 2 more weeks.
2006-06-07 17:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by newmomv_2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem. My son who is now 5 yrs old did that same thing. It used to drive me nuts. I mean he kicked me and sometimes he wet the bed (not to comfortable).
Did you child sleep with you ever? If so sometimes they will want to keep on doing it. I actually put up a gate for my son and left his bedroom door open. Every now and than I would come back to make sure he was okay and reassure him that I am there and that I love him very much. There were lots of nights that I had to deal with screaming. His doctor actually told me to lock him in his room, I asked a social worker about that and was told that they wouldn't allow it, not that I would do it anyways.
I would try putting a gate up. If your child has any toys in the room and decides to build stairs and later crash his/her car through the gate, like my son did. I would suggest taking all of the toys out of the room. He / she will eventually get the idea that that is their room. Leave a night light and maybe put some soft music on. This helped to.
I used to lay with him in his bed and wait until he falled asleep only to have him wake up and run in the living room screaming. You have to be firm but do it in a loving way. If your child is scared of monsters a good trick is to go in his/her room and use a spray bottle in the area that your child thinks the monsters are at example: closet, under bed. Tell him that its monster repelant.
This should work. It did for me after about a week. They need to get into a constant routen (spelling).
Also to let you know, every now and than my son still asks if he can sleep with me. I tell him no, and I don't have to fight with him. His pediatrician told me that it is perfectly normal. My daughter who is now almost 4 yrs. has never slept with me and is wonderful about going to sleep. Its all how you do it from the beginning. Especially if you're a first time mother you can feel like you're being mean by making him sleep by himself. The one thing that breaks my heart is to see my children cry! But I had to stick to my guns, in the end it will be good for the both of you and if you're married for the three of you.
Remember you have to teach your child at an early age, but like I said do it in a loving and gentle manor.
Hope this helps!
Good Luck!
2006-06-07 16:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Nisi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
right, put her in the room, and stay with her until he falls asleep until she gets used to her bed. Everytime she wakes up, go in again, and wait until she falls asleep. Ater you have done this and she is happy, gradually leave the room beofre she is asleep, generally 1 min, and then 2 and then 3, until she cries herself to sleep. The next night start at 2 mins, then 3 extra. Will take a few weeks, but will be worth it in the end,. as long as you stick to it, and don;t give in
2006-06-07 23:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by gill 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for a baby to have a fear of abandonment. She is not old enough to reason, that when you put her to bed, that you will come back and that your not gone for good. Reassure her. When my kids were little, i used to put my coat by their bed, because i could not leave with out my coat... that worked when they got older.When they were small, my husband and I would allow the kids to sleep in their little sleeping bags next to the bed, we would put them in their own beds when they were asleep. Remember, this stage does not last forever.... they grow up so fast..Before you know it they won't want you to into their rooms anymore, let lone sleep with you.
2006-06-07 16:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by mischa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We just let our son sleep with us if he wants to. He slept with us exclusively until he was 2 and then we let him pick out his own big boy bed. Occasionally he will say he wants to go to sleep in our bed but usually he starts out in his bed and crawls into bed with us around 3. It doesn't even wake us up anymore. It works well for us because it gives my husband and I a little alone time at night and then a little snuggle time in the morning with the baby before my husband has to get ready for work. Just try to enjoy it. They are only that little for such a short time.
2006-06-07 18:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jenness M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have kind of the same problem with my 18 month old, because I let her sleep with me, but what I'm doing is that I move her toddler bed to my bedroom, so when it comes bedtime I read a book to her, talk to her about sleeping in her bed, rock her and when she falls deeply sleep I will put her on her bed, sometimes she wakes up and notices that she's not with me, sometimes she cries and sometimes she just talk to me, but I know that if I'm consistent her behavior will change and that's the KEY to be CONSISTENT if they cry, you may feel guilty in the beginning, but is definitely good for them and for us, we have to be strong because when the time to go to preschool comes we will be prepared to let go and they will know that we are doing it for their own good and that they have to.
2006-06-07 18:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jacquie A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her cry herself to sleep a couple of times, or lay down with her and sneak out after she falls asleep. I had the same problem, after a couple of tries she learned to sleep alone and not be afraid.
2006-06-07 16:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by karrie k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, she has you well trained. She crys you come. You don't put her near you at night she crys. You have to turn and be the trainer and the teacher teaching her that she must be in her bed. You do this by enforcing her going into bed. She will learn it is ok to go to bed in her own bed. You must stricly inforce this or they will keep crawliing back into your bed.
2006-06-07 16:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My three year old is the same way......I just allow her to sleep with me........
2006-06-07 16:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋