Why is it that I allow my family and my BF to continuously belittle or demean me? When they get upset about something they turn it on me and always call me "stupid"! I try to let it roll off my back, so to speak, but if I am that intelligent it shouldn't hurt right? Well it does. How can I stop these people from being verbally abusive? As the saying goes: Hit me if you want, the bruises go away, but words you throw in anger are always here to stay! Help!
2006-06-07 16:06:41 · 14 answers · asked by angel_browneyes_59 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My apologies to those who pointed out that I misspelled valedictorian. SHEESH!
2006-06-07 20:01:47 · update #1
Being intelligent has nothing to do with your feelings. You are a person just like they are. They verbally abuse you and you have to defend yourself. Most likely you may be too nice and caring, so they take advantage of that. In fact, it sounds more like they are jealous that you are smarter than them. If you let them continue this, you will develop a low self esteem and then think then allow others to do the same. Start speaking up for yourself. If they say something to hurt your feelings tell them exactly what it is that they said to hurt your feelings and to stop. Also, you can't change them, but you can protect yourself by limiting the amount of time you spend with them. Make some new friends who respect you as a person; believe me there are some out there. And don't forget to spend some quality time with yourself. A good way to start is to start chatting with some positive people and then move to meeting some. If you keep going in the direction you are, you'll be the one continuing to hurt, and they will be just fine. Remember to love yourself and do things for yourself. There is no one in this world worth taking a physical or verbal abuse from. I hope this help, but remember you have to make a change for the better and for YOURSELF. LOVE YOURSELF. TAKE CARE.
2006-06-07 16:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by LovesVanilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 04:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your I.Q has nothing to do with your personality. Your bf should be supportive of you in everything that you do. Maybe it's the way you act. Don't allow him to treat you this, he should have more respect than that. Don't let it roll off your back. Stand up for you. Go get a job with your I.Q and get away from them. It's hard to hold a person down when they are not there.
2006-06-07 17:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just learned how to avoid negative comment. First of all, you have to believe in yourself. When they call you stupid. say "really". I don't accept negative comment because I am not a stupid. if they keep going just turn around and repeat to yourself any affirmation such as:" I am smart" "I am proud of myself." Remember all your success in your life. A graduation is an achievement that not everybody can get. Keep going with your life. Don't put attention Good luck! I believe you family don't have a degree, because they shouldn't put negative thought in your brain.
2006-06-07 16:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Face 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, your IQ has nothing to do with it. It's the way you approach people, handle situations, and solve everyday problems. Do they really call you "stupid" or you feel they think you're stupid? Because there's a huge difference. I would try to talk to them (separately) about your feelings when they call you "stupid". Tell them how you really feel, maybe they think that since you're smart that you feel you're "IT." Tell them it's not the case (if it really isn't) and tell them how you would like to be treated from now on. Good luck!
2006-06-07 16:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by goodgirl2484 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them in a calm manner that your feelings are hurt by the things they say to you. Intellect and emotion are 2 different things tht we tend to get mixed up. Sounds to me like they are jealous of you and your accomplishments. Also sounds to me like they are not very emotionally mature. You'll be going away to school soon, right???? Believe me, you never miss a good thing until it's gone and they will treat you differently when you visit home....Take care
2006-06-07 16:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are intelligent, doesn't mean you don't have feelings. I would let them know how they are making you feel. If your bf continues, ditch him. You don't need that in your life. Your family you don't have to hang around that much, if you have already graduated. Unless you are planning on living with them while you go to college....
2006-06-07 16:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being intellegent doesn't mean people are going to be nice to you. If you want verbal abuse to stop, you have to stand up for yourself. Tell them how you feel and if they don't change, distance yourself from those people. Some people do it without even realizing it, especially when it comes to name calling.
2006-06-07 16:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are such a snub bragging about you IQ no wonder people around you get sick of it. Point and case you are not as smart as you think you are! Your social IQ needs some work
2006-06-07 16:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, just continue to rub it in that you are much smarter than they are and that you are an IQ162 and valedictorian or whatever, and you'll be fine.
2006-06-07 17:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋